Mistress Wellbeing Dr Leila Davis

How much time do you spend in solitude, silence and stillness?

I don't spend much. In fact I've been actively seeking community over the last few years.

But when I do allow myself to get quiet, something happens where I feel more connected to my Self and to Nature.

It's a quandary because stillness always invites the messy bits of my life to emerge front and centre.
 I can't hide from the difficult emotions of sadness, grief, and guilt in the quiet. But I know there's a sweet spot on the other side of them.
 Come explore solitude with me today.

I’ve had a growing epiphany over the last few months about the effort required to create joy. 
Joseph Campbell is famous for saying,
“Follow your bliss”, and I took it to be simple and easy. 
It’s not. 
It takes effort, will, determination and often the ability to work through dark emotions like despair, frustration and doubt. 
I guess that’s why Campbell also wrote so much about the hero’s journey. 

So today, join me as we journey through what it takes to find your bliss and how you might make those first steps.

This is not a new age meme. 
It’s highly practical, logical and very real. 
Stay with me!
Would you like to unlock a secret way to make shift happen in your life?
Start visualising what you want with feeling and engagement. Really bring it to life. In your mind. 
Because your thoughts and feelings are powerful creators of reality. 
So next time your mind wants to slide into worry, regret and fear, stop.
 Imagine the opposite, the outcome you could only dream about, and build that possibility in your mind. 
Make it a practice and watch your life change towards the reality you set for yourself. 

Sometimes comfort zones are not so comfortable.
They're just familiar.
It's easy to go on in an uncomfortable, familiar way for years and even decades, but when you look back there might be sadness, regret, anger or resentment.
Today I'm exploring my own recent transformation, shedding parts of my life which had become heavy and uncomfortable, embracing new, lighter ways of being, and giving myself permission for more joy.
After all, my life is about me as well as other people!
 

How do you do life?

How do you show up most of the time?

Our Psyche is an interesting, complex thing which yearns for integration and wholeness, and today I'm exploring the concept of 'parts'.

It is liberating to recognise that I choose to show up as the caring doctor most of the time, but there are other parts of me longing for expression. 

Integrating all aspects of the self is a lifelong, rewarding process which you can start right now!

 
 

I used to feel that I was indelibly stamped with sadness and grief.
I didn't even know where it had sprung from.
All I knew was a deep pain and the shame that accompanied it.

This is what I hear from my clients very often, and as I reflect on my twenty years as a therapist, it's clear that my healing was  linked  directly to the healing of my clients.

When I started the long journey of healing - which is never finished- and realised what my story offered me, I opened to its richness and understood this counterintuitive notion that my woundedness was my giftedness.

The metaphor of the lotus rising through mud helps us understand our situation, and to seek the cool water, which is the right condition for flourishing.