Recovery from Coercive Control Saira Khan

Saira Khan is a psychologist and a human rights advocate.
Her area of interest is in mental health and recovery from trauma. She's also has lived experience of coercive control.
In this episode Saira introduces herself and explains why she has created this podcast series.
We hope this podcast has been helpful in your journey to understanding what has happened to you and provided some new insights and perhaps, hopefully even helped you feel less alone.
Any feedback, helpful suggestions or ideas on what you would like to hear more about are very welcome.
Please get in touch on email saira@mendality.com or via the website mendality.com


Copyright 2023 Saira Khan

The first step in recovery is understanding what has happened to you.
The next is making sense of what has happened to you, before you accepting that this has actually happened.
And you can't start that first step until you know what coercive control actually is.
In this episode Saira explores what coercive control is so you can recognise it happening.
Duluth Wheel - In this episode Saira talks about the Duluth Wheel. This is
We hope this podcast has been helpful in your journey to understanding what has happened to you and provided some new insights and perhaps, hopefully even helped you feel less alone.
Any feedback, helpful suggestions or ideas on what you would like to hear more about are very welcome.
Please get in touch on email saira@mendality.com or via the website mendality.com


Copyright 2023 Saira Khan

Recovery from coercive control is possible.
In this episode Saira explores how she works with survivors and the stages of recovery.
Of course every survivor has their own story and it's not fair to generalise across everybody's experience but there are similarities in how people do recover.
Saira's work with survivors is based on Judith Herman and her stages of recovery. And as you'll hear, more often than not, recovery is not linear - it's more like a spiral.
Trauma and recovery : Judith Lewis Herman : Free Download, Borrow, and Streaming : Internet Archive - Saira's work with survivors is based on Judith Herman's work and in particular this book.
We hope this podcast has been helpful in your journey to understanding what has happened to you and provided some new insights and perhaps, hopefully even helped you feel less alone.
Any feedback, helpful suggestions or ideas on what you would like to hear more about are very welcome.
Please get in touch on email saira@mendality.com or via the website mendality.com


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For people on the outside of abusive relationships it can be very confusing to see survivors return to the person who has harmed them.
And it's often confusing for the survivor too, this desire or urge to go back to the person who has hurt them.
In this episode Saira examines why this might happen.
Harlow YouTube Video - This is the monkey experiment that Saira talks about in this episode. Please note these you may find the experiments upsetting. ALEXANDRA STEIN Ph.D. Understanding Cults and Extremist Groups - storage - In her book Terror Love and Brainwashing, Alexandra Stein explains how in this confused state, this disorganized attachment that's created that we can't think clearly. And internally there's a conflict. That causes one to collapse mentally, and we're more easily prone to adopt what others around us are telling us, because psychologically it's just easier.

We hope this podcast has been helpful in your journey to understanding what has happened to you and provided some new insights and perhaps, hopefully even helped you feel less alone.
Any feedback, helpful suggestions or ideas on what you would like to hear more about are very welcome.
Please get in touch on email saira@mendality.com or via the website mendality.com


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Much of the research around survivors of coercive control is grim and dark according to Saira.
So in this episode she is sharing her thoughts around post-traumatic growth.
Of course survivors, including Saira herself, have been through grim and dark times but they also have a real strength.
Having said that it's important to note that post-traumatic growth does not mean that the crisis or the trauma that was experienced was worth experiencing in any shape or form, but the gains that happened were an unintended consequence of this horrific event.
Post-Traumatic Growth Inventory
We hope this podcast has been helpful in your journey to understanding what has happened to you and provided some new insights and perhaps, hopefully even helped you feel less alone.
Any feedback, helpful suggestions or ideas on what you would like to hear more about are very welcome.
Please get in touch on email saira@mendality.com or via the website mendality.com


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After a crisis everything can feel like a big ball of distress. Everything feels as though it is spilling out and it can be hard to make sense of what is happening internally.
To help with this Saira uses mindfulness.
In this episode she explains what mindfulness is and why it's so helpful in recovery from a psychological perspective.
Of course as with every tool in the recovery toolkit it doesn't work for everybody. Trust your judgment and intuition.
Presilienz | Mindfulness Closer To People From Various Walks Of Life - Saira and Nhi teach mindfulness courses based on and following the Oxford Mindfulness Foundation curriculum. Sign up for courses at this website.Amishi Jha - This is the podcast by Amishi Jha mentioned by Saira in this episodeResources & Free Audio Practices - Oxford Mindfulness Foundation - These are the resources from the Oxford Mindfulness Foundation mentioned by Saira in this episode.
We hope this podcast has been helpful in your journey to understanding what has happened to you and provided some new insights and perhaps, hopefully even helped you feel less alone.
Any feedback, helpful suggestions or ideas on what you would like to hear more about are very welcome.
Please get in touch on email saira@mendality.com or via the website mendality.com


Copyright 2023 Saira Khan