Mental Makeover Lauren Curtis

In this episode, I delve into the profound impact of self-esteem on our romantic relationships and the intricate ways in which it can shape our future experiences. I explore the snowball effect that low self-esteem can have, particularly when entering relationships, as individuals may unknowingly gravitate towards partners who reinforce negative beliefs about their worth. This pattern can often escalate into more severe issues with self-confidence over time. I also discuss the transformative journey that unfolds when people enter new relationships with a strong sense of self-worth. By knowing and valuing their worth, they are more likely to attract partners who treat them well, fostering healing and breaking free from the cycle of past insecurities rooted in unhealthy relationships. Cultivating self-love can be a powerful catalyst for building healthy, fulfilling connections!

I uploaded a TikTok about how I'd essentially found myself again after losing myself for two years, and it seemed to hit a nerve with a lot of people. I wanted to go into further detail about my experience in the hopes it would help others get back in touch with themselves, even if the method may be a little unorthodox :)

As someone who has had cosmetic enhancements, I find myself in a bit of a pickle. 90% of me says I have no right to comment on anyone else's appearance because it doesn't affect me in any way, but on the other hand, that 10% worries for people who seem to be going overboard. Let's talk about it...

The ego... It tends to shout when we need it to be quiet. It convinces us that we need to be more popular, more attractive, more successful, more stylish and more intelligent, in order to be liked by others. In order to be 'good enough' or worthy. If we try to ignore our ego it shouts even louder. "What do you MEAN all of those things don't matter?! If you don't listen to me I'll show you how wrong you are! Everyone will think you're ugly and unsuccessful and embarrassing and stupid. But if you listen to me, I'll keep you safe." It's like a toxic relationship that we can't seem to escape. Deep down we know it's not good for us, but it can feel scary leaving something familiar, so we stick with it. I had a huge ego flair up recently which is what inspired this episode. I talk through every little detail about what happened, how it made me feel and why, and how I got through it. It's important to note that I believe our egos are important, but only to a certain degree. It's important to receive feedback from outside, more objective sources every once in a while. The issue is that we now seem to rely mainly on what other people think of who we are and the decisions we make, and not enough on what we think of ourselves. We need balance, baby! If you enjoyed today's episode, please leave a rating and a review! It helps this podcast reach other people, which is really cool :) Thank you so much x

This episode has it all! I love Q&A episodes as I get to share my thoughts on lots of different topics. I hope you enjoy :) xxx

It probably sounds like a strange question to ask, but there's a reason I'm asking it. Sure, there's an undeniable sense of fulfilment and accomplishment that comes with achieving a goal you've been working towards for a while, but if we're all being honest, how long did you actually stop and let that win sink in for? Did you even stop at all? Or were you too busy working towards the next big goal? Why are we all so quick to set up a new target once we have reached our old one? Perhaps it's because we think that constantly hitting targets and reaching goals will make us happier, more confident, more valued and respected by others, more successful, more worthy, more fulfilled. Why else would we set goals, right? But if you look back on your life right now, on all that you've achieved, did the accumulation of those achievements culminate in a better quality of life? Or did you kind of forget about them? Were those goals set in the interest of finding happiness, or feeding the ego? All of this is not to say that goals aren't important - quite the opposite - it's to encourage you to reflect on all of these questions, to stop and appreciate all that you have already achieved, to audit your future goals and decipher whether or not they are feeding the soul or the ego, and subsequently whether or not they're worth reaching for.
If you'd like to hear my in-depth thoughts about it all, listen in :) And if you enjoyed the episode, please don't forget to subscribe, rate and review. Thank you x