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    Perks of Being a Tyneesha: It’s a whole new year!

    Perks of Being a Tyneesha: It’s a whole new year!

    Hello hello hello! Welcome to you & welcome 2022!

    I hope everyone had a great few weeks with their loved ones or unluckily tucked away fighting covid. As I mentioned way back in 2021 - I decided to take a little break from posting over the Christmas & New Year holiday seasons. Hence, this is my first post back! I'm feeling refreshed and excited to get back into the ever-spinning hamster wheel of online content.

    So - what's what? Well, I'm glad you asked!

    This post is going to be just a quick little catch-up - inspired by and dedicated to those weird little "recounts" that our primary school teachers insisted we write in our first week back. Except I won't hate writing it as much. That said, I'm very ready to leave 2021 in the past - so I'm going to focus on my hopes for the new year.

    Setting ~the vibe~

    As I mentioned in the last blog post, I make a playlist and a Pinterest board at the beginning of the year, determining the vibes. Below, you'll find my Pinterest board and Spotify playlist. Enjoy!

    Going home for Christmas

    Okay, now to quickly catch you up! I headed back home to Dubbo a few days before Christmas. I am proud to announce that I drove the 6-ish hours all by myself! I've never done that before! The last time I tried, I got hit by a truck!

    Honestly, it was a good drive. My driving anxiety was at an all-time minimum. I stopped a handful of times, either in the name of chicken McNuggets or to take in the scenery. I stopped at the Hydro Majestic - if you're unfamiliar, the hydro is this massive, old, beautiful hotel in the blue mountains. It has an incredible view - more so at sundown but still great midday.

    Funny thing - before I left my car to go sit around and take photos - I put my open, half drank can of coke on top of my car roof. When I came back, someone had stolen it. I'm not offended... that's just super weird. Also, my windows were wound down a tad to keep my car cool - why did you steal this half-empty can of coke and not my car? Thieves explain.

    It was so lovely to go home and spend time with loved ones and not have to use Waze to go anywhere. I ate a lot of Christmas ham, which of course is the best part and most important part of any Christmas. I also did some little photography jobs, ruined my skin by eating chocolate for breakfast and played a lot of candy crush. Good times.

    I got a film camera for Christmas, a beautiful Pentax 1000, and took a roll of photos while I was home. I wish I could insert those photos and encapsulate the 'being home' vibes, but I haven't had those developed yet. So you'll have to wait. In the meantime, here's a reel I made of videos from Dubbo.

    Some hometown thoughts...

    There's such a specific feeling to being home for Christmas. It's bizarre to step back into a space that made you who you are and observe all the ways that it has changed and stayed the same. It sounds obvious, but you really don't realize that the world keeps moving in your absence. There's so much comfort in knowing things. Knowing where every store is, knowing the way there and home, knowing your friends and family. There's also this stark discomfort with any of that changing. It's like you got to the end of the book, and then someone re-wrote the first chapter.

    I believe that most people would really benefit from leaving their hometown for a solid amount of time. It honestly makes you appreciate your upbringing and your hometown more. It was really interesting to observe and compare things. I wrote a little bit about those observations, and you can read that piece below.

    On to 2022...

    This year will undoubtedly come with its own set of challenges, but I have a good feeling about it. I think it's going to be a big year for me in terms of finally seeing the fruit of my labour. In my third year of university, I'll be turning 21 in May. Hopefully, Covid doesn't stop me from doing my journalism internship. At the moment, Covid is running rancid thr

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    Perks of Being a Tyneesha: Over & Done with 2021

    Perks of Being a Tyneesha: Over & Done with 2021

    Hello everyone! This will be my last post of the year, so Merry Christmas, happy holidays and happy new year in advance.

    If you've been keeping up, you know, I just write a minor life update every so often. The last one I wrote was about spending spring in lockdown. As I'm writing this, It is the first day of summer and the last month of this rollercoaster year. So this catch-up will just be a little look back at the year that was and thoughts about the year coming.

    I started this year with SO much optimism

    I love making playlists and Pinterest boards ready for the new year to kind of define my intentions for the year. I never end the year in the same spirit as I started it. Still, it's interesting to look back on it, so here are my 2021 inspo materials from January.

    If you check out the Pinterest board, there are basically three main elements - the colour green, conch piercings and tattoos. I did, in fact, achieve that energy this year, so that's awesome.

    The highlights

    My last post summarised many of my favourite achievements in terms of University and blog stuff, so I won't rehash that here. I've reflected on personal journeys throughout the year through the topics I've chosen to write about. I might not always speak from first-hand experience, but I wouldn't write about something that doesn't mean anything to me.

    It's interesting writing this post right now because I feel like I've already said everything I can about this year. I've made a conscious effort to live and learn and then replicate that knowledge and share it. I've written about ADHD and neurodivergence quite a bit because it was at the forefront of my mind for most of this year. I find it really rewarding to have gathered perspectives and information from other neurodivergent people, too.

    I've written a lot this year about the importance of spending time by yourself. I need to experience new things to feel happy, and at peace, so I spent a lot of my spare time this year just going on little adventures with myself. Living close to nature means that there are so many walking tracks and random little pockets of forest-like environments to explore.

    A big part of what makes adventuring valuable is the element of it that encourages you to trust your intuition and see what you find. I have an adventure challenge book that my parents got me for my birthday this year. That might seem like a funny gift, given we were put into lockdown a few weeks afterwards. It's definitely helpful to have guidance, but as with anything, the best experiences come on a whim.

    Lockdown definitely reinforced how honouring your own decisions and impulses is the best thing you can do for yourself. This is a pretty universal experience, but lockdown also made me realise how many opportunities I take for granted.

    Now that we've been allowed out a bit more, It's become quite unlikely that I'll say no to an experience. I figure if I say yes and it's a good time, excellent. If I say yes and it's a bad experience, I'll definitely learn something from it; at the least, it's a good story. There's nothing to be had but regret if you say no.

    There were, perhaps, some setbacks...

    While I think that overall, I had a very positive year. Of course, there was that car accident and the whole lockdown thing, but the worst parts of this year brought the greatest blessings. If there's a lesson I'm taking out of 2021, it's that mindset is everything. Prioritising yourself and your health and happiness really does take the negative weight off of less fortunate events.

    Do what makes you happy and healthy. Don't apologise for putting yourself first; it's your life. You should be living it for yourself, especially when you're young and not responsible for anyone else. There are always going to be challenging moments in life, but there's always something to gain.

    When you're okay internally, things don't feel like they happen TO you; they're just happening around

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    Did Lockdown Change Us for the Better?

    Did Lockdown Change Us for the Better?

    Before I jump into this week’s topic, I want to acknowledge that today is Remembrance day. I know it’s probably not 11 am as you’re reading this, but regardless it’s important to put some time aside today to remember those whose sacrifices gave way to our freedoms. We often take our privilege for granted, but we owe our safety, welfare, education, culture, wealth, families and lifestyles to those who gave up theirs in the wars.

    Speaking of freedom - lockdown is finally over! Well, mostly. We can’t go overseas or state-to-state willy nilly, but we don’t have to sit in our rooms, and that’s something! I’ve had the pleasure of being able to get out and about here and there. I’ve sat at a beach guilt-free, had a covid safe picnic with friends and gone out on the town. I got to celebrate Halloween and sit in restaurants to eat. I even got to travel back home to Dubbo last week to see my family and friends after what feels like a lifetime.

    But all this rediscovered freedom has got me thinking... it doesn’t feel like everything’s ‘back to normal’. I think we all know that “normal” is long gone. Ordinary things like going out in public without a mask still feel chaotic and dangerous, and I’m sure they will for a long time to come. There hasn’t been a lot of freely accessible research done on the topic, mainly because we’re essentially still in the thick of it - but it’s clear to me that the semi-permanent effects of the pandemic are far-reaching and, in some cases, surprising. So in this article, I want to explore those seemingly random effects.

    Post-lockdown anxiety is weird and layered

    There was a certain kind of anxiety that we all experienced during the lockdown. The monotony of scrolling through your Netflix recommendations trying to drown out the numbers of the news cycle. The hyper fixation of remembering your mask, remembering to check-in, remembering to sanitise... but forgetting what day of the week it is. We were in lockdown just long enough to get used to it all.

    Now, we don’t necessarily need to be so cautious. We’re vaccinated, we’re allowed out, we have our freedoms back. There’s obviously still some level of caution, but it’s not all-encompassing. We’re feeling this strange mix of hesitancy and urgency. We want to get out, we’re aware that sitting in a restaurant with our friends is a luxury, and we want to seize the day. On the other hand, I’m not sure I want to buy concert tickets and run the risk of yet another postponing.

    If you had social anxiety before lockdown, it’s likely been exacerbated during the lockdown. You’re more likely to meet up in person now, and it might be the first time you’ve hung out with people in months. It’s understandable if you find yourself forgetting small talk etiquette. If you have sweaty palms and heart palpitations and a racing mind while you’re sitting at the pub with your pals, fret not. You’re definitely not the only one.

    Personally, having the time alone over the last few months definitely helped me learn to cope with my mental health. Since getting out, I feel more confident talking to people, but it all feels strange, in a way. You might feel like a fish out of water - but that’s not it, exactly. You’re a fish who got plucked from your private little fishbowl and thrown into the aquarium.

    Gone are the days of the introvert-extrovert binary

    It’s been argued that lockdown is more difficult for extroverts - I disagree because no one is really an extrovert (nor is anyone an introvert). We all have extroverted and introverted tendencies and behaviours. We utilise them in the applicable scenarios. No one is okay with being alone all the time, and no one is okay having people around 24/7.

    However, I think our collective experience of lockdown as an extreme experiment in introversion has levelled many of us out. The people who identified heavily as introverts now recognise the appea

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    Practising Empathy: Everyone Has a Story

    Practising Empathy: Everyone Has a Story

    Featured Artwork: Build Bridges Not Walls by Olivia Domingos

    No matter how independent you think you are, it’s a known and proven fact that people need other people. We are pack animals. In a time where genuine human connection is becoming more and more elusive, we’re inevitably struggling with cultivating empathy. That’s not to say that we don’t have empathy for each other. But the more alone we are, the less practice we have, shifting perspectives and tying the laces with care when we put ourselves in the shoes of others.

    It’s really easy to fall victim to the idea that we all live the same experiences. Obviously, within logic, we know that’s not true. But we’re taught to understand others through our own experiences. Finding common ground is seen as the central element in understanding each other. I think on some level, sure, we have universal experiences, but everything is different depending on your personal context. So you absolutely can experience the same event as your neighbour and walk away, having perceived and processed it in opposite ways.

    In this way,’ having things in common’ is not central to forming fulfilling and positive interactions and relationships with the people around you. I raise the idea that common ground isn’t necessary for understanding. Maybe you don’t need to experience what someone else has undergone to create even a momentary human connection with them. Perhaps you just need to accept the differences between you and appreciate them.

    I was sitting in the middle row of a lecture hall in my first ever journalism class last year. I showed up early because I wasn’t sure about which classroom I was meant to be in. I was allowing time for being lost that I didn’t need because everyone had the same idea. I just followed the swarm of first-years following the one person in the crowd who knew her way around. We come in, sit down, and immediately turn to the person beside us, intending to make friends. A very pre-covid human experience, I must say.

    By the time the tutor walked in and started teaching, I’d already made friends with the guy next to me - we’d bonded over having the same kind of phone. We’d automatically searched for common ground. We sought out some path of seeing ourselves in the other.

    My tutor said something that’s stuck with me in every interaction I’ve had since that class. He said, “always approach every interaction carrying the assumption that this person knows something that you do not”. He was talking in the context of gathering interviews for news stories, but it’s excellent advice in any sense. You have to keep in mind that you don’t even know what you don’t know. Conversations with people who you don’t have anything in common with can be so unexpected and life-changing. You can’t live and grow in a bubble of people who agree with everything you say.

    I am someone who’s made a habit of immediate judgement. It’s something I’m working on, but I often find that when I meet a new person, I take my first impression of them and stick by it. I make my judgements quick and hard, with minimal foundation. But more and more, I try to leave conscious room for reconsideration. I welcome people to change my mind about them, I can re-adjust my perspective as I learn more, and that’s a really resourceful skill to have.

    Always approach every interaction carrying the assumption that this person knows something that you do not- UOW Journalism Professor

    Nobody is the same all the time, and as my Dad reminds me quite often, everyone has their own story. There’s always something I don’t know. That bully at school might have had a hard time at home, you can't take everything personally, because often - it's just so NOT personal. Everyone goes into interactions with their own set of events, thoughts and feelings that have shaped them. If I don’t give them a chance, I never get that context, and I unfairly minimi

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    TaylorLani – Music, Astrology & Making Friends

    TaylorLani – Music, Astrology & Making Friends

    Hello and welcome back to my BCM206 blog series. This week I've spoken to the ever-impressive Miss Taylor Housman (@Taylorlani2 on Twitter). I managed to get a reasonable quality recording of our conversation, so this time I've made a podcast instead of a transcript.

    You might be familiar with Taylor's incredible art, or more recently, the exquisite music-based blog posts she's graced us with over on her WordPress. I've had the pleasure of calling Taylor a friend for over a year now, so this interview flowed so naturally and lasted far longer than I expected. I've edited it down so that you can sit in on our conversation and have time left in your day.

    We talked about making friends outside of school, making your degree serve your interests, music, art, astrology, supporting each other, pop-punk, 5SOS, Tumblr and have a lot of laughs in between. Enjoy!

    “Thanks, bye”

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    An Open Letter to Year 12 Me

    An Open Letter to Year 12 Me

    Hey, legend. How's it going?

    Keeping your head down? Studying hard? Partying harder? Unconcerned about the possibility of global disease epidemics? Good. I can't say too much because I don't want to be responsible if writing to you changes the course of reality for the worse. But I want you to know that at the blissfully young age of seventeen, you should be taking your freedoms by the throat and squeezing them dry every single day.

    I know you've got those HSC exams coming up, and I know you feel like you've coasted through modern history and biology this year. At times, you struggle to pay attention in class, and the homework load is insane. I know you're going to spend hours this afternoon re-writing notes, trying to memorise the entire syllabus last minute. I won't tell you not to, but I wish you'd learn to identify and prevent burnout. And for the love of God, I wish you'd realise how completely insignificant that mark in advanced English is in the grand scheme of your life.

    You know those insanely complex numbers and graphs and speeches you receive in years 11 and 12? Yeah, it's all rubbish. None of it makes logical sense, and none of it is ethically sound. Most of it is pointless. It's too late to change it now, but you might have been happier choosing music instead of legal studies. You would have been more content going to training every week than you were burning yourself out re-writing notes.

    It's a ridiculous expectation that's put on you and your peers; to make decisions to shape the rest of your life - when you've barely gotten started. Your school pushes students towards university like there's no other respectable option, and that's simply not true.

    By the time you're 20, two of your siblings have apprenticeships locked down in occupations they love, and they're certainly making more money than you are. Money isn't everything, and neither is tertiary education. High school does a poor job at accommodating different types of people and different definitions of success.

    You're going to get a few really exciting emails soon. You'll thank Mrs Quade (God bless her soul) for nagging you about applying for universities. You get accepted to every university that you apply to before you even sit your HSC. Bathurst. Newcastle, UNSW, and Wollongong.

    I know you hated the journalism professor at CSU Bathurst. I know that open day made you feel hopeless and heartbroken, but screw that guy. Unfortunately, many older journalists are vivaciously arrogant and condescending, and he was one of them. A journalism degree is not out of reach, the field is not as challenging to get into as he said, and you 100% do have what it takes to build a fulfilling and successful career. But, just so you know, that ATAR you worked so hard for doesn't hold any weight at all outside of high school.

    Some people won't find their passions and build their careers for many years following graduation, and there's nothing wrong with that. But you've already found your purpose, and you're pretty clear on what you want. You don't consider your options for very long. You know that you've wanted UOW since you were like 12, and after an excellent interview, they send you an unconditional offer of acceptance to your dream degree.

    The degree is fantastic, the campus is awesome. I know you haven't done a lot of research, and you've never visited UOW, but your gut feeling is dead right this time. You're made to live in a rainforest and create endless art. This is as close as you get. Genuinely, your work ethic right now astounds me. This is definitely the most considerable workload you'll ever have to manage, but you've got this.

    Your marks don't hurt, but success isn't based on numbers, especially for creatives. Your value is based on the quality of your character, not on your analysis of Shakespeare's Hamlet. You didn't get in based on your application; hell, they barely looked at your marks. They wanted to talk about your hobbie

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