Us and Kids: Parenting and marriage coaching with therapist, Jan Talen Jan Talen

Values are extremely valuable when it comes to understanding others.  They are also very valuable when it comes to communicating as a parent and within our marriages.   

But, we have to start with defining a value, and then understanding that how we live out that value will also impact how others (kids, spouses/partners) build relationships with us.  

If we value kindness, but are rude to those we don't know, or diss our spouse in public, then others will certainly wonder if they can trust the kindness from us as having integrity. Certainly, who we say we are is far more impactful when we also live into that identity. 

So, our show today is about values, and how to live them well so that our kiddos can also develop the identity and character that is strong and true. 

Listen in, share it with a friend, and use a tip or two for becoming more of your best self!

Happy Father's Day!  

Although, to be truthful, Dad's are needed everyday!  And so, today, we talk with 3 dads...all with 3 kids...about the highs, lows, learnings and growth they've experienced since becoming dads.  Learn from them, know that you are not alone in the challenges of fatherhood.  And then, upgrade in whatever ways are best for you!  

Real dad on today!

~Jan

On today’s show, Rachel Johnson Greer will talk with us about what to look for in all those online purchases.  Her work in Amazon compliance and helping online sellers understand the manufacturing and distribution laws puts her in a unique position to inform us about how to discern a safe purchase from ones to be cautious about.

Her book, “No Dead Babies” comes from the days when she and her team sighed in deep relief when at the end of the day they did not have to take a call from a grieving parent.  All too often were the conversations from these parents sharing how their child died because of faulty manufacturing or packaging.
Join us, learn about how to discern a safe product and package from others.  Your knowledge will extend from baby products to household and sporting purchases.

This is worth your time!

Welcome to the Us And Kids Podcast!

We are talking today about how to create smooth transitions  - for our kiddos, and for our selves.  It's spring, moving into summer, and often those schedules around school, day care, social spaces and places create good times, and trying times.  Our kiddos often don't understand going to sleep when it's still light outside -and we forget to get them to bed on time, because it is light outside and it feels so good to relax into the evening.

But then, that price to pay, the next morning!

So, what are some clues and tricks for helping changes (not just around seasons or DLSavings time) be less challenging.

Working together, making good plans, and adjusting plans are important skills.  And when our kiddos ( or our spouse, and our self) are struggling to find the energy to make the mindset and behavior shift necessary, we can come next to them with grace and patience.

Because, of course, transitions take time and tenderness, and often a family team to make it happen.

So, Mother’s Day has come and gone, again.  How are you?  Still so glad to be a mom or wondering how long you can hang in there with this mommy stuff?

Did you entertain all day, were you ignored most of the day, or did the kids and others figure out how to honor you, in a way that was meaningful to you?

On today’s show we’re talking about being yourself (Me) even while being a Mom.

Managing so many things, balancing energy, relationships, figuring out how to escape - or connect and how to balance the mom hat with your beautiful wife hat.

Yes, today’s show is for adults, (but still rated very G.)

Why?  Because staying in the adult-world after having a baby is very important to your identity as an adult, and your identity with your spouse.

And those adult identities are also very important to the development of your kiddos as they grow up.

Yep, I’m hinting at what happens in the room where your (adult) bed is…and how to be sure you still have a space and place that is just “yours” - just you and your spouse’s.

Of course, to get to that room, mindset and space, some things have to also happen outside of that room like…
Compassion - it helps with the passion,

Connection - it helps with the “ahem” connection

Attention - it helps with paying attention - like staying awake and mentally there, not elsewhere.

Enjoy using what you re-remember because it’s fun and helps to keep you married well and forever, even while you parent your kiddos together!