In this episode I explore expectations and confidence around Christmas and reducing Christmas Stress. What is on your 'should do' list and what is on your 'want to do' list? Do they overlap at all? And what to do about it.
What happens when you step back and simply observe all the expectations and it feels to have them? Look at them again. Where have they come from? Are they necessary, important, do they enhance Christmas time?
You can see the ‘shoulds’ and ‘have tos’ for what they really are; they aren’t rules by which you have to live by, they aren’t absolute truths, they are just thoughts your mind is holding on to. By seeing this you can you can choose to let go of expectations that have no meaning or satisfaction for you. And knowing this you can choose.
Making your own choices
You can choose to participate in activities leading up to Christmas that you value. That bring joy to your heart and that of your family. You can choose activities that focus on kindness, gratitude, togetherness. You don’t need to be religious to tap into the good will that exists at this time of the year, where most people are actually actively trying to make other people happy.
There is a lot of freedom that comes with being an adult and having so many choices to make. We might feel the heavy weight of expectations, but when we lose that weight it is not just freeing, it also exposes us and makes it vulnerable. I think that is one reason why treading your own path at Christmas, in line with your values and not others expectations, is so difficult, but for you, it might be the path to your Christmas calm, connection and confidence.
Loneliness often stems from a belief that no-one truely cares or understands you. To increase connection you start with an authentic and accepting understanding of yourself; then of others; then of a deep appreciation for the natural world. By embracing your authenticity you invite confidence and calm into you life.
How can you feel more connected? Join me, Kim Dunn, Psychologist, as I delve into providing you with practical strategies to help you connect with yourself, others and the natural world.
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