17 episodes

Reconnecting diplomats and those living the diplomatic life with themselves and the world around them.

Next episode: 'On being an anxious diplomat' - Saturday 1 February 2020.

Do you have a suggestion for guests on future episodes or want to ask me a question? Come check out my blog and speaking and coaching services at www.thelonelydiplomat.com.

The Lonely Diplomat Phil McAuliffe

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Reconnecting diplomats and those living the diplomatic life with themselves and the world around them.

Next episode: 'On being an anxious diplomat' - Saturday 1 February 2020.

Do you have a suggestion for guests on future episodes or want to ask me a question? Come check out my blog and speaking and coaching services at www.thelonelydiplomat.com.

    Ep. 17 - On portable businesses with Amel Derragui

    Ep. 17 - On portable businesses with Amel Derragui

    This episode features my interview with Amel Derragui from Tandem Nomads.

    Simply, this conversation was so much fun. Amel and I chatted about how she came to start Tandem Nomads and how – with support – we can turn the challenges of our diplomatic lives into opportunities, just like Amel has.

    The episode was a direct response to the many comments I receive from you, my wonderful audience, about how the life of being a diplomatic spouse means leaving behind your career to accompany your diplomatic significant other. It doesn’t have to be this way if you want to maintain – or start – your career.

    If you’re accompanying a diplomat, wondering how we can better support those accompanying diplomats or have an idea for ‘something’ to do while you’re accompanying your significant other, you MUST listen to this episode. You will be inspired.

    About Amel

    Amel Derragui is a marketing and business coach, a speaker and the founder of Tandem Nomads. Tandem Nomads is a podcast show and entrepreneurship platform designed to help expat partners and global nomads build a successful portable business thanks to various resources and training programs. Her work has been featured on the cover story of Forbes Magazine in Austria, Global Living Magazine in the US and various other media. She is regularly invited to deliver workshops or webinars on how to build a successful portable business. She also often speaks about this topic at conferences for multinationals and international organizations (such as the World Bank, IMF and Foreign Ministries) who need to address the dual career challenges and support their employees’ spouses abroad.

    Contact Amel: connect@tandemnomads.com

    Links

    Website: www.thelonelydiplomat.com
    My book: https://amzn.to/2RkJCuv
    Blog post: ‘On setting up a portable business as a diplomatic spouse’: https://bit.ly/35T3mLm
    Tandem Nomads: www.tandemnomads.com
    Coaching, seminars and other services: www.thelonelydiplomat.com/services
    Please, support my work: www.thelonelydiplomat.com/support
    Contact me: admin@thelonelydiplomat.com

    • 1 hr 18 min
    Ep. 16 - On language and the words we use

    Ep. 16 - On language and the words we use

    Let’s become linguistic ninjas.

    As diplomats, we know how important language is to our work. We put in a great deal of effort to phrase our communiqués, speeches, letters and other communications just so.

    Indeed, diplomacy is ruled by protocols and using the right words at the right time in the right way avoids misunderstandings. Our words and thoughts at work can be dominated by keeping all possibilities open, lest we miss an opportunity to advance our country’s interests.

    But what happens when we adopt the same communication style within ourselves and with those around us? Let’s explore this and become more aware of the power of the words we think and use.

    Links:

    Website: www.thelonelydiplomat.com
    Blog post: ‘The Lonely Diplomat: on language’: https://bit.ly/2LwLXRh
    Miguel Ruiz, ‘The Four Agreements’: www.miguelruiz.com/the-four-agreements
    Coaching, seminars and other services: www.thelonelydiplomat.com/services
    Friends of The Lonely Diplomat: www.thelonelydiplomat.com/friends
    Please, support my work: www.thelonelydiplomat.com/support
    Contact me: admin@thelonelydiplomat.com

    • 39 min
    Ep. 15 - On being a gay diplomatic spouse with Kevin Huntting

    Ep. 15 - On being a gay diplomatic spouse with Kevin Huntting

    Let’s explore what it’s like to be LGBTQ and in a same-sex relationship while living a diplomatic life.

    In this episode, I have a fantastic and far-ranging chat with my friend, Kevin Huntting. Kevin wrote ‘On being gay and living a diplomatic life’ which was published on my blog in November 2019. The post has been widely read around the globe and has received some great feedback. We explore the issues raised in his blog about coming out and being vulnerable, how he’s experienced loneliness and lack of a career and how LGBTQ diplomats and their families can be supported.

    About Kevin:

    Kevin Huntting resides in Miami with his husband who is a member of Mexico’s Foreign Service. He and his husband met in San Francisco in 2006, and have had posts in Dallas, Mexico City, and Washington DC. Kevin began his career with General Electric and has spent 12 years working in various marketing areas like Customer Relationship Management (CRM), E-commerce, and Digital Marketing for Fortune 500 brands like GE, Gap Inc., Fossil Group, and the Inter-American Development Bank in Washington, DC.

    It was through these various life transitions that Kevin recognized there was little information focused on the needs of the global LGBTQ diplomatic and expat community. In 2016, he launched The Proud Diplomat (www.theprouddiplomat.com) a website, and social media channels dedicated to sharing the authentic stories of the LGBTQ expat community as well as insightful information impacting this community. He is currently pursuing his certification as a Professional/Personal Coach through the Institute for Professional Excellence in Coaching (iPEC).

    Links:

    Website: www.thelonelydiplomat.com
    Blog post: ‘On being gay and living a diplomatic life’: https://bit.ly/354zE64
    Coaching, seminars and other services: www.thelonelydiplomat.com/services
    Friends of The Lonely Diplomat: www.thelonelydiplomat.com/friends
    Please, support my work: www.thelonelydiplomat.com/support
    The Lounge: www.thelonelydiplomat.com/thelounge
    Contact me: admin@thelonelydiplomat.com
    Contact Kevin: info@theprouddiplomat.com

    • 59 min
    Ep. 14 - Thoughts on loneliness

    Ep. 14 - Thoughts on loneliness

    It’s time to have a kind and honest conversation in this episode of #thelonelydiplomatpodcast about a topic that makes many of you – my lovely audience – feel uncomfortable: loneliness.

    Let’s have this conversation together. Let’s talk about how we can say that we don’t feel lonely, but recognise how we need for more real, authentic connection in our lives. Can it really work this way? Is it that we just want the fix but not admit we have the condition? This is a real opportunity lost.

    I talk about the common responses I receive to when I admit that I have been lonely (and that I still feel lonely sometimes) and how we can all about connecting with others. Indeed, it seems that we rush to connect with others and the world around us but not spend time getting connected with ourselves.

    Make yourself a cup of something nice and settle in for a chat. You may indeed be lonely, but you’re definitely not alone.

    Links:

    Book: https://amzn.to/2q5kNJf
    Website: www.thelonelydiplomat.com
    Blog post ‘The Lonely Diplomat: on loneliness’: https://bit.ly/36tzZAx
    Blog post ‘Loneliness and the lack of real connection’: https://bit.ly/32iXlW9
    Coaching and other services: www.thelonelydiplomat.com/services
    Friends of The Lonely Diplomat: www.thelonelydiplomat.com/friends
    Please, support my work: www.thelonelydiplomat.com/support
    The Lounge: www.thelonelydiplomat.com/thelounge
    Contact me: admin@thelonelydiplomat.com

    • 38 min
    Ep. 13 - On mid-life crises with Dougal Sutherland

    Ep. 13 - On mid-life crises with Dougal Sutherland

    The very words ‘mid-life crisis’ can induce feelings of angst, unease and a desperation to recapture what we feel that we’ve lost. We desperately do not want to be the stereotype, but sometimes a red sports car or the affair is too tempting.

    But Dr Dougal Sutherland and I explore how we can face the thoughts and feelings that herald a mid-life crisis and use them to our advantage and conduct a useful evaluation of our life.

    I also share how I desperately did not want to have a mid-life crisis, but it turns out that the chance to re-evaluate my values reconnected me back to me and to those around me.

    Get a pen and paper now; you’ll want to take notes.

    About Dougal:

    Dougal is a clinical psychologist who teaches at Victoria University of Wellington and works for Umbrella (www.umbrella.org.nz). Dougal has worked with New Zealand diplomats helping with their resilience, mental health, and well-being.

    Links:

    Website: www.thelonelydiplomat.com
    Blog post ‘The Lonely Diplomat: on mid-life crises’: https://bit.ly/2Z7C7x9
    Coaching and other services: www.thelonelydiplomat.com/services
    Friends of The Lonely Diplomat: www.thelonelydiplomat.com/friends
    Please, support my work: www.thelonelydiplomat.com/support
    The Lounge: www.thelonelydiplomat.com/thelounge
    Contact me: admin@thelonelydiplomat.com

    • 59 min
    Ep. 12 - On being a male diplomatic spouse with Simon

    Ep. 12 - On being a male diplomatic spouse with Simon

    Being a male diplomatic spouse sounds like the ticket to the sweet life, doesn’t it? There’s the chance to explore the city, learn new hobbies, play sports, meet others just like you.

    Well, appearances can be deceiving. The lived reality can be very different. There’s social isolation that comes from having very few peers and living with being different to society’s expectations of a man’s role to contend with.

    There is a way through, and to thrive, when being a male diplomatic spouse. It involves answering the question: from where do you derive your sense of self?

    Simon is my guest in this episode, and he answers some of my questions about his thoughts about being a male diplomatic spouse through his experiences shared with us in his blog post ‘On being a male diplomatic spouse’ (link below).

    You’re not alone. I’m here. I’m creating an environment to help diplomats and those living the diplomatic life reconnect with themselves and the world around them.

    Links:

    Website: www.thelonelydiplomat.com
    Blog post: https://bit.ly/2Y2hxKI
    Coaching and other services: www.thelonelydiplomat.com/services
    Friends of The Lonely Diplomat: www.thelonelydiplomat.com/friends
    Please, support my work: www.thelonelydiplomat.com/support
    The Lounge: www.thelonelydiplomat.com/thelounge
    Contact me: admin@thelonelydiplomat.com

    • 29 min

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