Soulful Heart �‪�‬ Amrita Rai

This is a very important chapter. It’s one of my favorite exercises to boost my
clients’self-confidence (and my own). Its purpose is to empower you and make
you aware of what you have already achieved in your life! We are always so
centered in the things that don’t work so well or what we haven’t achieved that
we forget what we have already achieved. I’m sure that you have fantastic
achievements in your life and in this chapter you will become aware of those
past successes and use them as rocket fuel to achieve your goals and future
successes! So the big question is: What great things have you achieved in
your life so far? You put yourself through college, traveled the world, have a
great career, have lots of great friends. Maybe you lived abroad for a while all on
your own. Or maybe you have overcome a tough childhood and major personal
setbacks. Maybe you raised fantastic children. Whatever challenges you’ve
overcome or successes you have achieved—now is the time to look back and
celebrate them. Remember the chapter about focus? In this case, it means that
the more you remember and acknowledge your past successes, the more
confident you’ll become. And because you are concentrating on successes you
will see more opportunities for success! Make your list! Remind yourself of
your past successes! Give yourself a pat on the shoulder and say to yourself
“Well done!” The important thing is the experience of success! Get into the
same state that you were in, see the success once again in your mind, feel again
how it felt then!
Action Step:
1) Write down a list of the biggest successes you’ve achieved in your life!
2) Read them out loud and allow yourself to feel fantastic for what you have
accomplished!

Knowing yourself is the beginning of all wisdom.”
Aristotle
The first step before changing your life is becoming aware of where you are and
what’s missing. Please take some time to answer the following questions.
What are your dreams in life?
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At the end of your life, what do you think you would most regret not having
done for yourself?
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If time and money were not factors, what would you like to do, be, or have?
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What motivates you in life?
_____What limits you in life?
____________________________________What have been your biggest wins in the last 12 months?
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What have been your biggest frustrations in the last 12 months?
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What do you do to please others?
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What do you do to please yourself?
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What do you pretend not to know?
_____________________What has been the best work that you have done in your life until today? Let’s talk about values. Not in a moral or ethical way, but looking at what fuels
you and what motivates you. Being clear about and knowing your values is one
of the most important steps to getting to know yourself better. By knowing your
values, you will be able to attract more of what you want in your life. If there is a
big difference between the life you are living and your values, this might create
suffering and tension. Once you find out what your values are, you will be able
to understand yourself and your actions a lot better. When your goals are
aligned with your values you will notice that you achieve them much
quicker and hit a lot less resistance. Everything changed for me around two
years ago when I gained a clear knowledge of my values. I finally knew where
the tension and stress at my work and in my life came from (not one of my core
values was being applied!) and I could understand my reactions in various
situations a lot better. So what is really important to you? Find out what your
most important values are that bring you joy, peace, and fulfillment. From the
list of values. You may
find that you can group values. Then narrow them down to your top four
values.
Also answer the following questions: What is very important in your life?
What gives purpose to your life?
What are you usually doing when you experience that feeling of inner peace?
What are you doing that is so much fun that you usually lose track of time?
Think of some people that you admire. Why do you admire them? What kind of
qualities do you admire in them?
What activities do you enjoy the most? What kind of moments bring you joy and
fulfillment?
What can’t you put up with?

𝓘𝓽 𝓲𝓼 𝓭𝓾𝓻𝓲𝓷𝓰 𝓸𝓾𝓻 𝓭𝓪𝓻𝓴𝓮𝓼𝓽 𝓶𝓸𝓶𝓮𝓷𝓽𝓼 𝓽𝓱𝓪𝓽 𝔀𝓮 𝓶𝓾𝓼𝓽 𝓯𝓸𝓬𝓾𝓼 𝓽𝓸 𝓼𝓮𝓮 𝓽𝓱𝓮 𝓵𝓲𝓰𝓱𝓽. 𝓐𝓻𝓲𝓼𝓽𝓸𝓽𝓵𝓮 𝓞𝓷𝓪𝓼𝓼𝓲𝓼 𝓣𝓱𝓮 𝓷𝓾𝓶𝓫𝓮𝓻 𝓸𝓷𝓮 𝓻𝓮𝓪𝓼𝓸𝓷 𝔀𝓱𝔂 𝓹𝓮𝓸𝓹𝓵𝓮 𝓪𝓻𝓮 𝓷𝓸𝓽 𝓰𝓮𝓽𝓽𝓲𝓷𝓰 𝔀𝓱𝓪𝓽 𝓽𝓱𝓮𝔂 𝔀𝓪𝓷𝓽 𝓲𝓼 𝓫𝓮𝓬𝓪𝓾𝓼𝓮 𝓽𝓱𝓮𝔂 𝓭𝓸𝓷’𝓽 𝓮𝓿𝓮𝓷 𝓴𝓷𝓸𝔀 𝔀𝓱𝓪𝓽 𝓽𝓱𝓮𝔂 𝔀𝓪𝓷𝓽. 𝓣𝓱𝓮 𝓷𝓾𝓶𝓫𝓮𝓻 𝓽𝔀𝓸 𝓻𝓮𝓪𝓼𝓸𝓷 𝓲𝓼 𝓽𝓱𝓪𝓽 𝔀𝓱𝓲𝓵𝓮 𝓽𝓱𝓮𝔂 𝓪𝓻𝓮 𝓽𝓮𝓵𝓵𝓲𝓷𝓰 𝓽𝓱𝓮𝓶𝓼𝓮𝓵𝓿𝓮𝓼 𝔀𝓱𝓪𝓽 𝓽𝓱𝓮𝔂 𝔀𝓪𝓷𝓽, 𝓽𝓱𝓮𝔂 𝓪𝓻𝓮 𝓬𝓸𝓷𝓬𝓮𝓷𝓽𝓻𝓪𝓽𝓲𝓷𝓰 𝓸𝓷 𝔀𝓱𝓪𝓽 𝓽𝓱𝓮𝔂 𝓭𝓸𝓷’𝓽 𝔀𝓪𝓷𝓽, 𝓪𝓷𝓭 𝔀𝓱𝓪𝓽 𝔂𝓸𝓾 𝓪𝓻𝓮 𝓬𝓸𝓷𝓬𝓮𝓷𝓽𝓻𝓪𝓽𝓲𝓷𝓰 𝓸𝓷…𝓔𝔁𝓹𝓪𝓷𝓭𝓼! 𝓡𝓮𝓶𝓮𝓶𝓫𝓮𝓻 𝓽𝓸 𝓯𝓸𝓬𝓾𝓼 𝓸𝓷 𝔀𝓱𝓪𝓽 𝔂𝓸𝓾 𝔀𝓪𝓷𝓽 𝓯𝓻𝓸𝓶 𝓷𝓸𝔀 𝓸𝓷! 𝓦𝓱𝓮𝓻𝓮 𝓲𝓼 𝔂𝓸𝓾𝓻 𝓯𝓸𝓬𝓾𝓼? 𝓞𝓷 𝓽𝓱𝓮 𝓹𝓸𝓼𝓲𝓽𝓲𝓿𝓮 𝓸𝓻 𝓽𝓱𝓮 𝓷𝓮𝓰𝓪𝓽𝓲𝓿𝓮? 𝓞𝓷 𝓽𝓱𝓮 𝓹𝓪𝓼𝓽 𝓸𝓻 𝓽𝓱𝓮 𝓹𝓻𝓮𝓼𝓮𝓷𝓽? 𝓓𝓸 𝔂𝓸𝓾 𝓯𝓸𝓬𝓾𝓼 𝓸𝓷 𝓹𝓻𝓸𝓫𝓵𝓮𝓶𝓼 𝓸𝓻 𝓼𝓸𝓵𝓾𝓽𝓲𝓸𝓷𝓼? 𝓣𝓱𝓲𝓼 𝓲𝓼 𝓬𝓻𝓾𝓬𝓲𝓪𝓵! 𝓗𝓮𝓻𝓮 𝓲𝓼 𝔀𝓱𝓮𝓻𝓮 𝓽𝓱𝓮 𝓵𝓪𝔀 𝓸𝓯 𝓪𝓽𝓽𝓻𝓪𝓬𝓽𝓲𝓸𝓷 𝓰𝓸𝓮𝓼 𝔀𝓻𝓸𝓷𝓰 𝓯𝓸𝓻 𝓶𝓸𝓼𝓽 𝓹𝓮𝓸𝓹𝓵𝓮 𝓪𝓷𝓭 𝓽𝓱𝓮𝔂 𝓰𝓲𝓿𝓮 𝓾𝓹! 𝓣𝓱𝓮𝔂 𝓼𝓪𝔂 “𝓘’𝓶 𝓪𝓽𝓽𝓻𝓪𝓬𝓽𝓲𝓷𝓰 𝓶𝓸𝓷𝓮𝔂”, “𝓘’𝓶 𝓹𝓻𝓸𝓼𝓹𝓮𝓻𝓸𝓾𝓼”, 𝓫𝓾𝓽 𝓪𝓽 𝓽𝓱𝓮 𝓼𝓪𝓶𝓮 𝓽𝓲𝓶𝓮 𝓽𝓱𝓮𝔂 𝓯𝓸𝓬𝓾𝓼 𝓶𝓸𝓼𝓽 𝓸𝓯 𝓽𝓱𝓮𝓲𝓻 𝓽𝓲𝓶𝓮 𝓸𝓷 𝓽𝓱𝓮 𝓫𝓲𝓵𝓵𝓼 𝓽𝓱𝓮𝔂 𝓱𝓪𝓿𝓮 𝓽𝓸 𝓹𝓪𝔂, 𝓸𝓷 𝓽𝓱𝓮 𝓶𝓸𝓷𝓮𝔂 𝓽𝓱𝓪𝓽 𝓰𝓸𝓮𝓼 𝓸𝓾𝓽, 𝓸𝓷

“𝓑𝓮 𝔀𝓲𝓵𝓵𝓲𝓷𝓰 𝓽𝓸 𝓫𝓮 𝓾𝓷𝓬𝓸𝓶𝓯𝓸𝓻𝓽𝓪𝓫𝓵𝓮. 𝓑𝓮 𝓬𝓸𝓶𝓯𝓸𝓻𝓽𝓪𝓫𝓵𝓮 𝓫𝓮𝓲𝓷𝓰 𝓾𝓷𝓬𝓸𝓶𝓯𝓸𝓻𝓽𝓪𝓫𝓵𝓮. 𝓘𝓽 𝓶𝓪𝔂
𝓰𝓮𝓽 𝓽𝓸𝓾𝓰𝓱, 𝓫𝓾𝓽 𝓲𝓽’𝓼 𝓪 𝓼𝓶𝓪𝓵𝓵 𝓹𝓻𝓲𝓬𝓮 𝓽𝓸 𝓹𝓪𝔂 𝓯𝓸𝓻 𝓵𝓲𝓿𝓲𝓷𝓰 𝓪 𝓭𝓻𝓮𝓪𝓶.”

𝓣𝓱𝓮 𝔀𝓪𝔂 𝓽𝓸 𝓼𝓾𝓬𝓬𝓮𝓼𝓼 𝓰𝓸𝓮𝓼 𝓽𝓱𝓻𝓸𝓾𝓰𝓱 𝓬𝓱𝓪𝓷𝓰𝓮 𝓪𝓷𝓭 𝓬𝓱𝓪𝓸𝓼. 𝓕𝓸𝓻 𝓹𝓮𝓻𝓼𝓸𝓷𝓪𝓵 𝓰𝓻𝓸𝔀𝓽𝓱 𝔂𝓸𝓾
𝓱𝓪𝓿𝓮 𝓽𝓸 𝓫𝓮 𝓲𝓷 𝓪 𝓬𝓸𝓷𝓼𝓽𝓪𝓷𝓽 𝓼𝓽𝓪𝓽𝓮 𝓸𝓯 𝓯𝓮𝓮𝓵𝓲𝓷𝓰 𝓼𝓵𝓲𝓰𝓱𝓽𝓵𝔂 𝓾𝓷𝓬𝓸𝓶𝓯𝓸𝓻𝓽𝓪𝓫𝓵𝓮. 𝓖𝓮𝓽 𝓲𝓷𝓽𝓸 𝓽𝓱𝓮
𝓱𝓪𝓫𝓲𝓽 𝓸𝓯 𝓭𝓸𝓲𝓷𝓰 𝓽𝓱𝓲𝓷𝓰𝓼 𝓽𝓱𝓪𝓽 𝓸𝓽𝓱𝓮𝓻𝓼 𝓭𝓸𝓷’𝓽 𝔀𝓪𝓷𝓽 𝓽𝓸 𝓭𝓸. 𝓨𝓸𝓾 𝓱𝓪𝓿𝓮 𝓽𝓸 𝓬𝓱𝓸𝓸𝓼𝓮 𝓽𝓸 𝓭𝓸
𝔀𝓱𝓪𝓽 𝓷𝓮𝓮𝓭𝓼 𝓽𝓸 𝓫𝓮 𝓭𝓸𝓷𝓮 𝓻𝓮𝓰𝓪𝓻𝓭𝓵𝓮𝓼𝓼 𝓸𝓯 𝓽𝓱𝓮 𝓲𝓷𝓬𝓸𝓷𝓿𝓮𝓷𝓲𝓮𝓷𝓬𝓮! 𝓣𝓱𝓪𝓽 𝓶𝓮𝓪𝓷𝓼: 𝓽𝓸 𝓯𝓸𝓻𝓰𝓲𝓿𝓮
𝓲𝓷𝓼𝓽𝓮𝓪𝓭 𝓸𝓯 𝓱𝓸𝓵𝓭𝓲𝓷𝓰 𝓪 𝓰𝓻𝓾𝓭𝓰𝓮, 𝓽𝓸 𝓰𝓸 𝓽𝓱𝓮 𝓮𝔁𝓽𝓻𝓪 𝓶𝓲𝓵𝓮 𝓲𝓷𝓼𝓽𝓮𝓪𝓭 𝓸𝓯 𝓼𝓪𝔂𝓲𝓷𝓰 𝓲𝓽 𝓬𝓪𝓷’𝓽 𝓫𝓮
𝓭𝓸𝓷𝓮; 𝓽𝓸 𝓽𝓪𝓴𝓮 100% 𝓸𝓯 𝓽𝓱𝓮 𝓻𝓮𝓼𝓹𝓸𝓷𝓼𝓲𝓫𝓲𝓵𝓲𝓽𝔂 𝓯𝓸𝓻 𝔂𝓸𝓾𝓻 𝓫𝓮𝓱𝓪𝓿𝓲𝓸𝓻 𝓲𝓷𝓼𝓽𝓮𝓪𝓭 𝓸𝓯 𝓫𝓵𝓪𝓶𝓲𝓷𝓰
𝓸𝓽𝓱𝓮𝓻𝓼.
𝓜𝓸𝓼𝓽 𝓸𝓯 𝓾𝓼 𝓽𝓱𝓲𝓷𝓴 𝓽𝓱𝓪𝓽 𝓽𝓸 𝓬𝓱𝓪𝓷𝓰𝓮 𝓸𝓾𝓻 𝓵𝓲𝓿𝓮𝓼 𝔀𝓮 𝓱𝓪𝓿𝓮 𝓽𝓸 𝓶𝓪𝓴𝓮 𝓱𝓾𝓰𝓮 𝓬𝓱𝓪𝓷𝓰𝓮𝓼, 𝓪𝓷𝓭
𝓽𝓱𝓮𝓷 𝔀𝓮 𝓰𝓮𝓽 𝓸𝓿𝓮𝓻𝔀𝓱𝓮𝓵𝓶𝓮𝓭 𝓫𝔂 𝓽𝓱𝓮 𝓱𝓾𝓰𝓮𝓷𝓮𝓼𝓼 𝓸𝓯 𝓽𝓱𝓮 𝓽𝓪𝓼𝓴 𝓪𝓷𝓭 𝓮𝓷𝓭 𝓾𝓹 𝓷𝓸𝓽 𝓭𝓸𝓲𝓷𝓰
𝓪𝓷𝔂𝓽𝓱𝓲𝓷𝓰, 𝓪𝓷𝓭 𝓰𝓮𝓽 𝓼𝓽𝓾𝓬𝓴 𝔀𝓲𝓽𝓱 𝓸𝓾𝓻 𝓸𝓵𝓭 𝓱𝓪

Theodore Roosevelt Let’s talk about failure! This subject is so important and yet
so misunderstood! Paulo Coelho hits the spot when he says “There is only one
thing that makes a dream impossible to achieve: the fear of failure.” The
fear of failure is the number one dream killer, but why? Why are we so afraid of
failure? Why can’t we see it like Napoleon Hill who indicated that “Every
adversity, every failure, every heartache carries with it the seed of an equal or
greater benefit.” Or in other words, how would our life change if we could see
failure exactly like Napoleon Hill did? Why not see it as a learning experience
that is necessary for growth and which provides us with information and
motivation? What would happen if you could fully embrace the idea that in
reality failure is a sign that points towards progress?
Learn the “Edison Mentality”. Edison himself said things like “I failed myself to
success” or “I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.”
This is what enabled him to bring many of his inventions to us. The man just
didn’t give up!
Accept your mistakes as feedback and learn from them! Luckily, as kids we
didn’t have the mentality which many of us have adapted as adults – because if
we did then many of us wouldn’t know how to walk! How did you learn
walking? By falling many times and always getting up again. Unfortunately,
somewhere along the road you picked up the idea that failure is something
terrible. And as a result of this nowadays we fail once and then stop doing things
simply because it didn’t work out the first time, because we got rejected, because
our business venture didn’t work out right away.
NOW is the time to change your mentality towards failure! Why don’t you look
at it in this way from now on: Every failure is a great moment in our life,
because it allows us to learn and grow from it!
Even more and more companies nowadays are shifting to a new mentality by
allowing their employees to make mistakes, because they noticed that if people
are afraid to make mistakes, creativity and innovation die and the company’s
progress slows down. At the end of the day it comes down to this: Success is the
result of right decisions. Right decisions are the result of experience, and experience is the result of wrong decisions.
Here is a story of a famous “failure” that literally failed his way to success: •
Lost job, 1832
• Defeated for legislature, 1832
• Failed in business, 1833
• Elected to legislature, 1834
• Sweetheart (Ann Rutledge) died, 1835
• Had nervous breakdown, 1836
• Defeated for Speaker, 1838
• Defeated for nomination for Congress, 1843
• Lost re-nomination, 1848
• Rejected for Land Officer, 1849
• Defeated for Senate, 1854
• Defeated for nomination for Vice-President, 1856
• Again defeated for Senate, 1858
• Elected President, 1860
This is the story of Abraham Lincoln, a man we would not exactly characterize
as a failure, would we?

Perseverance is more important than talent, intelligence, and strategy. There is
great virtue in never giving up. When life doesn’t go according to plan, keep
moving forward, no matter how small your steps are. The top two habits that
will decide between success and failure, between real change and staying in
the same place are patience and perseverance.
It’s highly possible that before success comes, there may be some obstacles in
your path. If your plans don’t work out see it as a temporary defeat, and not as a
permanent failure. Come up with a new plan and try again. If the new plan
doesn’t work out either, change it, adapt it until it works. This is the point at
which most people give up: They lack patience and persistence in working out
new plans! But watch out. Don’t confuse this with persistently pursuing a
plan that doesn’t work! If something doesn’t work…change it! Persistence
means persistence toward achieving your goal. When you encounter obstacles
- have patience. When you experience setback - have patience. When things are
not happening - have patience. Don’t throw your goal away at the first sign of
misfortune or opposition. Think of Thomas Edison and his ten thousand attempts
to make the light bulb. Fail towards success like he did! Persistence is a state of
mind. Cultivate it. If you fall down, get up, shake off the dust, and keep on
moving towards your goal.
The habit of persistence is built as follows: 1. Have a clear goal and the burning
desire to achieve it.
2. Make a clear plan and act on it with daily action steps.
3. Be immune to all negative and discouraging influences.
4. Have a support system of one or more people who will encourage you tofollow through with your actions and to pursue your goals.