How To Make Friends As An Adult The Positive Pants Podcast

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How To Make Friends As An Adult
 
I wanted to follow on from last week's episode around how to navigate friendship break ups as an adult with how to make some new ones!
 
I know a lot of people struggle with this, for some reason it can just feel harder as an adult.
 
For all the introverts and enneagram 5’s out there going nooooooo I don’t want MORE people to deal with, sorry not sorry!
 
Humans are social creatures, we seek to belong somewhere. That can look totally different for different people. It could be that one person you know has your back, it could be sharing interests, family, community etc. 
 
Our growth and development lies in our interaction with others.
 
A huge way we heal is relationally. We can co-regulate with other people. Our emotions are contagious. 
 
Friendships form a hugely important factor in that. 
 
There are countless studies on the positive effect of friendships on depression, our health and well-being. 
 
Many people refer to their friends as ‘chosen family’. 
 
But how do you do find them as an adult?
 
Some obvious ways to find some new friends is through work. Remote working has caused a fair few issues in this respect because it’s hugely difficult to form bonds with people if you’re on your own most of the time. 
 
Companies have recognised this and are adapting with many moving to a hybrid model and essential days in the office. 
 
But if you work for yourself it’s even more important to make sure you’re doing what you can to connect with like minded people.  This is where networking events come into play. 
It can be incredibly lonely running your own business so the first thing I did was make sure I was always meeting new people and I've made friends for life through it. 
 
There’s something magical about just being around people who think in a similar way to you and want to achieve similar things that makes everything easier and faster. 
 
You will not be surprised when I say that having a good level of self awareness is really going to help you with making new friends as an adult. 
 
Having a clear understanding of your own boundaries, interests, priorities, values, what makes you happy, what makes you sad, what’s important to you etc. What would you love to learn or do more of?
 
This is all so important in being able to understand your own behaviour within a new friendship and also who might be good or…less good for you.
 
Embrace new hobbies and interests and don’t fear being really bad at new things…because let’s be honest, you