Somewhere, in a world far away from Grindr hook-ups, the noise of nightclubs or the gloss of Instagram filters, two best friends (Mitchell from Australia and Goran from Bosnia) sat down to tell each other stories. Their stories. Your stories. The stories of being different, sometimes difficult, alone and adrift from a community they found no place in. You might think the gay experience has been well-documented and told before, but it hasn’t. Not like this. Part heartache, part love letter, maybe even a call to arms for a more loving and inclusive community, these are the voices of the different kind of gay.
PTSD and me: an interview with Rick Morton
Following a diagnosis with Complex Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder, author and journalist Rick Morton set about living vulnerably and rediscovering love. It meant telling people close to him, for the first time, that he loved them and experiencing the joy that comes with giving someone a hug.
In this candid conversation, Rick tells us about a childhood trauma that he experienced at seven, coming out and being rejected by his father, the unwavering support of his mum ... and why chickens are so special.
Different Kind of Gay is a Love Surrender production, created and written by Goran D and Mitchell J.
EPISODE 11: Mindfuck
It's no surprise that most gay men – ourselves included – struggle with mental health. In this episode, we share our battles with depression and why we must keep going. Then, in our discussion, we hear from YOU. When we asked our listeners how they find peace, we received responses from around the world that we've shared here. You'll be surprised and inspired by this beautiful rainbow of voices.
Trigger warning: this episode discusses suicide. If this raises any issues for you, or you need help, contact Lifeline on 13 11 14 (Australia) or your local support group.
Different Kind of Gay is a Love Surrender production, created and written by Goran D and Mitchell J. Visit us at differentkindofgay.com
EPISODE 10: Attitude
Nastiness is commonplace amongst the gay community. Tired of everything from body-shaming on apps through to our acerbic takedowns of others, some of us just want to live in a kinder world. But how do we do this? In this episode (our first to reach double digits!) we share stories of the men with big hearts who showed us that another gay community is possible.
A Love Surrender production. Created and written by Goran D and Mitchell J.
EPISODE 9: Monogamy
We've made it to season two! In our first episode, we tackle a topic that's long overdue for discussion: monogamy.
Tracking down your partner's fake profiles on Squirt or opening up your relationship.
This seems to be the only choice for us gay men. But is that actually true?
Why is it that so many gay men think monogamy is something outdated, unappealing or unsustainable? And what happens when you are forced to compromise your values simply so you are no longer alone?
Along with sharing our own personal stories (all names have been changed) we also chat to one man about the devastating effect an open relationship had on his life, and how he fought his way back from rock-bottom.
Different Kind of Gay is a Love Surrender production. Created and written by Goran D and Mitchell J.
EPISODE 8: Daddy
As gay men, the bonds we have with our fathers can be complicated at best. But why is this? In our final episode of the year, we delve into our troubled pasts to see just how much our fathers influenced the men we became. We also look at the dynamics of daddy-son relationships and find some fathers who are making the world an easier place for their children to exist in.
A Love Surrender Production, created and written by Goran D and Mitchell J
Look beyond the rainbow flags, pride parades and parties and you'll see an ugly truth: gay men, men like us, are deeply, deeply lonely. We have been rejected from the world where we thought we could belong. In 2020, at a time when gay rights are some of the most progressive they've ever been, this might seem strange, or even misleading, but our suffering is at an all-time high.
In this first instalment of our conversations with psychologist and gay-thinker, Calum Anderson, we look specifically at the reasons for loneliness amongst gay men, ways to deal with rejection – be it from your family or over the apps, and how we can feel less alone in the gay world.
A Love Surrender Production.
I found a gem during lockdown.
I am so happy I found this podcast because it talks about topics that gay guys never talk about seriously. It really helped my soul on my night walks 🤯🤯
I can’t thank enough to you Goran and Mitch for amazing job you have done for the community. It was such a privilege to me to meet you in person Goran and I hope I can meet Mitch one day too. This is what we really hope as a part of community to break the stereotypes and life our authentic life.
A must listen to podcast
Thanks for putting so much time and energy into this podcast. Although I am now all up to date, I have decided to listen from the start again. It’s a great way to realign yourself and have you thinking and ponder over the episode. Congratulations and keep up the good work.