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In the 25+ years Janet Lansbury has worked with children and parents, she's learned a lot. She's here to share it with you. Each episode of Unruffled addresses a reader's parenting issue through the lens of Janet's respectful parenting philosophy, consistently offering a perspective shift that ultimately frees parents of the need for scripts, strategies, tricks, and tactics.

Janet is a parenting author and consultant whose website (JanetLansbury.com) is visited by millions of readers annually. Her work informs, inspires, and supports caregivers of infants and toddlers across the globe, helping to create authentic relationships of respect, trust, and love.

Janet’s best-selling books “No Bad Kids: Toddler Discipline without Shame” and "Elevating Child Care: A Guide to Respectful Parenting" are available in all formats at Amazon, Apple, Barnes & Noble, Google Play, and free at Audible (https://adbl.co/2OBVztZ) with a trial subscription.

Featured in the New Yorker, recommended Best Parenting Podcast by The Washington Post, New York Times, The Bump, Fatherly, Today's Parent, and many, many more.

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Respectful Parenting: Janet Lansbury Unruffled JLML Press

    • Kids & Family
    • 4.8 • 382 Ratings

In the 25+ years Janet Lansbury has worked with children and parents, she's learned a lot. She's here to share it with you. Each episode of Unruffled addresses a reader's parenting issue through the lens of Janet's respectful parenting philosophy, consistently offering a perspective shift that ultimately frees parents of the need for scripts, strategies, tricks, and tactics.

Janet is a parenting author and consultant whose website (JanetLansbury.com) is visited by millions of readers annually. Her work informs, inspires, and supports caregivers of infants and toddlers across the globe, helping to create authentic relationships of respect, trust, and love.

Janet’s best-selling books “No Bad Kids: Toddler Discipline without Shame” and "Elevating Child Care: A Guide to Respectful Parenting" are available in all formats at Amazon, Apple, Barnes & Noble, Google Play, and free at Audible (https://adbl.co/2OBVztZ) with a trial subscription.

Featured in the New Yorker, recommended Best Parenting Podcast by The Washington Post, New York Times, The Bump, Fatherly, Today's Parent, and many, many more.

Copyright JLML Press (2022) All Rights Reserved

    Best Ways to Encourage Independent Play

    Best Ways to Encourage Independent Play

    Janet addresses a parent’s concerns about her daughter’s unwillingness to play independently. She seems to need constant stimulation and entertainment.
    For more advice on common infant/toddler parenting issues, please check out Janet's books in paperback at Amazon, and in audio at Audible (adbl.co/2OBVztZ).
    Also available for download, her audio series "Sessions." This is a collection of recorded consultations with parents discussing their most immediate and pressing concerns (SessionsAudio.com).






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    • 23 min
    Navigating Get-Togethers with Relatives, Friends, and Their Kids

    Navigating Get-Togethers with Relatives, Friends, and Their Kids

    We may not always agree with the parenting styles of our relatives and friends, and that's okay. Get-togethers can still be enjoyable, positive social experiences for us and for our kids. In this episode, Janet offers her perspective on some of the common challenges that arise in gatherings with friends, family, and in public situations with other kids and parents. Her suggestions include:
     How to set ourselves up for successBeing proactive, rather than reactiveEffective interventions with other parents’ children (as well as our own)Thanks to our sponsor BetterHelp for supporting this episode. Get 10% off your first month of professional online therapy at www.BetterHelp.com/RESPECT.
    For more advice on common parenting issues, please check out Janet's best-selling books on Audible, FREE with a 30-day trial membership if you use this link: adbl.co/2OBVztZ.
    Paperbacks and e-books are also available at Amazon: https://amzn.to/3ATFwkb Google Play, Barnes & Noble, and Apple Books.


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    • 28 min
    It's Hard to Feel Compassion for Unreasonable Emotions

    It's Hard to Feel Compassion for Unreasonable Emotions

    A concerned parent writes that her 3-year-old seems to be in a constant state of frustration or anxiety, and she makes outlandish demands and cries when she doesn’t get her way. While this mom tries to be compassionate, it’s getting more and more difficult, and she worries that her own postpartum anxiety may have modeled the behavior. She’s looking for healthy ways to help them both cope.
    For more advice on common infant/toddler parenting issues, please check out Janet's books at Amazon and Audible (adbl.co/2OBVztZ).


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    • 21 min
    Raising Creative, Critical Thinkers in a Commercialized World (with Susan Linn)

    Raising Creative, Critical Thinkers in a Commercialized World (with Susan Linn)

    Janet's guest is psychologist, writer, researcher, and Harvard lecturer Susan Linn. For decades, Susan has been a passionate advocate for our children and a steadfast fighter against the infiltration of Big Business and Big Tech into kids' lives (and parents' pocketbooks). In an eye-opening discussion, Susan describes how digital culture is designed to indoctrinate children into consumerism and brand loyalty, and how it's geared to create dependencies on games and devices for stimulation and soothing. She explains how games and devices teach values that are often diametrically opposed to our own, how they can affect learning by shrinking our children’s world and even interfere with parent-child relationships. Ultimately, Susan and Janet focus on the positive actions we can take to lessen the impact of manipulative marketers while realistically acknowledging the role of digitized culture in all of our lives.
    More to learn in this episode:
    How to choose the most beneficial toys and programs for our kidsHow advertisers capture children's attention and encourage them to nag us for more, more, moreWhy combatting commercialized culture isn't only a family issue, but a societal oneWhat Alexa offers to "bored" childrenComputer games are less "active" for kids than we might believe
    For more on Susan, her work, and her books, visit: www.https://www.consumingkids.com/
    For more advice on common parenting issues, please check out Janet's best-selling books on Audible, FREE with a 30-day trial membership if you use this link: adbl.co/2OBVztZ. Paperbacks and e-books are also available at Amazon, Google Play, Barnes & Noble, and Apple Books.
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    • 39 min
    End of the Day Crazies with Kids

    End of the Day Crazies with Kids

    Many of us imagine late afternoons or evenings with our children as the perfect time to wind down and connect after a busy day. Unfortunately, this is often precisely when our children need to unload the day’s stresses. Which means that instead of enjoying restorative quality time together, we're faced with challenging behavior, high emotions, and discontent. Janet unpacks some of the reasons why evenings can be so difficult for kids and what we can do to help them (and ourselves!).  
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    For more advice on common parenting issues, please check out Janet's best-selling books on Audible, FREE with a 30-day trial membership if you use this link: adbl.co/2OBVztZ.
    Paperbacks and e-books are available at Amazon, Google Play, Barnes & Noble, and Apple Books. 




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    • 27 min
    Boundaries We Need and Deserve (with Nedra Tawwab)

    Boundaries We Need and Deserve (with Nedra Tawwab)

    Janet is joined by Nedra Tawwab: therapist, relationship expert, and author of the NY Times best-seller “Set Boundaries, Find Peace.” Nedra and Janet discuss how our personal boundaries with friends, family, co-workers, and children are crucial for building positive, healthy relationships. Nedra emphasizes how boundaries begin with being kinder to ourselves. "We are in relationships from the time we're born,” Nedra says, “and the biggest relationship, the most consistent relationship we have is the one with ourselves. And that is the relationship that I'm constantly trying to improve." Ultimately, the boundaries and self-image we nurture for ourselves teach our children what they deserve in their relationships, now and in the future.
    For more information and resources from Nedra, including her best-selling book "Set Boundaries, Find Peace," go to: https://www.nedratawwab.com/
    Thanks to Better Help for sponsoring this episode. Learn more and save 10% off your first month at BetterHelp.com/RESPECT.
    For more advice on common parenting issues, please check out Janet's best-selling books on Audible, FREE with a 30-day trial membership if you use this link: adbl.co/2OBVztZ.
    Paperbacks and e-books are available at Amazon, Google Play, Barnes & Noble, and Apple Books. 
    Janet's exclusive audio series "Sessions" is available for download. This is a collection of recorded one-on-one consultations with parents discussing their most immediate and pressing concerns (www.SessionsAudio.com). 


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    • 28 min

Customer Reviews

4.8 out of 5
382 Ratings

382 Ratings

Makenfab ,

Fabulous

I really like the format where Janet reads a question from a parent regarding a real life issue and then Janet goes about supplying a detailed response that explains why the behaviour and why the response she’s recommending. It makes a lot of sense that way. Janet is very thorough in breaking down the question to all the provided information so she doesn’t miss any parts of it. The adverts aren’t overly distracting either.

EMacca1 ,

Thankyou Thankyou Janet!

Absolutely love Janet Lansbury - her books, her blog and her podcasts! They have helped us so much in our parenting journey so far and I keep coming back time and time again as new things come up for us that we are working through. Thankyou Janet!

Rebecca Edge ,

Makes parenting easier and happier

What a wonderful, honest, helpful voice. Janet’s podcast has helped me enjoy parenting my beautiful 6 year old ever since I discovered it 5 years ago. Thankyou Janet, and please keep your advice and support coming.

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