A podcast for women who have experienced pregnancy or infant loss. Listen in on honest conversations from real women as they share candidly about their own experience of loss and what it has looked like for them to navigate grief.
If you have experienced the loss of a baby and are searching for hope and joy and just another mama who understands what you are going through, then this podcast is for you.
If you are a friend or a family member of someone who has experienced the loss of a baby and are looking for ways to intentionally care for and love the one grieving, this podcast is for you too.
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116. Life, Faith & Finding Hope After Infant Loss (Costello Syndroome) with Justice Kreider
You’re listening to The Joyful Mourning Podcast episode 116. My guest this week is Justice Kreider, a mom to three girls, one here on earth, one in heaven and one growing in her belly. During our time together Justice shares the story of her daughter Selah, She heard the words, we’re seeing some abnormalities at her 20 week anatomy scan but were given no clear answers as to what was wrong or what the prognosis would be. 7 weeks later at 27 weeks Justice would give birth to Selah who would live for 9 days. It would be another month before Justice was given any answers as to what had happened to her precious baby.
Justice shares honestly and tenderly and with the heart of a newly grieving mom having just lost her daughter within the year. We talk about what she would tell a mom who has been given news that something isn’t quite right, the mom in the waiting and the uncertainty. She talks about what surprised her about this journey, what helped her in this journey and what she would do differently if she was giving advice to another mom in a season of loss and grief.
We also talk about marriage after loss and what it’s been like to parent her living daughter Amara after loss and what pregnancy after loss has been like as well. Lastly we talk about her faith amidst this journey and it is my favorite part of this episode. When I asked her to tell me about her faith she answered with this: “I didn’t have anything to say to Him. I would sit in his presence though because I knew He was who I needed. He was the only one who would be able to help me through this.” and then in closing Justice says this: “i would never ever say I wish this never happened... because we got her.”
Justice shares in a way that is incredibly relatable and honest. Her words are truly full of hope and I am sure that you will be encouraged by her story and what she has learned along the way.
FREE GRIEF GUIDE
If you are new to the grief journey I want to share a free resource with you that I think will be really helpful. Navigating the complexities of grief can be feel overwhelming and confusing, if you could use a bit of help understanding what you are experiencing right now, head to themorning.com/griefguide to download a free Grief Guide. This is a simple resource written in collaboration with a counselor that will help you understand the grief you are experiencing, learn what is normal in grief, learn healthy ways to process and begin healing. The guide includes an explanation of bereavement trauma, the different aspects of trauma, what normal feelings of grief are, our bodies physical response to grief, when to seek professional help and journal prompts to help you process all of this in a healthy, helpful way that will lead to healing. To download this free guide head to themorning.com/griefguide.
FREE 7 DAY DEVOTIONAL
One more thing, if you are looking for hope and encouragement in your faith journey, I wrote a very, very simple 7 day devotional that I think you will really love and find really helpful. To download that free devotional head to themorning.com/devotional.
115. Navigating Pregnancy Loss: Marriage, Faith & Pregnancy After Loss with Rachel Ramirez
Today I have the privilege of interviewing Rachel Ramirez about her story of motherhood. Rachel has experienced 3 miscarriages and walked through the subsequent journey of grief and in this episode she is sharing all that she’s learned along the way.
We spend time talking about what miscarriage was like for her and what she wishes others understood about pregnancy loss and what encouragement she would give to a woman who has just experienced a miscarriage.
We talk about marriage after loss and how to navigate the inevitable differences in the ways partners grieve. Her wisdom about marriage and how to love your spouse while grieving is incredibly encouraging and practically helpful.
We also talk about pregnancy after loss and how she made the decision to try again even after multiple losses.
We spend a significant amount of time talking about Rachel’s faith journey. Her answers to my questions about how to navigate faith after loss might surprise you and I am certain they will encourage you.
If Christianity and the Bible and God is something you have never thought about much or are exploring for the first time we have words of hope for you too in this episode.
Whether you are searching for answers about God, angry at God, confused by Him, disappointed in Him or running to Him, or some combination of those, make sure you listen all the way to the end of this episode to hear Rachel’s analogy of God amidst grief -- it’s incredibly hope-filled and encouraging.
If you are unsure about this faith that Rachel and I are talking about, check out www.themorning.com/hope for a few resources that might be helpful to you in your faith journey.
We also have a free 7 day devotional called Hope for the Hurting that might be really helpful to you, to download that free devotional head to www.themorning.com/devotional
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114. Navigating Marriage & Faith After A Life-Limiting Diagnosis with Sarah Westfall
This week I am talking with Sarah Westfall about her son Carter and her experience with grief over the past 10 years. Carter was diagnosed with a prenatal life-limiting condition and during our time together she talks about what it was like to make the decision to continue carrying a baby that would not live long outside the womb, what she would tell a mom who has recently received a life-limiting diagnosis for her baby and what she wishes she had known about carrying and delivering a baby with a life-limiting diagnosis.
Sarah also talks about navigating marriage over the past 10 years of life after loss and the two specific things that her and husband did to navigate the challenges that exist in a marriage after the loss of a baby.
Sarah also shares candidly about her faith amidst her journey of loss and she talks about what it was like to be at a different place spiritually than her husband in the years following their son’s death. Sarah is really open in this interview about her faith journey and if you have ever asked questions like “Could God have healed my baby? If so, why didn’t he? Did he plan this? Could He have stopped it? Why didn’t He?” Sarah’s words are going to bring you a lot of comfort and hope. And if you are curious or interested about God, Sarah gives her thoughts on a good place to start on learning more.
We cover so much in this episode about loss and grief and marriage and spirituality, I love that Sarah shares from a perspective of having walked this journey for many years now. She brings encouragement and reminders of hope as someone who has been there and knows. I think her words and insights are going to really be a blessing to you.
EPISODE 114 SHOW NOTES
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113. Marriage After Infant Loss (Prenatal Life-Limiting Diagnosis) with Lindsey Dennis
I’m chatting with Lindsey Dennis about how the loss of her two daughters shaped her very young marriage. We talk about the patterns that developed as a result of experiencing such devastating loss so early in a marriage and what advice she would give to a couple new in their marriage and navigating grief.
We talk about how to navigate the reality of grieving differently than your spouse and she gives tangible advice about that that I think will really encourage you. She shares very transparently and honestly about what she would do differently in regards to her relationship with her husband.
Lindsey talks about what it looked like for her and her husband to pursue one another amidst grief; she shares honestly about how difficult that was for her and if you are feeling similarly the practical advice about this will be tangibly helpful and encouraging to you.
We talk about how important communication is but not just how important it is, which feels really obvious - but Lindsey gives some really helpful advice when I ask her what it looked like practically to communicate amidst grief -- especially when you are grieving differently than your spouse.
Lindsey shares the one question her counselor encouraged her and her husband to ask one another on a consistent basis. And please please make sure to listen all the way to the end because Lindsey’s final words offer such incredible hope.
LINDSEY'S FULL STORY: EPISODE 41
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LIVE Q&A / HOPE HANGOUT
Once a month we host a live Q&A and Lindsey will be joining us for this month’s q&a as we discuss marriage after loss. For details about how to join our March Hope Hangout, or to rsvp head to: themorning.com/hopehangout
29 Date Night Ideas: themorning.com/datenight
Build your marriage and reconnect with your spouse, even when you are in the depths of grief, with these date night Ideas.
Check out all the resources we have on marriage by heading to themorning.com/marriage.
112. Finding Answers & Hope After Recurring Miscarriage with Allison Schaaf
Today I am talking with Allison Schaaf, founder of Miscarriage Hopedesk -- a resource for women who are experiencing recurring pregnancy loss. Allison walked through many miscarriages with no real clear answers as to why this was happening and today we are talking about that journey. We talk about adoption and IVF and pregnancy after so much loss -- I ask her “how did you not give up hope?” Her answers to that question were really helpful and I think her daily mantra will be helpful to you if you are considering pregnancy after loss or are currently pregnant after loss.
We talk about marriage amidst loss and after loss and I agreed wholeheartedly when she said “It isn’t talked about enough how difficult the fertility journey is on a marriage.” That’s why we’re here and we are talking about; because your marriage matters and we know how difficult it can be to navigate such an important relationship amidst pregnancy or infant loss. That’s why we created a free Date Night Idea Guide just for you. A resource to help you reconnect and give your hearts a break from the heavy and hard and intense moments of grief. Head to themorning.com/marriage, to download 29 date night ideas that will help you connect with your spouse or partner even in the midst of grief.
During our time together Allison shares about what it looked like for her to advocate for herself and to find answers about why she was experiencing recurrent pregnancy loss. She gives a really practical tip for how to do that, to advocate for yourself, and even if you have not experienced recurrent pregnancy loss I think this tip will be really helpful for you and the way you interact with your doctors moving forward. And lastly as a registered dietician and chef Allison talks about the role food plays in our maternal health; her thoughts on this might surprise you and I think will offer you freedom in this area.
I loved getting to talk with Allison about her journey and I am so grateful for the practical wisdom she offers in this interview -- to check out all the resources we chat about in this episode make sure to check out the show notes at themorning.com/episode112. I think it’s going to be really helpful to you.
QUESTIONS WE DISCUSS IN THIS EPISODE
With each of your losses, there were different things that helped you in the grief that followed -- tell me about some of those things. What would you say to a woman who has experienced or is experiencing recurrent loss? Tell me about your decision to try to conceive again and again; how did you not give up hope? What did it look like for you to advocate for yourself? What steps did you take, medically speaking before you began trying to conceive again? What about throughout your pregnancies? What about our mental health amidst grief? What advice would you give to someone who might be interested in learning more about how nutrition affects this journey? You are a registered dietician -- what role does food play in our maternal health? Did you make any changes to your diet amidst your motherhood journey? Tell me about Miscarriage Hope Desk -- What is it? Why did you start it? What was your inspiration? What encouragement would you give to another mom who has experienced recurrent miscarriage? --
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111. Marriage After Miscarriage with Josefina Sanders
This week I am chatting with Josefina Sanders. She has joined us on the podcast in the past and was a speaker for our virtual conference this past fall. I am excited to have her back on the podcast as she has an incredible amount of wisdom to share. You can look forward to hearing her more as we plan to have her back a few more times in the coming year. This week I am asking Josefina all the questions about what it was like to navigate marriage amidst loss. Over the past 4 years she and her husband have experienced two miscarriages and have walked through much in regard to their journey to becoming parents. It has been difficult and yet Josefina said everything they have gone through has deeply impacted their relationship for the better.
One of the things Josefina and I talk about is how to pursue your spouse or partner even amidst loss and grief; she talked about making time for and being intentional about having fun… even when you’re hurting. We know how difficult that can be but also how important it is, so we put together a free download for you to use to help re-ignite that fun and give your hearts a break from heavy and hard conversations and moments of grief. Head to themorning.com/marriage, to download 29 date night ideas that will help you connect with your spouse or partner even in the midst of grief.
This episode is full of incredible wisdom, practical advice and tender honesty about navigating marriage after miscarriage; I am sure this episode is going to bless you.
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What a beautiful collection of stories to help thru the grief
I was just stumbling thru when I found this podcast. My days felt so dark like I would never again feel the sun so seeing the words joyful made me feel a little angry. How could I ever feel joyful? But thru listening all I heard were words remembering and HONOURING the big life changing loss. As I listened more I cried, I felt soothed by Ashlee’s quiet but strong voice. I listened more and started to believe that I too could again feel again peace. This was a huge shift for me done so gently with voices from the other side of the world. Thank you Ashlee and although I am not at joyful yet in this loss I am joyful in my ability to rise to be a parent and wife again.