Adulting 101 The Positive Pants Podcast

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Adulting 101
 
I’m always talking about how the things I love to teach most I consider ‘humaning 101’.
 
But I want to talk about the elephant in the room that comes along with that. 
 
And that is, ‘Adulting 101’.
 
Why?
 
Because in one week I had a total of 7 people say the same words to me. ‘I really thought I’d have my sh1t together by now’. 
 
These people, some of my favourites, beating themselves up because for some reason they believe that by a certain age we’re supposed to have everything clicked into place and know what we’re doing.
 
And in all honesty, nothing could be further from the truth.
 
I saw a quote that I loved recently and I'm sorry I can’t give credit to the original creator because I can’t find it but it was ‘I used to think adulthood was one crisis after another. I was wrong. Multiple crises. Concurrently. All at once. All the time. Forever.’
 
Yes it made me lol but I actually think this can spark a really important conversation. 
 
I’ve said it 1000 times that so much of ‘the work’ is simply learning how to deal with the inevitable stuff that life throws at you, and how reframing each of those things as growth opportunities can hugely help.
 
To live a happy and fulfilling life we MUST let go of the notion that that is what life is supposed to feel like all of the time.
 
It’s just not.
 
So much of the healing work is about breaking the patterns of historic triggers, recalibrating and rewiring neural pathways and your nervous system and constantly creating a new baseline of safety in your body and increasing your window of tolerance.
 
Literally increasing your capacity to cope with what life throws at you. 
 
Life IS going to throw things at you. 
 
You ARE going to be tested. 
 
I believe that learning to not see challenges as big, bad, scary things but things that we breathe through and grow through.
 
I’m so grateful for the work I do and the knowledge I have around how to do this because it genuinely is easier than most people think, which is why I'm always hammering home to go back to basics and prioritise the basics. 
 
I’m definitely not saying it’s always easy, especially at the beginning, but it is simple.
 
Learn to regulate your emotions and your nervous system and your life WILL get better, easier, happier, more calm.
 
That’s what I believe our priority is when we’re talking about ‘adulting’. It makes all the difference. 
 
Think about the level of responsibilities that grow as we get older. 
 
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