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Marriage doesn't have to be hard—if you make it intentional. We're Bud and Sara Dunn, a couple of 30-somethings who have spent 16 years together crafting a relationship that's uplifting, positive, and always growing. Every week on our marriage and relationship podcast, we share our real-world advice that you can use to be more confident as a couple.

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Marriage doesn't have to be hard—if you make it intentional. We're Bud and Sara Dunn, a couple of 30-somethings who have spent 16 years together crafting a relationship that's uplifting, positive, and always growing. Every week on our marriage and relationship podcast, we share our real-world advice that you can use to be more confident as a couple.

    058: Working From Home & Parenting in Quarantine with Tim & Ellen

    058: Working From Home & Parenting in Quarantine with Tim & Ellen

    It’s time for beers and wisdom with our friends and “quarantine experts” Tim and Ellen!







    When Sara first posted on Instagram asking for tips for working from home with your spouse, Elle jumped in with some great ideas.  We knew she needed to share them with our listeners.







    Tim and Ellen have each worked from home, in separate jobs in software and consulting, for several years.  In this episode, they share their best tips for coffee, organizing your day, and staying married if you’re both home all day.







    We also found out that they are basically “quarantine experts,” having been home with a newborn since January.  They started this “stay at home” thing a couple months before the rest of us!







    If you’re a parent, we think you’ll appreciate their thoughts on parenting a 5-year-old and a newborn while also trying to work full time from home.  Enjoy!







    Tim recommends finding a quality cell phone holder, like this bowling trophy







    Let's connect!  Follow us at @budandsara on Instagram.

    • 34 min
    057: Going Beyond Core Values with David Friedman

    057: Going Beyond Core Values with David Friedman

    Our episode about core values in a relationship has been one of our most popular episodes ever.  So when Bud met a business culture expert who doesn’t believe in core values, we knew we needed to have him on our podcast to explain why.







    In today’s episode, we’re joined by David Friedman, founder of High Performing Culture and author of Culture By Design.  David explains the flaws of core values and why he prefers to talk about “fundamentals” instead.







    He even dives into his work to help clients define their “Family Fundamentals,” the fundamental behaviors that a family might believe in.







    In this episode, we talk about:







    The difference between values and behaviorsThe danger of statements like “I’ll try to be home early tonight.”What David would have done differently and more intentionally in raising his childrenHow to develop your family fundamentalsA weekly process to share and teach fundamentals 







    Examples of fundamentals:







    Practice blameless problem solvingFill each other’s bucket regularlyYour attitude is always a choiceBe flexible







    Mentioned in this episode:







    008: Core Values – What Matters Most in Your Relationship?







    Let's connect!  Follow us at @budandsara on Instagram and send us a message with any questions about this episode.

    • 30 min
    Confident Couples: Quarantine Edition

    Confident Couples: Quarantine Edition

    We’re back, we’re quarantining, and we’re here to talk about it.

    • 15 min
    055: The End of Season 1 (and a List of Our Best Episodes So Far)

    055: The End of Season 1 (and a List of Our Best Episodes So Far)

    We spent 17 years together and 8 years married coming up with 55 things to talk about related to relationships.







    Every week for a year, we sat at our kitchen table and talked into our microphones, hoping to share hope and intentional strategies to create strong partnerships.







    We’d say we’ve covered the high points that we wanted to when we got started.







    So—This is the last episode of Season 1.  After today, we’re going to take a break to start a new list of episode ideas and connect with more potential guests.







    This is a great time to scroll back into the archive and save any episodes that interest you.  On today’s short recording, we’ll point you to a few of our favorites.







    Sara’s Can’t Miss Episodes:







    005: The Shopping Budget – Spend $ Without Judgement - our way to solve your conflicts around discretionary spendingOur personality testing series, starting with 017: Personality Tests – How to Finally (!) Understand Your PartnerOne of our most commented-on episodes: 021: So… When Are You Having Kids? - why we are child-free by choice028: Roadblocks to Budgeting (And How to Do It Anyway)







    Bud’s Can't Miss Episodes:







    001: The Three-Legged Stool - Our foundational episode about what we see as the pillars of strong long-term relationships: 002: The Ritual - The connection practice we do every single day (The Confident Couples Podcast’s #1 downloaded episode!)046: Networking as a Couple







    Let's connect!  Follow us at @budandsara on Instagram and send us a message with any questions about this episode.

    • 11 min
    054: The “Engagement Coaching” Movement with Jonna Phillips, MA, LMFT

    054: The “Engagement Coaching” Movement with Jonna Phillips, MA, LMFT

    On this episode, we’re talking with the amazing Jonna Phillips.  Jonna is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist with a passion for premarital couples work, which she calls “Engagement Coaching.”







    Jonna started out working with military couples almost 15 years ago, then shifted into psychiatric care for individuals, couples, families, and military members.  Her passion to help couples of all backgrounds build positive foundations for their marriage.







    I have discovered in my work with couples the more you are willing to have a deeper understanding of yourself and your partner prior to marriage the healthier your relationship will be."







    Jonna’s practice is located in Portage, Michigan.  If you’re in the area and engaged, check out her engagement coaching services!







    In this episode, we talk about:







    Why Jonna prefers the term “engagement coaching” to premarital counseling or therapyWhy premarital coaching should be something every couple doesBringing personality assessments and other tools into a relationshipHow seeking help in your relationship is like giving your car an oil changeUsing “I” statements to communicate with your partner instead of “You” statements—Owning vs blamingWhy we (Bud and Sara) refused premarital counseling







    #ConfidentCouples Challenge:







    Listen in on Jonna’s new podcast!  The Engagement Coach Podcast















    Mentioned in this episode:







    Jonna’s practice: Brave Counseling & CoachingThe Enneagram (Jonna uses this assessment, and this is our podcast episode about it)Jonna’s article about why she uses the EnneagramPrepare & Enrich Couples AssessmentThe Engagement Coach Podcast







    Let's connect!  Follow us at @budandsara on Instagram and send us a message with any questions about this episode.

    • 20 min
    053: Breadwinning Women with Lindsay Bryan-Podvin

    053: Breadwinning Women with Lindsay Bryan-Podvin

    Financial therapist Lindsay is back!  Today, we’re talking with Lindsay about her focus on working with couples with breadwinning women.







    In her experience, Lindsay has found that couples with non-traditional money roles can often have emotional and financial challenges.  We knew we needed to dive in and find out more.







    This episode features guest Lindsay Bryan-Podvin of Mind Money Balance, one of only 50 financial therapists in the United States.  Don’t miss her first episode with us: 050: What is Financial Therapy?!















    In this episode, we talk about:







    When Lindsay first heard women come into her office and say “I wish I didn’t have this pressure” or “I know I shouldn’t feel this way, but I wish my husband made more than me.”Some of the challenges Lindsay sees in these types of relationshipsThe common discounting and downplaying behavior that breadwinning women haveSee-saw earners—couples who contribute somewhat equally financiallyWhy Lindsay recommends couples pool their money into one bank accountIdentifying the non-monetary assets you bring to the relationship







    #ConfidentCouples Challenge:







    Do Lindsay’s example exercise (fast forward to 12:30)!  







    What do I need to believe in order that we are equitable partners in our relationship?What would need to happen in order for our relationship to feel equitable? 







    Mentioned in this episode:







    Our first episode with Lindsay: 050: What is Financial Therapy?!The Shopping Budget (similar to the monthly cash Lindsay and her husband allocate): 005: The Shopping Budget – Spend $ Without JudgementLindsay’s group couples coaching program: Boundless







    Let's connect!  Follow us at @budandsara on Instagram and send us a message with any questions about this episode.

    • 14 min

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