NewSong Foundations Chris Nesbitt

NewSong Foundations Episode 12 — Nuts and Bolts: This is our most practical vision-casting session, with Chris and Tiffany sharing hands-on pragmatic answers to such questions as:
What is expected of you as a leader?What do our weekly gatherings look like?What are some of our critical priorities?What does our culture look like?

Tips, strategies and tools for discipline… that’s the focus of this final session in parenting 101, including topics such as evaluating the difference between childishness and foolishness, how and when to bring discipline, warnings vs threats vs grace, bribes vs goal incentives, and more. This final session is lengthy because it also includes a helpful Q&A session covering topics such as how to deal with friends who are not in agreement, and where Christians should or should not be raising their kids. (See comprehensive list of recommended resources below.)

Topics covered in this session:
 -Wise in their own eyes
 -Bringing both the rod AND reproof
 -Never bring discipline is anger or with sarcasm
 -Always bring discipline with love
 -Natural vs structured consequences
 -Repentance vs regret
 -If true learning did not occur, the correction was not effective 
 -The discipline flow chart:
    -Evaluating foolishness vs childishness in light of:
       -Age appropriateness        -Warnings vs threats       -warnings vs grace       -frequency of the offense
    -Loss of privilege
    -Hard work
    -Spankings
    -The importance of humility
    -5-min warning
    -The interrupt rule
    -Bribes vs goal incentives
 -Repentance, restoration and forgiveness
 -Q&A:
    -What is repentance is not genuine?
    -What if friends and even parents are against your decisions?
    -What about manipulative children?
    -What about extreme shyness or anxiety?
    -How is it passable to make time for all this?
    -What if you live in a terrible place to raise kids?

Parenting 101 Resources 
All Ages: 
Glow Kids by Nicholas Kardaras 
The Five Love Languages of Children by Gary Chapman and Ross Campbell 
Raising Unselfish Children in a Self-Absorbed World by Jill Rigby 
The Read-Aloud Family: Making Meaningful and Lasting Connections with Your Kids by Sarah Mackenzie 
Family Night Tool Chest Series by Jim Weidmann and Kurt Bruner 
Parenting: The 14 Gospel Principles That Can Radically Change Your Family by Paul David Tripp 
Ages 2-4: 
On Becoming Toddler Wise by Gary Ezzo and Robert Bucknam
Temper 
Your Child’s Tantrums by Dr. James Dobson 
The Mission of Motherhood by Sally Clarkson 
The Ministry of Motherhood by Sally Clarkson 
The “If/Then” chart & the “Blessing” chart by Pam Forster 
Ages 4-10: 
*The Children’s Book of Virtues by William J. Bennett 
Shepherding a Child’s Heart by Tedd Tripp 
Instructing a Child’s Heart by Tedd Tripp and Margy Tripp 
Parenting isn’t for Cowards by Dr. James Dobson 
Raising Giant Killers by Bill Johnson 
On Becoming Child Wise by Gary Ezzo and Robert Bucknam 
Parenting with Love and Logic by Foster Cline 
For Instruction in Righteousness by Pam Forster 
*PragerU for Kids Videos/Resources 
Ages 10-13: 
*The Fallacy Detective by Nathaniel Bluedorn 
*The Thinking Toolbox by Nathaniel Bluedorn 
*The Book of Virtues by William J. Bennett 
*The Dangerous Book for Boys by Hal Iggulden 
*Beautiful Girlhood by Karen Andreola 
Preparing for Adolescence by Dr. James Dobson 
On Becoming Pre-Teen Wise by Gary Ezzo and Robert Bucknam 
Preparing Your Son for Every Man’s Battle by Steven Arterburn and Fred Stoeker 
Ages 13-18: 
**Do Hard Things: A Teenage Rebellion Against Low Expectations by Alex and Brett Harris 
Parenting Teens with Love and Logic: Preparing Adolescents for Responsible Adulthood by Jim Fay and Foster Cline 
On Becoming Teen Wise by Gary Bauer and Robert Bucknam 
Keep Your Love On by Danny Silk 
*Moral Revolution by Kris Valloton 
*Every Young Man’s Battle by Steven Arterburn and Fred Stoeker 
*Radical Together by David Platt 

*For parents and child to read together 
**For child to read alone

This third session is packed with conceptual and practical tools, as Chris and Tiffany Nesbitt discuss conflict resolution and introduce principles such as childishness vs foolishness, choices/rights/privileges, good/better/best and first time obedience. Resources cited include:
Parenting teens with Love and Logic, by Foster Cline and Jim Fay
On Becoming Teen Wise, Gary Ezzo

In this second session, Chris and Tiffany Nesbitt continue with foundational parenting principals including identity, love languages, standards and the moral warehouse. Several recommended books are mentioned, including these:
Margin, by Richard Swenson
On Becoming Childwise, by Gary Ezzo and Robert Buckham 
Shepherding a Child’s Heart, Tedd Tripp
Instructing a Child’s Heart, Tedd and Margy Tripp
Family Night Tool Chest (series) A Heritage Builders Book, by Jim Weidmann 
Educating the Wholehearted Child, by Clay Clarkson and Sally Clarkson
The Ministry of Motherhood, by Sally Clarkson
The Mission of Motherhood, by Sally Clarkson

As parents, our goal should be that we want our kids to display the glory of God. But how do we get there? In this first of four sessions on parenting, the foundation is laid with general concepts and big-picture perspectives, so that specific tools and methods can later be added. Chris and Tiffany Nesbitt focus this session on the subjects of avoidance mentalities and the two types of parenting extremes; authoritarian and permissive. The recommended resources mentioned are:
1. Parenting: The 14 Gospel Principles That Can Radically Change Your Family By Paul David Tripp
2. For Instruction in Righteousness By Pam Forster 

Prophecy 102 builds on the foundation of the introduction to prophecy (101) with a challenge to grow in maturity in this gift. Moving us beyond simple words of encouragement and into greater specificity, the teaching introduces practical tools and concepts to help us more readily hear and convey the Father’s heart of love for those along our path.