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Sheepdog (formerly WoundedSheepdog) joins the conversation. (Today’s guest wishes to remain anonymous and will be referred to by his Twitter (X) handle.)
My guest has been in a relationship for over 20 years, is a father, and has a lot of unique experiences to share with those who may be struggling in a sexless or sexually declining relationship. His tweets are inspirational, insightful, and accountable. So, if you are seeking motivation, I highly encourage you to follow him.
Today’s topic indulges the question, “How to encourage conscious relationships without endorsing the gender war.”
Caution: this episode contains sexual topics.
Sheepdog has been through an inspiring transformation and shares his background story and journey from emotionally retarded to emotionally intelligent. We discuss why the Red Pill Agenda is a harmful mindset that encourages men to see women as objects, not people. We also discuss why porn can be degrading to our beliefs about sex and intimacy and how porn can negatively impact our expectations.
We then talk about how we learned there was so much more to sex than the basic flat concept floated around by social, cultural, and media narratives. Also, chatter about why taking the O out of the sex session can lead to better sex and connection. While being goal-oriented is an attribute to the boardroom, it isn’t an attribute to the bedroom. Emotionally connected sex is THE BEST sex you can have, bar-none.
Romance is important, rituals are important. It does not mean you are a “simp” or a “cuck” if you like to appreciate your lady or receive affection from your lady. Love isn’t logical, nor does love aim to fit the mold of the Red Pill Agenda.
We discuss the importance of touch, which is EVERY SINGLE PERSON’S LOVE LANGUAGE. Danielle talks about why it’s important to see your spouse as a human being and not just some label or category or affiliation. We need to see each other as equal in value and worth. We must remember we are on the same team.
Danielle expounds on an idea mentioned by Sheepdog in one instance regarding ego and speaks to why we sometimes straddle ego and authentic self in the bedroom, why we need a story line (mental arousal) while we are in present moment with the touchable, physical NOW.
Sheepdog then highlights the trends of relationship orientations, such as “Trad-Con” relationships, in which the demands and expectations for this type of relationship demean and objectify women. How the Red Pill movement is really just an Agenda of Agent Smith.
Must the man lead? And if he’s unconscious, CAN he lead? What does it require for a man to lead? Sheepdog says patience!
Then we take a dive into the controversial topic of infidelity and forgiveness. How do you take accountability for infidelity? What happens on Discovery Day (D-Day, as Sheepdog calls it)? How do you rebuild trust? Can you love again after an affair?
Toward the end of the conversation, we share our learning and teaching experiences in the realm of parenting and specifically, how to talk to your children about sexuality and intimacy and how to encourage their curiosity.
This episode is filled with so much substance, nuance, and two individual perspectives compassionately considering one another in an authentic, connected dialogue.
Mentioned in this podcast: Zuby, Andrew Tate, Fresh and Fit Podcast, Red Pill Movement, Wife Worship, TradCon, Biblical Marriage, Obligatory sex, Chump Lady, Adam Lane Smith, She Comes First by Ian Kerner, LastaDolphin.
For more insight and inspiration, be sure to follow today’s guest on X (formerly Twitter- forever Twitter)
https://twitter.com/Woundedsheepdog