My Person Died Too

John Polo & Carolyn Gower
My Person Died Too

Join widowed coaches John Polo and Carolyn Gower as we discuss all things grief and provide tips to help you rebuild after the death of someone close to you. This is a safe space where your grief is fully witnessed. We know that grief can't be fixed, however it can be integrated into a life that is fulfilling for you while still honoring your person.

  1. 23/04/2024

    62. Limiting Beliefs & The Stories We Tell Ourselves

    What are limiting beliefs? Where do they come from? How do they stop me from doing what I'd really love to do? How do they impact my grief? How can I change them? We answer all these questions and more in this insightful episode about how limiting beliefs and old wounds can shape our lives and also our grief. Don't forget to check out our book "The Stupid Shit People Say To Grievers". It's available worldwide via Amazon. Click on the link for your country below to order: US: ⁠⁠⁠⁠The Stupid Sh*t People Say to Grievers: Polo, John, Gower, Carolyn: 9798373054041: Amazon.com: Books⁠⁠⁠⁠ AUS: ⁠⁠⁠⁠The Stupid Sh*t People Say to Grievers : Polo, John, Gower, Carolyn: Amazon.com.au: Books⁠⁠⁠⁠ UK: ⁠⁠⁠⁠The Stupid Sh*t People Say to Grievers: Amazon.co.uk: Polo, John, Gower, Carolyn: 9798373054041: Books⁠⁠⁠⁠ GERMANY: ⁠⁠⁠⁠The Stupid Sh*t People Say to Grievers : Polo, John, Gower, Carolyn: Amazon.de: Books⁠⁠⁠⁠ FRANCE: ⁠⁠⁠⁠The Stupid Sh*t People Say to Grievers : Polo, John, Gower, Carolyn: Amazon.fr: Livres⁠⁠⁠⁠ SPAIN: ⁠⁠⁠⁠The Stupid Sh*t People Say to Grievers : Polo, John, Gower, Carolyn: Amazon.es: Libros⁠⁠⁠⁠ ITALY: ⁠⁠⁠⁠The Stupid Sh*t People Say to Grievers : Polo, John, Gower, Carolyn: Amazon.it: Libri⁠⁠⁠⁠ NETHERLANDS: ⁠⁠⁠⁠The Stupid Sh*t People Say to Grievers : Polo, John, Gower, Carolyn: Amazon.nl: Boeken⁠⁠⁠⁠ POLAND: ⁠⁠⁠⁠The Stupid Sh*t People Say to Grievers : Polo, John, Gower, Carolyn: Amazon.pl: Książki⁠⁠⁠⁠ SWEDEN: ⁠⁠⁠⁠Amazon.co.jp: The Stupid Sh*t People Say to Grievers : Polo, John, Gower, Carolyn: Foreign Language Books⁠⁠⁠⁠ JAPAN: ⁠⁠⁠⁠Amazon.co.jp: The Stupid Sh*t People Say to Grievers : Polo, John, Gower, Carolyn: Foreign Language Books⁠⁠⁠⁠ CANADA: ⁠⁠⁠⁠The Stupid Sh*t People Say to Grievers: Polo, John, Gower, Carolyn: 9798373054041: Books - Amazon.ca⁠⁠⁠⁠ We would really appreciate if you could rate and review our podcast, and spread the word so that more people know it exists. We'd love to help as many grievers as possible through this hardest time of their lives. Visit our websites: ⁠⁠⁠⁠carolyngowercoaching.com⁠⁠⁠⁠ & ⁠⁠⁠⁠johnpolocoaching.com⁠⁠⁠⁠ to learn more about our work. For added support in a caring community, join our FREE Facebook Group by clicking here : ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/groups/696138811624151/?ref=share⁠⁠⁠⁠ WOULD YOU LIKE TO HELP US KEEP OUR PODCAST GOING? MONTHLY SUPPORTERS receive the following: $4.99 USD - Receive our deepest gratitude for your support & buy a coffee for John and a green tea for Carolyn to keep us going while we’re recording.  $9.99 USD - Receive our deepest gratitude PLUS extra perks that will only be available to our supporters. Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠johnpolocoaching.com⁠⁠⁠⁠ to become a My Person Died Too supporter.

    36 min
  2. 16/04/2024

    61. Disenfranchised Grief: Meet Ally

    How would you feel if your loss and grief wasn't openly acknowledged, and you were forced to grieve in private without the support that other grievers receive? In this episode, we introduce you to Ally, who has been living with disenfranchised grief since her boyfriend died in 2020. We felt it was important to shed some light on this type of grief to help others have a better understanding of it. We would really appreciate if you could rate and review our podcast, and spread the word so that more people know it exists. We'd love to help as many grievers as possible through this hardest time of their lives. Visit our websites: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠carolyngowercoaching.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ & ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠johnpolocoaching.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to learn more about our work. For added support in a caring community, join our FREE Facebook Group by clicking here : ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/groups/696138811624151/?ref=share⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ WOULD YOU LIKE TO HELP US KEEP OUR PODCAST GOING? MONTHLY SUPPORTERS receive the following: $4.99 USD - Receive our deepest gratitude for your support & buy a coffee for John and a green tea for Carolyn to keep us going while we’re recording.  $9.99 USD - Receive our deepest gratitude PLUS extra perks that will only be available to our supporters. Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠johnpolocoaching.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to become a My Person Died Too supporter.

    56 min
  3. 09/04/2024

    60. Grief In The Workplace

    This week we have a very important conversation around returning to work after the loss of someone you love. We discuss the ridiculous amount of bereavement leave that most workplaces offer, how you may feel emotionally, and the expectations you may put on yourself. We share our own personal experiences, as well as those of some of our listeners, and suggest some things that you and your workplace can do to make the transition back to work a little gentler. Feel free to share this episode with other grievers and workplaces. We really need to ensure that grievers feel more supported in their workplace. Don't forget to check out our book "The Stupid Shit People Say To Grievers". It's available worldwide via Amazon. Click on the link for your country below to order: US: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Stupid Sh*t People Say to Grievers: Polo, John, Gower, Carolyn: 9798373054041: Amazon.com: Books⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ AUS: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Stupid Sh*t People Say to Grievers : Polo, John, Gower, Carolyn: Amazon.com.au: Books⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ UK: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Stupid Sh*t People Say to Grievers: Amazon.co.uk: Polo, John, Gower, Carolyn: 9798373054041: Books⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ GERMANY: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Stupid Sh*t People Say to Grievers : Polo, John, Gower, Carolyn: Amazon.de: Books⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ FRANCE: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Stupid Sh*t People Say to Grievers : Polo, John, Gower, Carolyn: Amazon.fr: Livres⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ SPAIN: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Stupid Sh*t People Say to Grievers : Polo, John, Gower, Carolyn: Amazon.es: Libros⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ITALY: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Stupid Sh*t People Say to Grievers : Polo, John, Gower, Carolyn: Amazon.it: Libri⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ NETHERLANDS: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Stupid Sh*t People Say to Grievers : Polo, John, Gower, Carolyn: Amazon.nl: Boeken⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ POLAND: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Stupid Sh*t People Say to Grievers : Polo, John, Gower, Carolyn: Amazon.pl: Książki⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ SWEDEN: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Amazon.co.jp: The Stupid Sh*t People Say to Grievers : Polo, John, Gower, Carolyn: Foreign Language Books⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ JAPAN: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Amazon.co.jp: The Stupid Sh*t People Say to Grievers : Polo, John, Gower, Carolyn: Foreign Language Books⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ CANADA: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Stupid Sh*t People Say to Grievers: Polo, John, Gower, Carolyn: 9798373054041: Books - Amazon.ca⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ We would really appreciate if you could rate and review our podcast, and spread the word so that more people know it exists. We'd love to help as many grievers as possible through this hardest time of their lives. Visit our websites: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠carolyngowercoaching.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ & ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠johnpolocoaching.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to learn more about our work. For added support in a caring community, join our FREE Facebook Group by clicking here : ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/groups/696138811624151/?ref=share⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ WOULD YOU LIKE TO HELP US KEEP OUR PODCAST GOING? MONTHLY SUPPORTERS receive the following: $4.99 USD - Receive our deepest gratitude for your support & buy a coffee for John and a green tea for Carolyn to keep us going while we’re recording.  $9.99 USD - Receive our deepest gratitude PLUS extra perks that will only be available to our supporters. Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠johnpolocoaching.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to become a My Person Died Too supporter.

    53 min
  4. 02/04/2024

    59. Sex After Grief: Meet Joan Price

    In this episode we introduce you to a truly amazing woman. Joan Price calls herself an advocate for ageless sexuality. She is an award-winning writer and internationally popular sex educator specializing in sex and aging. Her books include Sex after Grief: Navigating Your Sexuality after Losing Your Beloved and Naked at Our Age: Talking Out Loud about Senior Sex. Her blog has been offering senior sex news, views, and sex toy reviews from a senior perspective since 2005. At age 80, Joan Price continues to talk out loud about senior sex – partnered or solo – and about grief and creative aging. Find her at www.joanprice.com. A bit more about Joan's wonderful book that we discussed throughout this episode. This is such a valuable resource for widowed people of all ages. Sex After Grief: NavigatingYour Sexuality After Losing Your Beloved⁠  Sex is complicated enough when it’s easy—but when we’re in grief, it’s especially mysterious and confusing. How do we nurture ourselves as sexual beings when we’re grieving the death of a partner? Why does taking care of ourselves sexually even matter at a time when we’d rather hide under the covers and wail? What do we do with those sexual feelings that arise despite our misery? How do we know when it’s time to open ourselves to a new sexual relationship, whether it’s a friend with benefits or a new love connection? And how do we do it? Joan Price’s award-winning Sex After Grief: Navigating Your Sexuality After Losing Your Beloved is the first book to address sex and grief together and treat sex as a normal, positive, life-affirming part of emerging from grief. Please don't forget to rate and review our podcast, and spread the word so that more people know it exists. We'd love to help as many grievers as possible through this hardest time of their lives. Visit our websites: ⁠⁠carolyngowercoaching.com⁠⁠ & ⁠⁠johnpolocoaching.com⁠⁠ to learn more about our work. For added support in a caring community, join our FREE Facebook Group by clicking here : ⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/groups/696138811624151/?ref=share⁠

    1h 1m
  5. 19/03/2024

    57. Grief Boundaries

    A lot of people will resist setting boundaries because it's too uncomfortable and they don't want to let others down. But what if you're letting yourself down and are neglecting your own self-care? If you don't set healthy boundaries, you may constantly find yourself doing things others want you to do, rather than what you want to do, or putting up with things that don't sit right with you. This can often lead to resentment of the other person. Boundaries are even more important to have in place when you're grieving or experiencing a challenging time. This episode may help you to look at boundaries in a different way, and to feel more comfortable when using them. We would really appreciate if you could rate and review our podcast, and spread the word so that more people know it exists. We'd love to help as many grievers as possible through this hardest time of their lives. Visit our websites: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠carolyngowercoaching.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ & ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠johnpolocoaching.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to learn more about our work. For added support in a caring community, join our FREE Facebook Group by clicking here : ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/groups/696138811624151/?ref=share⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ WOULD YOU LIKE TO HELP US KEEP OUR PODCAST GOING? MONTHLY SUPPORTERS receive the following: $4.99 USD - Receive our deepest gratitude for your support & buy a coffee for John and a green tea for Carolyn to keep us going while we’re recording.  $9.99 USD - Receive our deepest gratitude PLUS extra perks that will only be available to our supporters. Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠johnpolocoaching.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to become a My Person Died Too supporter.

    53 min
  6. 12/03/2024

    56. But if I re-partner, who will I be with in heaven?

    It's a question that will sometimes cross your mind when you're widowed and might be starting to consider dating again... "But if I re-partner, who will I be with in heaven?" In this episode, John and Carolyn discuss their own personal thoughts on this topic, and how this question has affected some of their clients' decisions on whether to date after loss. Please note that we are simply providing our own personal thoughts and beliefs on this sensitive topic and are not trying to say that this is the truth, nor should be for everyone. We respect everyone's personal beliefs, and expect you to decide what feels right for you. Don't forget to check out our book "The Stupid Shit People Say To Grievers". It's available worldwide via Amazon. Click on the link for your country below to order: US: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Stupid Sh*t People Say to Grievers: Polo, John, Gower, Carolyn: 9798373054041: Amazon.com: Books⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ AUS: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Stupid Sh*t People Say to Grievers : Polo, John, Gower, Carolyn: Amazon.com.au: Books⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ UK: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Stupid Sh*t People Say to Grievers: Amazon.co.uk: Polo, John, Gower, Carolyn: 9798373054041: Books⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ GERMANY: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Stupid Sh*t People Say to Grievers : Polo, John, Gower, Carolyn: Amazon.de: Books⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ FRANCE: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Stupid Sh*t People Say to Grievers : Polo, John, Gower, Carolyn: Amazon.fr: Livres⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ SPAIN: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Stupid Sh*t People Say to Grievers : Polo, John, Gower, Carolyn: Amazon.es: Libros⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ITALY: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Stupid Sh*t People Say to Grievers : Polo, John, Gower, Carolyn: Amazon.it: Libri⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ NETHERLANDS: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Stupid Sh*t People Say to Grievers : Polo, John, Gower, Carolyn: Amazon.nl: Boeken⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ POLAND: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Stupid Sh*t People Say to Grievers : Polo, John, Gower, Carolyn: Amazon.pl: Książki⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ SWEDEN: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Amazon.co.jp: The Stupid Sh*t People Say to Grievers : Polo, John, Gower, Carolyn: Foreign Language Books⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ JAPAN: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Amazon.co.jp: The Stupid Sh*t People Say to Grievers : Polo, John, Gower, Carolyn: Foreign Language Books⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ CANADA: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Stupid Sh*t People Say to Grievers: Polo, John, Gower, Carolyn: 9798373054041: Books - Amazon.ca⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ We would really appreciate if you could rate and review our podcast, and spread the word so that more people know it exists. We'd love to help as many grievers as possible through this hardest time of their lives. Visit our websites: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠carolyngowercoaching.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ & ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠johnpolocoaching.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to learn more about our work. For added support in a caring community, join our FREE Facebook Group by clicking here : ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/groups/696138811624151/?ref=share⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ WOULD YOU LIKE TO HELP US KEEP OUR PODCAST GOING? MONTHLY SUPPORTERS receive the following: $4.99 USD - Receive our deepest gratitude for your support & buy a coffee for John and a green tea for Carolyn to keep us going while we’re recording.  $9.99 USD - Receive our deepest gratitude PLUS extra perks that will only be available to our supporters. Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠johnpolocoaching.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to become a My Person Died Too supporter.

    27 min
  7. 05/03/2024

    55. Life As A Solo Dad: Meet Connor Cogan

    This week we introduce you to a very special guest, who is also one of our My Person Died Too Facebook Community members. Connor Cogan was happily married to his beautiful wife Kate, with whom he shares three amazing kids. Life was going great, until it wasn't. Connor shares his heartfelt stories of loss, grief, solo parenting, and learning to live again without his beloved Kate by his side. Connor speaks with raw vulnerability about how different his life looks now, the ways he teaches their kids about grief, and the importance of raising them the way he and Kate had planned. Connor's words are sure to inspire you. We would really appreciate if you could rate and review our podcast, and spread the word so that more people know it exists. We'd love to help as many grievers as possible through this hardest time of their lives. Visit our websites: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠carolyngowercoaching.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ & ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠johnpolocoaching.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to learn more about our work. For added support in a caring community, join our FREE Facebook Group by clicking here : ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/groups/696138811624151/?ref=share⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ WOULD YOU LIKE TO HELP US KEEP OUR PODCAST GOING? MONTHLY SUPPORTERS receive the following: $4.99 USD - Receive our deepest gratitude for your support & buy a coffee for John and a green tea for Carolyn to keep us going while we’re recording.  $9.99 USD - Receive our deepest gratitude PLUS extra perks that will only be available to our supporters. Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠johnpolocoaching.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to become a My Person Died Too supporter. Don't forget to check out our book "The Stupid Shit People Say To Grievers". It's available worldwide via Amazon. Click on the link for your country below to order: US: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Stupid Sh*t People Say to Grievers: Polo, John, Gower, Carolyn: 9798373054041: Amazon.com: Books⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ AUS: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Stupid Sh*t People Say to Grievers : Polo, John, Gower, Carolyn: Amazon.com.au: Books⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ UK: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Stupid Sh*t People Say to Grievers: Amazon.co.uk: Polo, John, Gower, Carolyn: 9798373054041: Books⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ GERMANY: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Stupid Sh*t People Say to Grievers : Polo, John, Gower, Carolyn: Amazon.de: Books⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ FRANCE: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Stupid Sh*t People Say to Grievers : Polo, John, Gower, Carolyn: Amazon.fr: Livres⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ SPAIN: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Stupid Sh*t People Say to Grievers : Polo, John, Gower, Carolyn: Amazon.es: Libros⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ITALY: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Stupid Sh*t People Say to Grievers : Polo, John, Gower, Carolyn: Amazon.it: Libri⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ NETHERLANDS: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Stupid Sh*t People Say to Grievers : Polo, John, Gower, Carolyn: Amazon.nl: Boeken⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ POLAND: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Stupid Sh*t People Say to Grievers : Polo, John, Gower, Carolyn: Amazon.pl: Książki⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ SWEDEN: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Amazon.co.jp: The Stupid Sh*t People Say to Grievers : Polo, John, Gower, Carolyn: Foreign Language Books⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ JAPAN: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Amazon.co.jp: The Stupid Sh*t People Say to Grievers : Polo, John, Gower, Carolyn: Foreign Language Books⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ CANADA: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Stupid Sh*t People Say to Grievers: Polo, John, Gower, Carolyn: 9798373054041: Books - Amazon.ca⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

    56 min
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Join widowed coaches John Polo and Carolyn Gower as we discuss all things grief and provide tips to help you rebuild after the death of someone close to you. This is a safe space where your grief is fully witnessed. We know that grief can't be fixed, however it can be integrated into a life that is fulfilling for you while still honoring your person.

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