Research has shown that the feeling of romantic love can be sustained only for a maximum of about 4 years (although it may well last much, much shorter!). On the other hand, marriage is meant to be a commitment for life. Children and their education, mortgages and so on are decades long investments. Consequently, romantic love is not a sufficient basis to sustain a marriage, and a more substantial foundation is required.
Ajahn Dhammasiha offers reflections how to maintain a long lasting commitment in marriage. He also quotes the five duties mentioned by the Buddha for both husband and wife in their mutual relationship (Sigālovādasutta, Dīgha Nikāya/Long Discourses #31).Naturally, as these instructions were given by the Buddha for a very different culture some 2,500 years ago, one has to interpret them in light of modern conditions. Nevertheless, the spirit of the Buddha's advice remains timeless and independent from social conditions, like for example the crucial importance of mutual respect, and to avoid feelings of disregard or disdain.www.dhammagiri.org.auwww.facebook.com/dhammagiri-forest-hermitagewww.youtube.com/channel/UCJINt0JJBfFm_x0FZcU9QJwwww.tinyletter.com/dhammagiri/archive