Reflect Reclaim & Liberate - with Sallyanne Hartnell

Sallyanne Hartnell

A podcast covering all things relationships, separation and divorce. Creating healthy, happy, fulfilling relationships without sacrificing any part of yourself.Supporting anyone feeling challenged in their relationship or marriage.Confidential conversations for you if you’re navigating separation, divorce or reorganising life afterwards.Decide whether to stay or leave a relationship or marriage.Divorce with less drama.Consciously choose what's next for you.

  1. 6 DAYS AGO

    The Letter to Your Ex You REALLY Want To Write

    Send us a text NB - language warning for this one. There’s a few F💣 In this episode, I share a client story about what happened when an unexpected message from an ex arrived around Christmas, and tipped something she thought was healed. I share the process we used together to slow it down, name what had been activated, and write a response that was honest rather than “nice.” I talk through: Why messages from ex-partners can land so powerfully, even years laterWriting a polite reply versus a truthful oneHow writing it all out can bring clarity, release, and self-trustAttachment patterns as context and an invitation for healing, not excusesWhen compassion turns into self-abandonmentAnd how closure is something we create, not something we’re given The episode includes a fictionalised reading of the letter she wrote - emotionally true, but anonymised and blended to protect identity. If you’re struggling to let go or wondering about your ex. Maybe been activated by an unexpected message or meeting, and wondered why it affected you more than expected, this episode is for you. Sallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & Strategist How you can work with me Book a free intro call Free Resources & Downloads - Choose You Guidebook - Having Hard Conversations - done for you scripts - Divorce with Less Drama - The Masterclass Follow me on INSTAGRAM All relationships are welcomed and supported at Reflect Coaching 🏳️‍🌈 This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening. Please note: all podcast content is general information only, not legal advice or information. Please seek specialist advice to support you & your unique circumstances.

    21 min
  2. 11/12/2025

    The Quiet Exit: Leaving a Relationship Gently When You Know Your Worth

    Send us a text In this episode, we explore the moment you quietly realise you can’t carry the relationship alone anymore. You’ll hear:  • What the “quiet exit” actually looks like  • How belief without change becomes burnout  • Why hope without action becomes a cage  • The moment you stop trusting in his potential and start loving yourself more  • What to do when you’ve been over-functioning to his under-functioning  • The next steps when you're done, tired, and stepping into clarity If you feel this… if you know this… if this is you... or it's becoming you... this episode is your reminder that you’re not cold, crazy, or asking too much.  You’re honouring yourself. Sallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & Strategist How you can work with me Book a free intro call Free Resources & Downloads - Choose You Guidebook - Having Hard Conversations - done for you scripts - Divorce with Less Drama - The Masterclass Follow me on INSTAGRAM All relationships are welcomed and supported at Reflect Coaching 🏳️‍🌈 This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening. Please note: all podcast content is general information only, not legal advice or information. Please seek specialist advice to support you & your unique circumstances.

    24 min
  3. 04/12/2025

    How to Respond When Your Ex Says Things That Trigger You

    Send us a text In this episode, Sallyanne talks about the activating or triggering comments that can come your way during separation or divorce. Even before you separate.  You’ll learn practical, grounded ways to respond (rather than react) without spiralling, without defending yourself, and without giving away your power. We explore:  • Why these comments land so deeply  • How to separate their words from your worth  • Clear, simple boundary-based responses you can use immediately  • How to shift from being reactive to being anchored and self-led This episode helps you stay steady, reclaim your emotional space, and stop letting your ex’s words pull you back into an old version of yourself. Sallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & Strategist How you can work with me Book a free intro call Free Resources & Downloads - Choose You Guidebook - Having Hard Conversations - done for you scripts - Divorce with Less Drama - The Masterclass Follow me on INSTAGRAM All relationships are welcomed and supported at Reflect Coaching 🏳️‍🌈 This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening. Please note: all podcast content is general information only, not legal advice or information. Please seek specialist advice to support you & your unique circumstances.

    21 min
  4. 27/11/2025

    Solo Travel After Divorce: Reclaiming Yourself, Healing and Creating Your Own Magic

    Send us a text Things I’ve Learned Solo Travelling Since My Divorce Solo travel after divorce hits differently. It’s equal parts freedom and fear, excitement and vulnerability. You’re no longer part of a “we,” and sometimes, that absence echoes but there’s also something quietly powerful about that. You’re choosing yourself. Your own adventure. Your own rhythm. In this episode I share a few things I’ve learned solo travelling since my divorce - things that made the experience richer, easier, and at times, unexpectedly healing. NB: After recording, I realised I forgot to include the most important piece: First and foremost… choose a destination and accommodation where you can be and feel safe. In every sense — emotionally, physically, and financially. All your other decisions come from there. If you’re ready (or would like in the future) to explore the world - and yourself - on your own terms, this episode is for you. Perfect For: Women (and anyone) navigating life after divorce who are curious about solo travel, self-discovery, and reclaiming joy and freedom. Listen if you want: Inspiration to take your first (or next) solo trip.Practical, down-to-earth tips for travelling safely and joyfully alone.Reflection on how travel can be a tool for healing and self-reconnection.Where to next? Sallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & Strategist How you can work with me Book a free intro call Free Resources & Downloads - Choose You Guidebook - Having Hard Conversations - done for you scripts - Divorce with Less Drama - The Masterclass Follow me on INSTAGRAM All relationships are welcomed and supported at Reflect Coaching 🏳️‍🌈 This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening. Please note: all podcast content is general information only, not legal advice or information. Please seek specialist advice to support you & your unique circumstances.

    33 min
  5. 06/11/2025

    Christmas & Divorce: Letting Go of Holiday ‘Shoulds’ When Your Relationship Feels in Limbo

    Send us a text Navigating separation, uncertainty, and emotional overload during the holidays — without guilt, shame, or pressure. The holidays are supposed to be a wonderful joyful time of the year. But what if your relationship is falling apart, already over, or hanging by a thread? In this episode, Sallyanne talks honestly about the emotional weight of Christmas when you’re navigating separation, divorce, or deep relationship doubt. We unpack the pressure of holiday “shoulds” - the expectations to keep things cheerful, stay together “for the kids,” or maintain appearances - and offer real talk, validation, and guidance for doing things differently this year. Whether you’re quietly questioning your relationship or deep in the mess of divorce, this episode is here to help you feel less alone and more empowered. BOOK A CLARITY CONSULT with Sallyanne 2 online coaching sessions with full messaging support between sessions Designed to get you through the holidays easefully, intentionally and without feeling the pressure to have it all together.  Sallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & Strategist How you can work with me Book a free intro call Free Resources & Downloads - Choose You Guidebook - Having Hard Conversations - done for you scripts - Divorce with Less Drama - The Masterclass Follow me on INSTAGRAM All relationships are welcomed and supported at Reflect Coaching 🏳️‍🌈 This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening. Please note: all podcast content is general information only, not legal advice or information. Please seek specialist advice to support you & your unique circumstances.

    27 min
5
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20 Ratings

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A podcast covering all things relationships, separation and divorce. Creating healthy, happy, fulfilling relationships without sacrificing any part of yourself.Supporting anyone feeling challenged in their relationship or marriage.Confidential conversations for you if you’re navigating separation, divorce or reorganising life afterwards.Decide whether to stay or leave a relationship or marriage.Divorce with less drama.Consciously choose what's next for you.