Motherhood changes us. As the generation who were told we could do anything and be anything we want to be, accepting the changes that come with motherhood can be very difficult. Our priorities shift, our definition of success evolves, and we find ourselves questioning our addiction to busy-ness. Who are we now? And can we be the best mamas without completely losing ourselves along the way? The Happy Mama Movement is a collection of interviews and insights with real mamas around the world, reflecting on mindfulness, real connection, and the realities of being a modern day mama.
Ep #158 - Let the warrior energy rest.mp3
I know it's predictable, and easy for everybody to talk about how hard this year has been but there are some important things I want to share with you today.
It's been a year of deep challenges for so many of us. Who would have thought that this year would bring a global pandemic that has turned so much of our cultural systems, the way we live the way we even think about our lives, completely upside down.
When we are faced with challenges.
There is a part of us that steps up and steps forward to do what is needed to be done. I saw this in the bushfires. And I saw this again in lockdown and remote learning.
And I know that this is what you have had to lean on this year.
This is our masculine energy. And what I mean by that is within each of us there is a masculine and a feminine energy.
The masculine energy, when it's healthy and balanced, is our protector. It is focused on the outcomes. It knows it needs to get somewhere and get it done for everybody to be okay. And I feel like 2020 has been the year of us living in that energy, mostly because we had to.
This has been a very masculine energy that has been required of us. And it's done a brilliant job.
In this episode, I'd like to remind you to pause for a moment and think about what that energy has done for us this year. It has kept us going. It has kept you showing up for your kids. It has kept showing up for all the things that have been asked of you. And my goodness, a lot has been asked of you.
But for that masculine energy to step back, for us to stop feeling like we need to keep going, no matter what we need to tell it, it's all good. So let's also be intentional about letting our very tired masculine energy that is it ok now to slow down, to ease up, and to rest.
Because you will need it again and for it to stand up and protect you with the required force, it needs to rest. You mama, need to rest.
I've also created a very special end of year program for you to help you rest, reset and renew, ready for 2021 - this program is not my usual goal setting program, but a deep and connected coming back to yourself, a return to simple, powerful practices that honour the rites of passage of womanhood. If you'd like to join us you can find the details here - https://www.amytaylorkabbaz.com/renew/
Ep #157 - Honouring the Maiden in Motherhood with Kell Casey
We're told that matrescence is the transformation from Maiden to Mother - but do we really leave the maiden energy behind?
Once we're a mother, are we never again able to connect to that young, free, creative side of ourselves?
The answer, of course, is no.
Of course we must honour and connect with that free and creative side of ourselves, even when we are deep in the role of Mother.
In fact, perhaps it is the belief that the Maiden is gone forever that causes us so much grief and sadness?
In this powerful podcast episode, spiritual mentor and mama of three Kell Casey speaks with me about the real role of the Maiden, and the importance of bringing her into your life again, even as you navigate motherhood.
She talks about the Maiden's powerful role, and how to reconnect to her if you feel you've left that carefree fun side of yourself behind since becoming a mama.
You can find out more about Kell's phenomenal work here - https://www.kellcasey.com and if you want to find the free Inner council meditation head over here - https://www.kellcasey.com/innercouncil/
Ep #156 - Underneath the role of mother with Rebecca Rylands
Yes, of course you're a mother.
And that role affects every single part of your life.
But we don't just show up fresh to mamahood, without our own stories, traumas, dreams and hopes.
Underneath our role as a mama, we're also a whole woman... and unless we allow the time and space to consider what's underneath the day to day reality of mamahood, we often aren't even aware of how our own stories affect what we do.
What if looking 'underneath' motherhood allowed you to see that you're carrying some grief about some parts of your life... and that unspoken and unacknowledged grief was affecting the way you dealt with tantrums or sleep deprivation?
In this podcast episode with Rebecca Rylands - counsellor, circle of security practitioner, and women's facilitator - we explore how to honour who you are underneath all that you do each day... and why understanding yourself in this way is the greatest gift you can bring to those around you.
Ep #155 - Why we don't ask for help
So if we accept we're not meant to do this alone, then why don't we ask for more help?
If we understand, on a conscious level, that the Motherload and the Third Shift is unfair and unbalanced, then why don't we speak up more often and lean on those around us?
This is something I've been contemplating a lot lately.
I've needed more help in my own life over the past few months, and I've also been witnessing and observing the women around me struggle to lean on others.
And what I've seen is - it's more than just "I should be able to do this myself."
There's the worry of your children being seen as difficult;
There's the concern that your kids are too much;
There's different disciplines and approaches.
In other words, the reasons we don't ask for help run deep... and if we're ever going to stop this Superwoman addiction, we're going to have to shine a light on them - which is exactly what I do in this episode.
Ep #154 - The Good Enough Mother with Dr Sophie Brock
What does it mean to be a 'good mother?'
When we actually pause and ask ourselves that question, it can be scary what answers we here:
Always there, always available.
Never grumpy or angry.
Maybe even, self-sacrificing.
This is what we've been told, for many many decades:
to be a good mother, we need to be perfect.
And even if you don't think you carry that belief, scratch the surface, and you'll be surprised the stories you tell yourself about who you need to be for your children.
Dr. Sophie Brock knows all about this. She is not only a Motherhood Studies specialist, she's also a mama herself. She's both dived deep into the research around our expectations on women once they become mothers and lived it herself.
In this episode, you will hear insights into why you feel the way you do that will make you cry with relief... and maybe rage with anger. There's a lot here - because there's a lot of unspoken truths about the institute of motherhood.
But what Dr. Sophie Brock will show you is... you will fail your children - it's part and parcel of the role. Your children need to see you do that. What's most important is - they see you forgive yourself in the process.
Dr. Sophie Brock is a Sociologist who specialises in Motherhood Studies, and a single Mother to her 3-year-old daughter. Her work advocates for the liberation of mothers from the myths of perfect motherhood, bringing academic research on motherhood to the public forum. She offers online education through her membership, courses, and individual mentoring, and hosts The Good Enough Mother podcast. You can connect with her further @drsophiebrock on Facebook/Instagram, or www.drsophiebrock.com
Ep #153 - Matrescence and Adoption with Melissa Christian
Matrescence isn't about birthing a child. It is about the whole journey of nurturing and raising children. It is about the way lose ourselves and find new versions of ourselves in and around our role a Mother. And in today''s podcast episode I am sharing with you the amazing story (so far) of an incredible mother of 3, Melissa Christian.
Melissa is currently an adoptive mum of 3 beautiful children via inter-country adoption. Now a stay at home mum, she spent her working life as an early childhood educator in the early years sector. She is now looking to support other adoptive mothers who are navigating the journey of motherhood.
After recognising post adoption depression and feeling alone in her own journey, Melissa attended therapeutic parenting workshops to better understand her own parenting experiences and recognising the guilt we carry as new mums. From speaking with other adoptive mothers and hearing their experiences, she recognised a real need within the adoption community.
Melissa is reaching out to adoptive mothers via her Facebook group Matrescence for Adoptive Mother's. The strong response has encouraged her to continue to reach out and support the greater adoptive community and creating safe environments for mothers to supported and comfortable opening up.
You can find her Facebook Group for Adoptive Mothers: https://www.facebook.com/groups/322601425849084/
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