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201: Deconstructing & Implementing Self-Care ONKEN radio
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“Self-care is all about coming back to a place of wholeness.”- Nick Onken
Hey, guys! Welcome back to ONKEN RADIO (previously NION Radio). In this podcast, we explore the body, mind, and soul of the creative entrepreneur. It's my goal to help you take your creativity, business, and life to the next level. I'm so glad you're joining me on this journey!
Self-care is a practice that can be so elusive, especially in the face of modern-day pressures and demands. It's easy to feel like there's never enough time or energy for self-care. But what does self-care mean, and why is it so important? What would happen if you practiced some small acts of self-care every day?
In this week's episode of ONKEN Radio, I want to share the path I've taken along my spiritual journey to discovering self-care. I'll also share with you guys some hacks and a few products that can help you practice self-care in your life every day. This is an essential episode for us as creatives, so we can be reminded that it is so important to do things for ourselves, too.
If you want to make your impact on the world more sustainable and bring a higher level of energy to your endeavors, then this episode is for you. Let's get started!
Overcoming A Difficult Time
I want to start out by telling you about a difficult time I had a few years ago. It was the moment that my business was in decline, and I just came from a break-up. This situation sent me into a downward spiral of my own questioning of existence.
During this dark night of the soul, I couldn't find the motivation to do anything. I even found myself asking, “What's the point and the meaning of all of this?” Being in this dark moment of my life, I ended up doing 5-Methoxy-N,N-dimethyltryptamine (5 MeO DMT) through that time, which, while outstanding, also pushed me into a deeper hole. I didn't know how to integrate the experience of a spiritual world brought by the 5 MEO DMT with this challenging part of my life.
But somehow, I knew that taking one step forward, even if it didn't feel like there was progress, was actually the thing that I needed to do. A few months later, I discovered breathwork. It was the integration that I needed to make sense of the whole other spiritual side of the world. I realized that I needed to implement the lessons that I've learned and integrate them into everyday living.
It was an extensive breakdown of my ego. From that experience, I realized how my self-worth was implanted into the external validation of my relationship, my business, and other things. I even asked myself, "When those things go away, or they crumble, who am I without them?" These accumulated feelings of emptiness and wanting to be healed were why I was in this situation first and foremost.
I integrated plant medicine and breathwork for a few months. I discovered that it was the self-care that I needed to nurse myself back to wholeness.
Deconstructing Self-Care
I believe that we are always shapeshifting our identity, whether it's for an outward expression of our personal brand or it's just our own personal journeys. This is what my process of identity alchemy is about, and it is composed of a three-step process of deconstruction, curation, and becoming.
Looking back at the experience after I had my first big photo job, the process of deconstruction is always the hardest one. It involves looking at the events in our life where we feel like we aren't where we're supposed to be. This is a process that can be highly unpleasant. However, it also allows us to identify our shadows and shed them slowly. It is such a massive piece of understanding who we are to curate who we want to become.
This process of curating who we want to become involves the concept of self-care. The present identities we have are formed by our own narratives,
“Self-care is all about coming back to a place of wholeness.”- Nick Onken
Hey, guys! Welcome back to ONKEN RADIO (previously NION Radio). In this podcast, we explore the body, mind, and soul of the creative entrepreneur. It's my goal to help you take your creativity, business, and life to the next level. I'm so glad you're joining me on this journey!
Self-care is a practice that can be so elusive, especially in the face of modern-day pressures and demands. It's easy to feel like there's never enough time or energy for self-care. But what does self-care mean, and why is it so important? What would happen if you practiced some small acts of self-care every day?
In this week's episode of ONKEN Radio, I want to share the path I've taken along my spiritual journey to discovering self-care. I'll also share with you guys some hacks and a few products that can help you practice self-care in your life every day. This is an essential episode for us as creatives, so we can be reminded that it is so important to do things for ourselves, too.
If you want to make your impact on the world more sustainable and bring a higher level of energy to your endeavors, then this episode is for you. Let's get started!
Overcoming A Difficult Time
I want to start out by telling you about a difficult time I had a few years ago. It was the moment that my business was in decline, and I just came from a break-up. This situation sent me into a downward spiral of my own questioning of existence.
During this dark night of the soul, I couldn't find the motivation to do anything. I even found myself asking, “What's the point and the meaning of all of this?” Being in this dark moment of my life, I ended up doing 5-Methoxy-N,N-dimethyltryptamine (5 MeO DMT) through that time, which, while outstanding, also pushed me into a deeper hole. I didn't know how to integrate the experience of a spiritual world brought by the 5 MEO DMT with this challenging part of my life.
But somehow, I knew that taking one step forward, even if it didn't feel like there was progress, was actually the thing that I needed to do. A few months later, I discovered breathwork. It was the integration that I needed to make sense of the whole other spiritual side of the world. I realized that I needed to implement the lessons that I've learned and integrate them into everyday living.
It was an extensive breakdown of my ego. From that experience, I realized how my self-worth was implanted into the external validation of my relationship, my business, and other things. I even asked myself, "When those things go away, or they crumble, who am I without them?" These accumulated feelings of emptiness and wanting to be healed were why I was in this situation first and foremost.
I integrated plant medicine and breathwork for a few months. I discovered that it was the self-care that I needed to nurse myself back to wholeness.
Deconstructing Self-Care
I believe that we are always shapeshifting our identity, whether it's for an outward expression of our personal brand or it's just our own personal journeys. This is what my process of identity alchemy is about, and it is composed of a three-step process of deconstruction, curation, and becoming.
Looking back at the experience after I had my first big photo job, the process of deconstruction is always the hardest one. It involves looking at the events in our life where we feel like we aren't where we're supposed to be. This is a process that can be highly unpleasant. However, it also allows us to identify our shadows and shed them slowly. It is such a massive piece of understanding who we are to curate who we want to become.
This process of curating who we want to become involves the concept of self-care. The present identities we have are formed by our own narratives,
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