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Leading the Pro-Age Conversation. Information and inspiration for women over 50. Ceri Wheeldon, editor of the Fab after Fifty website hosts interviews and discussions with inspirational women and experts to help live the best life possible over 50

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Leading the Pro-Age Conversation. Information and inspiration for women over 50. Ceri Wheeldon, editor of the Fab after Fifty website hosts interviews and discussions with inspirational women and experts to help live the best life possible over 50

    Interview with Dr Louise Pendry on Challenging Perceptions of Age and her New Book Grandmas Can't Trampoline

    Interview with Dr Louise Pendry on Challenging Perceptions of Age and her New Book Grandmas Can't Trampoline

    Dr Louise Pendry of Exeter University talk to Ceri Wheeldon of Fab after Fifty on how we are influenced by stereotypes of ageing, and how our impressions of ageing are formed from a very young age.Her new book Grandmas Can't Trampoline is written for young girls , to help combat the normal stereotypes they already have when it comes to negative perceptions of ageing.Although written for children - the book has been well received by adults.A lively discussion on a topic that affects us all! A full transcript is available on the next page----more----Transcript: Interview with Dr Louise Pendry on Challenging Perceptions of Age and her New Book Grandmas Can't Trampoline [00:01:08] Hello. And today, I'm so pleased to have with me my guest, Dr. Louis Pendry, who is a senior lecturer in psychology at  Exeter University, and who specializes in stereotyping and prejudice. Hello, Louise, and welcome to the podcast. [00:01:23] Hello and thank you very much for having me. [00:01:26] Can you expand a little bit on the sort of a study that you do and the lectures that you give, [00:01:34] Well, over the years, I have been looking at a general topic of stereotyping and prejudice, and it was the subject of my p_h_d_ many years ago.  Now I'm looking at when people stereotype, why they stereotype and how to overcome stereotyping. And over the years, I've done that looking at lots of different stereotype groups. So things to do with gender, ethnicity, age to some extent. But I think it's only in the last few years as I've got older myself that I've started to focus in a little bit more specifically on the issues around ageism and age stereotyping. And I think because I've just recently hit 50 myself, it's just become a topic of interest to me at a personal level as well as at an academic level. So now I've refined my teaching somewhat and then I'm moving more towards teaching a little bit more on the issues around getting older and the positives, the negatives around getting older and what we can all do to age positively and well, I suppose. And just understanding that the issues that my students who are only age 18 are facing already with a negative view of an age that they've kind of grown up in internalized over many years. And that's the sort of dialogue that I want to have with them right now.[00:00:02] I understand Louise that you've just written a book which has just been published. [00:00:12] I have, a bit of a departure for me, although I do quite like writing in my job as an academic. This is a children's book, which is nothing like I've ever done before. So it's just coming out this month. Basically,it's available. Why did you decide to write a book for children. Well, that's a good question. So it's something I haven't ever done before. I think it's come out of the fact that I'm having conversations with my students. Obviously, they're not children. They are 18 plus increasingly about getting older and ageism and age stereotyping, prejudice, a very big part of what I teach and research and what becomes apparent when I talk to my students and I notice from the research anyway, is that even at that tender age, they have already got a negative perception about getting older. And it's it's mainly because that's the way we've been brought up. It's we internalize these negative stereotypes because ageism is everywhere in our environment. It's there every time we walk down the greetings card on our local supermarket. And we see that the milestone birthday cards that are just having a pop at how dreadful is to get old or every time we see anti-aging language being used to advertising market products that hold back the years and banish those wrinkles or just the way that older people are represented in TV and film, that somehow being I guess invisible or frail or just mattering less than when they were younger. And my students acknow

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    Interview with Dr Louise Pendry on Managing the Menopause in the Workplace and the Benefits of a Menopause Cafe

    Interview with Dr Louise Pendry on Managing the Menopause in the Workplace and the Benefits of a Menopause Cafe

    Dr Louise Pendry of Exeter University talks to  Ceri Wheeldon of Fab after Fifty about positive and constructive ways to manage the menopause in the workplace, based on her experience of setting up a menopause cafe, and putting together a menopause guidance policy for her own workplace.Full transcript is available on next page.Dr Louise Pendry can be contacted via her university email address l.f.pendry@exeter.ac.uk----more----Full transcript:Interview with Dr Louise Pendry on Managing the Menopause in the Workplace and the Benefits of a Menopause Cafe[00:01:08] Hello. And today, I'm so pleased to have with me my guest, Dr. Louis Pendry, who is a senior lecturer in psychology at  Exeter University, and who specializes in stereotyping and prejudice. Hello, Louise, and welcome to the podcast. [00:01:23] Hello and thank you very much for having me. [00:01:26] Can you expand a little bit on the sort of a study that you do and the lectures that you give, [00:01:34] Well, over the years, I have been looking at a general topic of stereotyping and prejudice, and it was the subject of my p_h_d_ many years ago.  Now I'm looking at when people stereotype, why they stereotype and how to overcome stereotyping. And over the years, I've done that looking at lots of different stereotype groups. So things to do with gender, ethnicity, age to some extent. But I think it's only in the last few years as I've got older myself that I've started to focus in a little bit more specifically on the issues around ageism and age stereotyping. And I think because I've just recently hit 50 myself, it's just become a topic of interest to me at a personal level as well as at an academic level. So now I've refined my teaching somewhat and then I'm moving more towards teaching a little bit more on the issues around getting older and the positives, the negatives around getting older and what we can all do to age positively and well, I suppose. And just understanding that the issues that my students who are only age 18 are facing already with a negative view of an age that they've kind of grown up in internalized over many years. And that's the sort of dialogue that I want to have with them right now. [00:02:40] And I guess in many respects, menopause fits into that, doesn't it? Especially with the menopause, women being the fastest growing demographic in the workplace and on menopause is something which we experience as we age. [00:02:52] Definitely. So we find ourselves in a kind of double whammy where we are getting older, which we all do. And we are. Some of us, not all of us are experiencing some changes that go along with menopause. And sometimes that can affect the way that we feel about the way that we're doing our job and just wanting to do the best job that we can. Just wanting to understand ways that we can manage that transition to make it as positive as we can, both for ourselves and the organizations within which we work and our colleagues. Really. [00:03:20] How did you specifically get involved in the menopause initiative at your university? [00:03:25] Well, I think I was just doing a lot of reading, as I generally do, and I just started to think about how great my employer is in terms of its family friendly policies. When I had my kids, it was fantastic in terms of part time working and just making adjustments for having kids. And it's absolutely brilliant. And it just dawned on me that when it came to this phase of my life, I would have had a fairly positive experience myself. I haven't had too many issues. But nonetheless, just looking around at what support was available until very recently, we didn't seem to have very much in the way of a policy or guidance information to help women and also those who are working alongside women manage this transition in their lives. So what happened was I just wrote a letter to the provost at my u

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    Podcast with Marie Fraser, on how to get to know yourself following a divorce

    Podcast with Marie Fraser, on how to get to know yourself following a divorce

    Ceri Wheeldon of Fab after Fifty talks to coach and therapist Marie Fraser, who works with women to help rebuild their lives following divorce. This is the first in a series of interviews. Marie talks about why it is so important to understand what you like and want in life as you transition from being part of a couple to being single. Why it is important to let go of your past life and plans as a couple.How to identify new interests and passions.Letting go of past routines and habits.Setting your own goals and living your own dreams----more----Full Episode TranscriptFab after Fifty Podcast with Marie Fraser: Divorce over 50 getting to know yourself[00:00:01] I'm Ceri Wheeldon. Welcome to the Fab after Fifty podcast. Leading the pro-age conversation, talking about all things life after 50. [00:00:17] Hello and welcome to this week's episode of the Fab after Fifty podcast. I'm really delighted today to have with me as my guest. Marie Fraser. Marie is a therapist and coach who supports and guides women in rebuilding their lives following divorce and breakups. Hello Marie and welcome to Fab after Fifty. [00:00:33] Hi, Ceri. Thanks for inviting me. It's a pleasure to be here. [00:00:38] Now, as my guest today,  I'm thrilled to have you on this particular show. We're going to be doing a series of episodes, aren't we, on on divorce and breakup and rebuilding your life. And you're also going to be a regular contributor to Fab after Fifty. So I'm delighted that the listeners and readers can get to know you a little bit better now. So what are we going to be talking about on this episode? [00:01:02] I thought it would be a good idea to talk about getting to know yourself following a breakup because we can after so many years in a relationship, lose our identity because we have various roles in the relationship. And all of a sudden when when you are alone  following the breakup, you can lose the sense of who you are. I mean, I remember myself personally thinking, oh, my God. Where did that 24 year old go? And it you know, I wasn't that obviously the same person I was at 24. But because I, from my personal situation, was in a relationship which was very dominated by my ex-husband.  I followed along more or less with what he he wanted, you know, it was his friends, what he said, et cetera, et cetera. And I just didn't know who I was, what I wanted and where I wanted to be and where I wanted to go, where I could see the next part of my life going. And so that was a huge shock for me personally. [00:02:21] I mean, I'm sure lots of women in their 50s who've been in a long relationship and have split up. I've had similar experiences. And, you know, it can be quite difficult to actually, I think, look to the future because it makes you uncertain of where your next part of your life is going. Does that make sense? Oh, absolutely. [00:02:48] Because, I mean, there are more and more women out there who are getting divorced in the 50s, but it's their choice or their partner's choice or indeed now even later in their 60s, silver divorces  are on the rise. I've also gone through a divorce in my 50s so we're both speaking from personal experience here as well, aren't we? [00:03:07] Oh, sure. Yeah. Yeah. [00:03:09] And like you say, it's very difficult to get used to thinking, okay, so who am I now? Because like you, I was in a relationship which was fair to say my interests were very contained within that relationship, to put it lightly, where we only really did the things that were on his list. And all of a sudden you have the opportunity to do things that are on your list and you think, well, what do I want on that list now? [00:03:33] Exactly. And it seems a crazy thing, but nothing immediately comes to mind because you've been in this relationship where because of the repetition of being side lined from, you know, for the ex  par

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    Interview with Jo Jewitt on how Great Make-Up can Boost Confidence over 50

    Interview with Jo Jewitt on how Great Make-Up can Boost Confidence over 50

    Ceri Wheeldon of Fab after Fifty chats to make-up trainer Jo Jewitt of the Make-Up Training Company about how great Make Up can boost confidence over 50 and help midlife women look and feel fabulous.In the past Jo has worked her magic on Princess Di, Bette Midler, Barbra Streisand and Madonna. Today Jo wants all women to have the tools and techniques to transform their make-up in just 5 minutes using just 9 products in 9 steps. Jo is passionate about what she does - it's a lively conversation!! ----more----Episode transcript:[00:00:04] I'm Ceri Wheeldon. And welcome to the Fab after Fifty podcast. Leading the pro age conversation, talking about all things life after 50. [00:00:17] Hello and welcome to this week's episode of the Fab after Fifty podcast. And I have with me today Jo-Anne Jewitt,  make up trainer extraordinaire. Hello, Jo, and welcome to Fab up to 50. [00:00:28] Hello. Hello. Great to be here talking to like minded people. [00:00:33] Absolutely, we've had fabulous chats haven't we outside of this podcast and I think it's important to share your philosophy with our listeners and the readers of the website. But first of all, can you tell us a little bit about your own backgrounds in the makeup industry? [00:00:49] Well, How long have you got? I know it's a long. It's a long. I am now 61. So it started when I was 19 and I had a broken heart. And I joined the promotion team for Helena Rubinstein, gone to the south of France to be a nanny, realized I hated kids. And then I came back with my tail between my legs, had a little jaunt  in the police force and then realised I was going to be the worst policewoman that's ever been known to man. So I joined Rubenstein  and I started travelling. And basically I used to sit with women for hours on end and everybody else would say buy two products and I'll give you a bathrobe and. And amazingly, everybody was just there would be queuing up to see me, which even then it was was quite a revelation. And it made me realise that actually people woould actually come in for advice. They didn't want a free bathrobe or, you know, three free products. They wanted. They wanted proper advice. So I started with that because I was very successful at what I did. I came to the attention of Liz Laverne, who was our director. I was being poached by various different people because obviously I was having humongous sales. And basically they said, what can we do to keep you? So I said, well, I'd like to be properly trained. So they sent me off to Fabourge St. Honore in Paris and I did my makeup training there.  When I came back. They kind of exploited that. I know that's fine, but that's fine because I benefited from it. [00:02:34] And then I used to do private one to ones with with elite clients, if you like. YOu've had some very elite clients haven't you?  And I did. I did. And all of them were, you know, weren't really planned in that way. But I had the beautiful Princess Di who came to me because I'd done quite a few of her friends, what we used to call back in the day, Sloane Rangers and a few of her friends had already been to me. So she came for advice because she was getting engaged and she was wearing a blue suit. And we had a big fight about blue liner because at that point, all she did actually was have her eyelashes tinted navy, weirdly,  But you know what I mean? And until we had this kind of big performance and we had a wonderful one to one, she was gorgeous, very, very, very shy, giggly young country girl who had never worn makeup. But cleverly, she actually realised that because of that point, she was being papped everywhere. And she realised that she didn't have a makeup artist permanently on her side. So she needed to learn how to use makeup for herself. And I like to think that that I taught her that. And we became quite good friends. We saw again each other. Unfortu

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    Interview with Ntathu Allen on the benefits of Yoga and Meditation for Midlife Women

    Interview with Ntathu Allen on the benefits of Yoga and Meditation for Midlife Women

    Ceri Wheeldon of Fab after Fifty interviews Ntathu Allen of Yoga Inspires You about the benefits yoga and meditation can bring to midlife women.We talk about the different types of yoga and the benefitsHow to get startedWhy you don't have to be 'bendy' to do yoga.Some simple yoga and meditation exercises you can do straight away to feel calmer, less stressed and more centred.How simple things such as brushing your teeth with the opposite hand can help you be more 'mindful'.Helpful links to accompany this episode: Free online mini course https://meditation-for-beginners.teachable.com/p/relax-destressSimple yoga poses (including the Mountain pose mentioned in the podcast. https://ezinearticles.com/?Yoga-For-Beginners---Three-Basic-Yoga-Standing-Postures-to-Improve-Your-Concentration-and-Balance&id=1743815  Useful articles written by Ntathu on the Fab after Fifty websitehttps://www.fabafterfifty.co.uk/2014/06/30/three-quick-and-easy-yoga-breathing-exercises-to-quieten-your-mind/ https://www.fabafterfifty.co.uk/2014/05/12/3-ways-to-wake-up-with-a-smile-for-a-happier-you/https://ezinearticles.com/?Yoga-For-Beginners---Three-Basic-Yoga-Standing-Postures-to-Improve-Your-Concentration-and-Balance&id=1743815----more----Full episode transcript: [00:00:04] I'm Ceri Wheeldon. Welcome to the Fab after Fifty podcast. Leading the pro age conversation, talking about all things life after 50. [00:00:17] Hello and welcome to this week's episode of the Fab after Fifty Podcast. I'm delighted to have with me today Ntathu Allen who is an author, yoga and meditation teacher and she focuses on working with working women who feel worn out, burnt out and stressed out and yet still push through. And Ntathu helps them to release, tension and worries, find calm and reconnect with themselves. And Ntathu is also a resident expert on the website. This podcast is a great opportunity for you to meet her. Hello Ntathu  and welcome to Fab after 50. [00:00:49] Hi Ceri. So thankful to be here on your show. Thank you,I'm looking forward to chatting with you today. [00:00:56] And what are you going to be sharing with us? [00:00:59] I'd like to share with you just some nuggets from yoga and meditation, really for simple practices and things we can do when,  I think  we all go through hard times.  I know I have we've got means like yoga, meditation when things aren't working for you and we're struggling to find the way through. And I just find that through teaching, yoga and meditation these are really simple tools that I'd love to share with our readers and listeners that we can use anywhere, any time just to help you feel better, get a sense of calm, let go of tension and stress. [00:01:38] And how does it actually work to help relieve that sense of stress? Because we all, I think especially in the Instagram era now, when we think of yoga, we have people sharing images of themselves in  what would be impossible for me to do poses. And that tends to be what comes to mind now. And you think of yoga. Sort of, you know, these sort of people with legs that seem to go at almost the humanly impossible angles. [00:02:05] Yes. Yeah. And that really makes me sad. The way yoga's betrayed now in the media, it's really portrayed for young, slim, white, women. And it's really not. Yoga is an ancient system of well-being. And traditionally, you know, you didn't have to do those poses to do yoga. We could just simply focus on our breath or even sitting up taller, relaxing your shoulders. For me, that's yoga. It's becoming aware of how you're feeling in that present moment. That's yoga. Meditation. It really isn't. It is and it isn't. There is an element of  yoga where they do the head stand on a cliff. But that really isn't what yoga is about. It really isn't. [00:02:57] I would love to dispel that myth. How do you think that's come about? I'm not quite sure. I

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    Interview with Mind and Body Expert Susan Scott on How to Have More Energy and Improve your Work Life Balance

    Interview with Mind and Body Expert Susan Scott on How to Have More Energy and Improve your Work Life Balance

    Ceri Wheeldon of Fab after Fifty  interviews mind and body expert Susan Scott , author of the book Life Force.In this episode Susan talks about why we feel constantly tiredThe role technology plays in ongoing fatigueHow we can best avoid stressHow we can create more energyHow to create a more positive mindsetThe role of diet and exercise in creating more energy and balance in life3 top tips to improve energy----more----Read Full Transcript:Full episode transcript : Interview with Mind and Body Expert Susan Scott on How to Have More Energy and Improve your Work Life Balance[00:00:04] I'm Ceri Wheeldon. Welcome to the Fab after Fifty podcast. Leading the pro age conversation, talking about all things life after 50. [00:00:17] Hello and welcome to this week's podcast. And I'm delighted to have with me today Susan Scott. Now, Susan Scott is a mind and body expert, a professionally trained nutritionist and psychologist, and she's also the author of two best selling books, How to Prevent Burnout and How to Have an Outstanding Career. And her latest book is called Life Force. Hello, Susan. Welcome to Fab after  50. Hello, Ceri. And thank you for asking me to join you now. Why Life Force? I know this your latest book. You sent me notes through ahead of today's conversation. I was absolutely astounded to read that one in five people in the UK reportedly feel tired all of the time. Why is that? [00:00:59] I know. I know. I mean, it's quite shocking. And actually, I'd even suggest it's more than that. It's I think it's an awful lot about the life that we're living at the moment. We're living in this world and always on the pace of life is growing at a phenomenal rate. We're working longer hours. We're cutting back on recreation time. More importantly, we're cutting back on me time because we just want to keep doing everything. And it's taking its toll now. [00:01:28] Does Technology play a part in that? I mean, I know that when I was certainly I would say at the peak of my headhunting career, we weren't expected to be on 24/7. If I travelled it on the train. That was my thinking time. Whereas now I'm on the train, I'm there with my smartphone catching up on social media and emails on the go. So you never really switch off. [00:01:53] But the thing about technology now is it's broken down all the boundaries. So one of the things people often ask me or my workshops is how do I get my work life balance? And actually, I'd say it doesn't even exist anymore. It's about life balance because technology means we're accessible all the time. But so is work accessible all the time. So we keep dipping in and out. I mean, I would get a train at 7:00 in the morning into London. And people will be on that train on their laptops, working, trying to get on top of it. And they're doing the same on the way home. So, in fact, rather than saying, oh, they're spending eight, nine hours of work, they're spending more like ten, eleven hours at work, actually. So it is it is contributing significantly to this feeling tired all the time. And what's exacerbating that is the stress that's being built up around it. The chronic stress of actually dealing with it for your body it's almost like being in constant fight or flight. And that's exhausting. [00:02:55] And I don't know about, you know, the people that you have coming through as you or your clients or through your workshops. But I know if I consciously take a day off and switch a laptop off, the phone off, et cetera. I feel so guilty. I did that recently as I was so exhausted that I actually need to clear my head and I just need my space. I had day in the sunshine, but then I feel really guilty afterwards for having taken that time out. [00:03:21] Ceri, you mustn't feel guilty you've got to be kind to yourself. And I think that almost is a mantra. Be kind to yourself, because if you're not kind to you

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