29 min

122: Dealing with Your Insecurities using the Enneagram Lead with the Enneagram with Host Tracy O’Malley

    • Entrepreneurship

I don’t care if you know your type...⁣

...or even work with the Enneagram professionally—this stuff is hard. Personal development and self growth and doing the work is never for the weary.⁣

Listen now⁣


I was originally mistyped as a 3.⁣

And me and 3s did not get along. I viewed a lot of them as weak for needing attention and low-key was envious that they made things look easy—especially when it came to vulnerability.⁣

My friend Tiffany has a hard time letting people take care of her.⁣

But when we were together in California recently, I was cooking and cleaning for her, and in exchange, she helped me with strategy for my business, because I am the worst self-marketer of all time. You know who’s good at marketing? 3s.⁣

But as an 8, I don’t like to be questioned.⁣

And that’s what Tiffany did: she asked me questions about a new program I want to offer, how it should be structured based on my current programs, etc. etc...⁣

Tiffany is a 6, the Loyalist, and naturally asks a lot of questions. And when she goes into interrogation mode—which comes from a good place—I get triggered. It makes me feel weak, and like I don’t have things handled.⁣

Listen to this week’s episode to learn what I realized...⁣


Quotes:⁣

1:33 ⁣
Personal development and self growth and doing the “work” on ourselves is never for the weary. ⁣

4:02 ⁣
I know that there is more for me to do with all of you.⁣

6:30⁣
Using the Enneagram has allowed me to be a great marketer but I am terrible self- marketer. ⁣

10:37 ⁣
As an Enneagram 8, I assume if you’re asking me tons of questions that you think I’m weak and don’t have this handled and that is like the death of an 8. ⁣

12:46⁣
I know, without a question or a doubt that I am the very best at what I do. ⁣

14:13 ⁣
All my 6’s out there you guys are like prepared for worst case scenario 5x over. ⁣

15:07 ⁣
Sometimes we joke about things and poke fun at ourselves to hide some of our most insecure moments. ⁣

15:53⁣
We are all going to be messy at first at things, even things that we are really good at. ⁣

18:13 ⁣
Each Enneagram type has something that is an insecurity that holds us back. ⁣

19:14 ⁣
I like to have you not see me coming, that’s where I feel most comfortable, and that being said I also know that being our most comfortable won’t allow things to grow. ⁣

I don’t care if you know your type...⁣

...or even work with the Enneagram professionally—this stuff is hard. Personal development and self growth and doing the work is never for the weary.⁣

Listen now⁣


I was originally mistyped as a 3.⁣

And me and 3s did not get along. I viewed a lot of them as weak for needing attention and low-key was envious that they made things look easy—especially when it came to vulnerability.⁣

My friend Tiffany has a hard time letting people take care of her.⁣

But when we were together in California recently, I was cooking and cleaning for her, and in exchange, she helped me with strategy for my business, because I am the worst self-marketer of all time. You know who’s good at marketing? 3s.⁣

But as an 8, I don’t like to be questioned.⁣

And that’s what Tiffany did: she asked me questions about a new program I want to offer, how it should be structured based on my current programs, etc. etc...⁣

Tiffany is a 6, the Loyalist, and naturally asks a lot of questions. And when she goes into interrogation mode—which comes from a good place—I get triggered. It makes me feel weak, and like I don’t have things handled.⁣

Listen to this week’s episode to learn what I realized...⁣


Quotes:⁣

1:33 ⁣
Personal development and self growth and doing the “work” on ourselves is never for the weary. ⁣

4:02 ⁣
I know that there is more for me to do with all of you.⁣

6:30⁣
Using the Enneagram has allowed me to be a great marketer but I am terrible self- marketer. ⁣

10:37 ⁣
As an Enneagram 8, I assume if you’re asking me tons of questions that you think I’m weak and don’t have this handled and that is like the death of an 8. ⁣

12:46⁣
I know, without a question or a doubt that I am the very best at what I do. ⁣

14:13 ⁣
All my 6’s out there you guys are like prepared for worst case scenario 5x over. ⁣

15:07 ⁣
Sometimes we joke about things and poke fun at ourselves to hide some of our most insecure moments. ⁣

15:53⁣
We are all going to be messy at first at things, even things that we are really good at. ⁣

18:13 ⁣
Each Enneagram type has something that is an insecurity that holds us back. ⁣

19:14 ⁣
I like to have you not see me coming, that’s where I feel most comfortable, and that being said I also know that being our most comfortable won’t allow things to grow. ⁣

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