Author of “Solo Mum by Choice” Anything is possible even as a Solo Mum

So many people dream of writing a book… and very few actually do it. In this episode, I’m sitting down with Lorena Oates, a Solo Mum by Choice and soon-to-be published author of her memoir “Solo Mum by Choice” (releasing May 16, 2026).

We talk about the real story behind the book - writing it while living it, the long road to motherhood, and the inner strength it takes to keep going when the outcome is unknown.

In this conversation, we cover:

✨Why Lorena started writing during the early stages of IVF (and why it was cathartic)

✨The emotional reality of multiple rounds and taking breaks when it became too much

✨Independence, asking for help, and the unique pressure solo mums can feel

✨Regulation tools that actually help in the hard moments (movement, tears, creativity, rest)

✨Reframing the “Plan B” narrative, and why Solo Motherhood is not a second-best story

✨Publishing hurdles, imposter syndrome, and what determination can really create.

Lorena's book is officially launching on May 16th, 2026. See her links below to get yourself a copy.

🎥 You can also watch this full episode on YouTube

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🔗 Find Lorena + her book here:

Lorena’s website / book links: https://www.lorenaotes.com.au/

Lorena on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lorenaotes?igsh=MXFwcWw3bmM3Z2JhZA==

Watch on You Tube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCozlsyVMAvr_D-lK9crRDOQ

✨ Lorena’s instagram below:

@lorenaoates

If this episode resonated and you’d like support on your own journey, whether that’s confidence, decision-making, or feeling more regulated in your body, I offer 1:1 confidence coaching for women navigating the identity shift of solo motherhood and big life transitions.

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