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Two sisters from New Zealand discuss life after going no contact with their narcissistic mother. Chloe and Porsha will give you insight into how to spot a narcissist and how to heal.

The No Contact Club: Healing From A Narcissistic Mother Chloe and Porsha

    • Mental Health
    • 4.7 • 3 Ratings

Two sisters from New Zealand discuss life after going no contact with their narcissistic mother. Chloe and Porsha will give you insight into how to spot a narcissist and how to heal.

    Episode Twenty Three: The No Contact Club Holiday Special

    Episode Twenty Three: The No Contact Club Holiday Special

    This week Porsha and Chloe discuss tips for the approaching holiday season, whatever - you celebrate don't celebrate! They talk about options for those still in contact, and those who are no contact.
    If you want to send some feedback or just say hi, email us at thenocontactclub@gmail.com.  If you need support, please see the numbers below.
    Black Lives Matter: https://blacklivesmatters.carrd.co/
    NEW ZEALAND: 
    Lifeline: 0800 543354
    Depression Helpline: 0800 111 757 (Text 4202)
    AUSTRALIA: 
    Lifeline Crisis Support: 13 11 14
    Beyond Blue: Depression and anxiety support: 1300 22 46 36
    Rape & Domestic Violence Services: 1800 737 732
    Men's Line: 1300 78 99 78
    Headspace: Youth Mental Health Foundation: see headspace.org.au for your local centre.
    USA:  
    Distress & Lifeline: 1800 273 8255
    Crisis Text Line: text HOME to 741 741
    Domestic Violence Helpline: 1800 799 7233
    Victim Connect: support for victims of crime: 855 484 2846
    MTC program: maketheconnection.net/resources/spread-the-word
    UK: 
    Mind: mental health support: 0300 123 3393
    SANE: mental health support: 0300 304 7000
    Samaritans support network: 116 123
    National Stalking Helpline: 0808 802 0300
    CANADA: 
    For a list of Canadian crisis centres: https://thelifelinecanada.ca/help/call/
    References:

    https://esteemology.com/give-yourself-a-gift-this-holiday-season-a-lesson-in-no-contact/
    https://www.enotalone.com/forum/showthread.php?t=123773
    https://londoncentralcounselling.com/2017/12/05/going-no-contact-family-estrangement-at-christmas-and-other-major-holidays/
    https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/pathological-relationships/201011/triggers-and-knee-jerk-reactions-during-the-holidays
    https://www.soulfulfillinglove.com/how-to-follow-the-active-no-contact-rule-during-holidays/
    https://www.divorcemag.com/articles/why-do-narcissists-always-ruin-the-holidays-here-are-5-reasons
    https://www.health.com/relationships/how-to-deal-narcissist
    https://soulgps.medium.com/5-strategies-to-save-your-sanity-when-narcissists-try-to-sabotage-your-holidays-3d7d7dc7af27
    https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/here-there-and-everywhere/201911/how-deal-gaslighter-or-narcissist-during-the-holidays


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    • 47 min
    Episode Twenty Two: Surprise! Your Mother-in-law is a Narcissist

    Episode Twenty Two: Surprise! Your Mother-in-law is a Narcissist

    This week, Porsha and Chloe are joined by Ellen to discuss what it's like to come into a family with a narcissistic mother at the helm. They talk about normalising what shouldn't be normalised, and Ellen discusses her experiences coming into the family with Chloe and Porsha's narcissistic mother. If you want to send some feedback or just say hi, email us at thenocontactclub@gmail.com.  If you need support, please see the numbers below.  

    Black Lives Matter: https://blacklivesmatters.carrd.co/    

    NEW ZEALAND: 
    Lifeline: 0800 543354
    Depression Helpline: 0800 111 757 (Text 4202)    

    AUSTRALIA: 
    Lifeline Crisis Support: 13 11 14
    Beyond Blue: Depression and anxiety support: 1300 22 46 36
    Rape & Domestic Violence Services: 1800 737 732
    Men's Line: 1300 78 99 78
    Headspace: Youth Mental Health Foundation: see headspace.org.au for your local centre.    

    USA:  
    Distress & Lifeline: 1800 273 8255
    Crisis Text Line: text HOME to 741 741
    Domestic Violence Helpline: 1800 799 7233
    Victim Connect: support for victims of crime: 855 484 2846
    MTC program: maketheconnection.net/resources/spread-the-word    

    UK: 
    Mind: mental health support: 0300 123 3393
    SANE: mental health support: 0300 304 7000
    Samaritans support network: 116 123
    National Stalking Helpline: 0808 802 0300    

    CANADA: 
    For a list of Canadian crisis centres: https://thelifelinecanada.ca/help/call/  

    References: 


    https://www.insider.com/signs-of-narcissistic-toxic-parents-in-law-2019-9

    https://www.image.ie/life/everyone-thinks-narcissistic-mother-law-amazing-feel-alone-183158

    https://pro.psychcentral.com/exhausted-woman/2017/12/how-to-survive-a-narcissistic-mother-in-law/



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    • 55 min
    Episode Twenty One: Was It Really Abuse?

    Episode Twenty One: Was It Really Abuse?

    This week on the podcast, Chloe and Porsha discuss the idea of not believing what you experienced was abuse. They talk about the normalisation of abuse and hesitation to label it as such. If you want to send some feedback or just say hi, email us at thenocontactclub@gmail.com.  If you need support, please see the numbers below. 

    Black Lives Matter: https://blacklivesmatters.carrd.co/  
    NEW ZEALAND: 
    Lifeline: 0800 543354
    Depression Helpline: 0800 111 757 (Text 4202)  
    AUSTRALIA: 
    Lifeline Crisis Support: 13 11 14
    Beyond Blue: Depression and anxiety support: 1300 22 46 36
    Rape & Domestic Violence Services: 1800 737 732
    Men's Line: 1300 78 99 78
    Headspace: Youth Mental Health Foundation: see headspace.org.au for your local centre.  
    USA:  
    Distress & Lifeline: 1800 273 8255
    Crisis Text Line: text HOME to 741 741
    Domestic Violence Helpline: 1800 799 7233
    Victim Connect: support for victims of crime: 855 484 2846
    MTC program: maketheconnection.net/resources/spread-the-word  
    UK: 
    Mind: mental health support: 0300 123 3393
    SANE: mental health support: 0300 304 7000
    Samaritans support network: 116 123
    National Stalking Helpline: 0808 802 0300  
    CANADA:  For a list of Canadian crisis centres: https://thelifelinecanada.ca/help/call/
    References:


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    • 38 min
    Episode Twenty: Let's Talk Therapy

    Episode Twenty: Let's Talk Therapy

    This week Chloe and Porsha discuss therapy: what to look for in a therapist, where to look for one, and what the journey was like for them. If you want to send some feedback or just say hi, email us at thenocontactclub@gmail.com.  If you need support, please see the numbers below. 
    Black Lives Matter: https://blacklivesmatters.carrd.co/ 
    NEW ZEALAND: 
    Lifeline: 0800 543354
    Depression Helpline: 0800 111 757 (Text 4202) 
    AUSTRALIA: 
    Lifeline Crisis Support: 13 11 14
    Beyond Blue: Depression and anxiety support: 1300 22 46 36
    Rape & Domestic Violence Services: 1800 737 732
    Men's Line: 1300 78 99 78
    Headspace: Youth Mental Health Foundation: see headspace.org.au for your local centre. 
    USA: 
    Distress & Lifeline: 1800 273 8255
    Crisis Text Line: text HOME to 741 741
    Domestic Violence Helpline: 1800 799 7233
    Victim Connect: support for victims of crime: 855 484 2846
    MTC program: maketheconnection.net/resources/spread-the-word 
    UK: 
    Mind: mental health support: 0300 123 3393
    SANE: mental health support: 0300 304 7000
    Samaritans support network: 116 123 National Stalking Helpline: 0808 802 0300 
    CANADA: 
    For a list of Canadian crisis centres: https://thelifelinecanada.ca/help/call/
    References:




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    • 52 min
    Episode Nineteen: Let's Talk Triggers

    Episode Nineteen: Let's Talk Triggers

    This week, Chloe and Porsha answer a few emails from listeners before having a discussion about triggers.
    If you want to send some feedback or just say hi, email us at thenocontactclub@gmail.com.  If you need support, please see the numbers below.

    Black Lives Matter: https://blacklivesmatters.carrd.co/
    NEW ZEALAND: 
    Lifeline: 0800 543354
    Depression Helpline: 0800 111 757 (Text 4202)
    AUSTRALIA: 
    Lifeline Crisis Support: 13 11 14
    Beyond Blue: Depression and anxiety support: 1300 22 46 36
    Rape & Domestic Violence Services: 1800 737 732
    Men's Line: 1300 78 99 78
    Headspace: Youth Mental Health Foundation: see headspace.org.au for your local centre.
    USA: 
    Distress & Lifeline: 1800 273 8255
    Crisis Text Line: text HOME to 741 741
    Domestic Violence Helpline: 1800 799 7233
    Victim Connect: support for victims of crime: 855 484 2846
    MTC program: maketheconnection.net/resources/spread-the-word
    UK: 
    Mind: mental health support: 0300 123 3393
    SANE: mental health support: 0300 304 7000
    Samaritans support network: 116 123
    National Stalking Helpline: 0808 802 0300
    CANADA:  For a list of Canadian crisis centres: https://thelifelinecanada.ca/help/call/
    References:

    https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Trauma_trigger

    https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/books/NBK207191/

    https://www.verywellmind.com/ptsd-triggers-and-coping-strategies-2797557

    https://www.bridgestorecovery.com/post-traumatic-stress-disorder/complex-ptsd-symptoms-behavior-and-treatment/



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    • 37 min
    Episode Eighteen: Codependency

    Episode Eighteen: Codependency

    This week, Chloe and Porsha are discussing codependency. If you want to send some feedback or just say hi, email us at thenocontactclub@gmail.com.  If you need support, please see the numbers below.

    Black Lives Matter: https://blacklivesmatters.carrd.co/    

    NEW ZEALAND: 
    Lifeline: 0800 543354
    Depression Helpline: 0800 111 757 (Text 4202)    

    AUSTRALIA: 
    Lifeline Crisis Support: 13 11 14
    Beyond Blue: Depression and anxiety support: 1300 22 46 36
    Rape & Domestic Violence Services: 1800 737 732
    Men's Line: 1300 78 99 78
    Headspace: Youth Mental Health Foundation: see headspace.org.au for your local centre.    

    USA: 
    Distress & Lifeline: 1800 273 8255
    Crisis Text Line: text HOME to 741 741
    Domestic Violence Helpline: 1800 799 7233
    Victim Connect: support for victims of crime: 855 484 2846
    MTC program: maketheconnection.net/resources/spread-the-word    

    UK: 
    Mind: mental health support: 0300 123 3393
    SANE: mental health support: 0300 304 7000
    Samaritans support network: 116 123
    National Stalking Helpline: 0808 802 0300    

    CANADA:  For a list of Canadian crisis centres: https://thelifelinecanada.ca/help/call/

    References:


    https://www.psychologytoday.com/nz/blog/toxic-relationships/201907/narcissists-are-codependent-too#:~:text=Codependency%20is%20a%20disorder%20of,identified%20with%20their%20ideal%20self.

    https://www.psychologytoday.com/nz/blog/toxic-relationships/201902/escaping-the-codependent-narcissist-trap

    https://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/codependency-narcissism-may-have-more-in-common-than-you-think-0807187

    https://psychcentral.com/blog/the-dance-between-codependents-narcissists/

    https://www.whatiscodependency.com/narcissistic-relationships-with-narcissists/

    https://www.mentalhelp.net/blogs/the-relationship-between-narcissism-and-codependency/

    https://go.gale.com/ps/anonymous?id=GALE%7CA539922311&sid=googleScholar&v=2.1&it=r&linkaccess=abs&issn=15205495&p=AONE&sw=w

    Codependence, Narcissism, and Childhood Trauma by Harvey J. Irwin of the University of New England, Australia (accessed through the Open Polytechnic library).



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