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020 - Distortions in NLP NLP In Action - Mike Sweet - 10 Minute Coach - Rapid Practical NLP
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- Alternative Therapien
There are five main distortions in NLP seen in the Meta model.
They are:
Mind reading Cause-and-effect Lost performative Complex equivalence Presuppositions Mind Reading We are all guilty of mind reading I know you are! A mind read is categorised by knowing what someone else is thinking or feeling but without any information to support that thought. Mind reading can come in lots of different forms. One of them which is very common is knowing what a person is thinking or feeling. Another is how others should know how we think and feel. And lastly predicting the future or proper sizing what is going to happen.
Whenever you hear mind reading type statements you can begin to ask questions using 'how' and 'what.'
Examples:
"He wants to ask me out" "You don't give me what I want" "I just know Christmas will be a disaster" "I know that you will want to live in the Cotswolds when you see my house" "You have no idea what is going to happen" Meta model challenges to those statements
"How do you know he wants to ask you out?" "What do you want specifically?" "Really? How specifically do you know that?" "How do you know that when I see your house in the Cotswolds I want to live there?" "How do you know that I have no idea what is going to happen?" Possible Reply
"Well, he's always nervous when he's around me" "I want to feel like wearing this together" "It's just that December has been a nightmare so far so it will probably continue" "Because I did when I visited a friend here" "Because I think it's going to be worse than you given credit for" Cause and Effect Recognising a cause-and-effect Meta model violation is when you spot and X causes why configurations in the language. so much of our life is in a cause-and-effect format that has a tendency to make connections where there is none. "If you do your homework, then you can stay up late on Friday." "If you pass all of your grades at school, you will get a good job."
So in the Meta model for cause and effect, we are looking for violations where someone associates X causes Y.
Whenever you spot this cause-and-effect violation it's time to begin asking more questions to find out how specifically do they know that X causes Y?
Examples:
"My boss makes me angry when he doesn't come in early on Monday" "If my daughter fails her dance exam I will be disappointed" "Going to the gym will wear a body out" "If you drink alcohol you will get dementia" "Getting married made my brother the depressive he is today" Meta Model Challenges
"How specifically that his lateness make you angry? What about if he's late on Tuesday?" "How will you disappoint yourself?" "How do you know that to be true? do you know of any gym goers who haven't worn at their body? Just how much Gym does it take to wear out your body?" "How much alcohol specifically? Do you know of anyone who does drink alcohol who hasn't got dementia? I drink some alcohol are you sure I will get dementia?" "What was it about marrying that made your brother begin to depress himself?" Lost Performative Recognising a lost performative is when you hear a person say something like, "We will end up living on Mars by 2050" or "Only weak people stay in relationships."
The structure of a lost performative is an opinion stated as a fact and a value judgement that does not say who had that value.
You can begin to challenge lost performative type statements by asking "who says, according to whom and how do you know that?" type of questions.
Examples:
"It's good to go to the Gym three times per week" "You need to go on as many training courses as you can" "Reading is relaxing" Meta model Challenges to those statements
"Who says it's good to go to the gym three times a week?" "Who says you need to go in as many training courses you can, and how do you know that to be true?" "According to whom?" Possible replies to the challenges
"I heard it on a podcast about health" "The person who was teaching me NLP!" "Well, I
There are five main distortions in NLP seen in the Meta model.
They are:
Mind reading Cause-and-effect Lost performative Complex equivalence Presuppositions Mind Reading We are all guilty of mind reading I know you are! A mind read is categorised by knowing what someone else is thinking or feeling but without any information to support that thought. Mind reading can come in lots of different forms. One of them which is very common is knowing what a person is thinking or feeling. Another is how others should know how we think and feel. And lastly predicting the future or proper sizing what is going to happen.
Whenever you hear mind reading type statements you can begin to ask questions using 'how' and 'what.'
Examples:
"He wants to ask me out" "You don't give me what I want" "I just know Christmas will be a disaster" "I know that you will want to live in the Cotswolds when you see my house" "You have no idea what is going to happen" Meta model challenges to those statements
"How do you know he wants to ask you out?" "What do you want specifically?" "Really? How specifically do you know that?" "How do you know that when I see your house in the Cotswolds I want to live there?" "How do you know that I have no idea what is going to happen?" Possible Reply
"Well, he's always nervous when he's around me" "I want to feel like wearing this together" "It's just that December has been a nightmare so far so it will probably continue" "Because I did when I visited a friend here" "Because I think it's going to be worse than you given credit for" Cause and Effect Recognising a cause-and-effect Meta model violation is when you spot and X causes why configurations in the language. so much of our life is in a cause-and-effect format that has a tendency to make connections where there is none. "If you do your homework, then you can stay up late on Friday." "If you pass all of your grades at school, you will get a good job."
So in the Meta model for cause and effect, we are looking for violations where someone associates X causes Y.
Whenever you spot this cause-and-effect violation it's time to begin asking more questions to find out how specifically do they know that X causes Y?
Examples:
"My boss makes me angry when he doesn't come in early on Monday" "If my daughter fails her dance exam I will be disappointed" "Going to the gym will wear a body out" "If you drink alcohol you will get dementia" "Getting married made my brother the depressive he is today" Meta Model Challenges
"How specifically that his lateness make you angry? What about if he's late on Tuesday?" "How will you disappoint yourself?" "How do you know that to be true? do you know of any gym goers who haven't worn at their body? Just how much Gym does it take to wear out your body?" "How much alcohol specifically? Do you know of anyone who does drink alcohol who hasn't got dementia? I drink some alcohol are you sure I will get dementia?" "What was it about marrying that made your brother begin to depress himself?" Lost Performative Recognising a lost performative is when you hear a person say something like, "We will end up living on Mars by 2050" or "Only weak people stay in relationships."
The structure of a lost performative is an opinion stated as a fact and a value judgement that does not say who had that value.
You can begin to challenge lost performative type statements by asking "who says, according to whom and how do you know that?" type of questions.
Examples:
"It's good to go to the Gym three times per week" "You need to go on as many training courses as you can" "Reading is relaxing" Meta model Challenges to those statements
"Who says it's good to go to the gym three times a week?" "Who says you need to go in as many training courses you can, and how do you know that to be true?" "According to whom?" Possible replies to the challenges
"I heard it on a podcast about health" "The person who was teaching me NLP!" "Well, I
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