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We all have that friend that teeters on the line of too-honest. She may not be the friend to go to when you’ve decided to get back together with your ex, but she’ll definitely be the friend you go to when it all backfires and you are ready for the truth. That’s where In All Honesty comes in. Each week, five board accredited life coach and best selling author Michelle Elman, will answer your questions using both her expertise and her experience of working with clients to provide solutions that not only work but enhance your life. In All Honesty makes personal development accessible, with help from a professional, without the six-week waiting list. You can find out more about Michelle on Instagram (@ScarredNotScared), Twitter (@ScarredNtScared) or her website www.michelleelman.com
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In All Honesty Michelle Elman

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We all have that friend that teeters on the line of too-honest. She may not be the friend to go to when you’ve decided to get back together with your ex, but she’ll definitely be the friend you go to when it all backfires and you are ready for the truth. That’s where In All Honesty comes in. Each week, five board accredited life coach and best selling author Michelle Elman, will answer your questions using both her expertise and her experience of working with clients to provide solutions that not only work but enhance your life. In All Honesty makes personal development accessible, with help from a professional, without the six-week waiting list. You can find out more about Michelle on Instagram (@ScarredNotScared), Twitter (@ScarredNtScared) or her website www.michelleelman.com
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    Apologies: Why do I not believe people when they apologize?

    Apologies: Why do I not believe people when they apologize?

    Why do I not believe people when they apologize?
    How do I forgive myself and know I won't do it again?
    Should I continue to persist when someone doesn't accept your apology?
    How do I ask for an apology for something that happened ages ago?
    In this episode, Michelle answers questions on apologies and explains what a good apology involves. She discusses apology languages and why she doesn't completely agree with this model but how it is helpful to construct your own apologies. She talks about the phrase "if they were really sorry, they wouldn't have done it in the first place" and how some people need time to realise when they've done something wrong and some people realise instantly. She discusses the difference between real apologies and when apologies are just words. She also gives tips for people who hate apologising and how to move your ego out of the way. She also discusses a scene in Ginny and Georgia about how jealousy between parents and children can arise and how to process that jealousy.
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    • 40 min
    Red Flags: Is it a red flag if they never ask about me?

    Red Flags: Is it a red flag if they never ask about me?

    Is it a red flag if they never ask about me?
    What are the warning signs for emotional unavailability?
    Are there any clues that someone is going to ghost?
    In this episode, Michelle answers questions on red flags and defines what a red flag is. She explains the actual meaning of red flags and why this word should not be used to describe everything. She discusses how the idea of foreseeing every red flag is flawed and why we need to have a balance of being aware of red flags and not being too overanalytical. She explores the concept of conscious dating and why this is the key to a healthy balance. Within this episode, she also gives you tips on how to be conscious enough to spot red flags. She also discusses a scene in Real Housewives of New York and how our fantasies create contradictions in the words we say when we aren't being honest with ourselves.
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    • 49 min
    Breakups: How do I know I made the right decision?

    Breakups: How do I know I made the right decision?

    Can you still stay friends if one person likes the other and it's not reciprocated?
    Should you end it if they don't want kids and you do?
    How do you know your breakup was the right decision?

    In this episode, Michelle answers questions on breakups and discusses the importance of making sure breakups are clean breaks. She talks about whether you actually should stay friends after a break-up and why it really doesn't matter who breaks up with who. She discusses why breakups should be a discussion and not a finite conversation and whether you are too young to make a decision about kids. Within the episode, she also gives tips on how to heal from a breakup and why you need to take time to grieve the future you once had. She also discusses an episode of Ugly Betty and why boundaries are so necessary for breakups and why it is unfair to force a friendship when both people are not invested.
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    • 36 min
    Family: If I cut them out, will I regret it when they die?

    Family: If I cut them out, will I regret it when they die?

    If I cut family out, will I regret it when they die?
    What can you do when family treat me like I'm stupid?
    Is it OK to set boundaries over emails and text?
    In this episode, Michelle answers questions on family relationships and discusses how we should hold the same standards of treatment in our familal relationships than any other relationship in our life. She talks about how the media has perpetuated this idea of "perfect families" and how Christmas enhances this idea. She shows how to set boundaries within family relationship and talks about how we learn boundaries most from our parents. She unpicks whether you can be good at setting boundaries if you are not good at receiving it and also questions how the idealised view of parents means we tend to romanticise our childhoods.
    Within the episode, she also gives tips on how to improve communication within your family and why you shouldnt' accept 'how things have always been' for future communication. She also discusses an episode of Station 19 that highlights how we can talk about the intersections of race and the racism that the Asian community are facing due to Corona Virus.
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    • 39 min
    Sex: How Do You Have The Consent Conversation Without Turning Them Off?

    Sex: How Do You Have The Consent Conversation Without Turning Them Off?

    How do you have a consent conversation without turning them off?
    What do you do when penetration just doesn't work?
    Can you have a casual relationship without moving too quickly?

    In this episode, Michelle answers questions on sex and discusses how we focus too much on the penis and penetration in sex. She talks about how we need to prioritise female pleasure more and why the consent conversation is simply boundary setting. She talks about why so many women find penetration uncomfortable and why the normalisation of sex hurting for women stems from the idea that a woman's first time is going to hurt. She gives you tips on how to be more in your body during sex and why it's important to stay out of your head. Within the episode, she also shares how to get into a casual relationship and why unsolicited dick pics don't ever need to be tolerated. She also discusses a scene in One Tree Hill that highlights the problem with rushing into marriage to heal a childhood wound and gives a key warning sign of moving too quickly.
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    • 38 min
    Life Changes: What If I Can't Cope With The Responsibility?

    Life Changes: What If I Can't Cope With The Responsibility?

    When you change a lot, is it normal to want to change your friends?
    How do you stop worrying about future responsibility coming into your life?
    And what do you do when you aren't sure who you are anymore?

    In this episode, Michelle answers questions on life changes and asks that we notice the distinction between the adjustment process vs a settled change. She talks about how changes in your life may result in unexpected changes in the relationships and dynamics with the people in your life. She talks about the changes we have all faced in the pandemic and gives tips on how to manage change and create certainty if you feel unsafe. She gives you tips on how to stay in the moment, not needing to define every stage in your life and having more flexibility in life. She also discusses a scene in Scandal that highlights why it is important to have standards and know how you deserve to be treated. We also get into a conversation about chakras and how that can affect your energy.
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    • 39 min

Customer Reviews

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9 Ratings

9 Ratings

Aunty Nay Nayyy ,

Love every word!

I love this podcast so much! I’ve listened to each episode multiple times and each time I get something new out of it.
It’s very logical and practical advice that you can add into your self development journey. Thanks Michele 🥰❤️

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Eljlynch ,

Excited for more!

After admiring Michelle’s work for years now, and listening to the first two episodes, I cannot wait to hear more topics be discussed! Great work 👏🏼

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