You Love & You Learn Podcast

Sarah Yudkin
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You Love & You Learn Podcast

Welcome to the You Love and You Learn podcast, the place to learn about all things love, relationships, relationship anxiety, and deconstructing the one-size-fits-all narrative of what it means to be in a happy relationship. Join Sarah Yudkin, trauma-informed Relationship Anxiety coach, as she shares the nuance and context that most modern relationship advice is missing. Whether it’s a solo episode or Sarah sitting down to interview guests with their own unique relationship wisdom, you’ll leave every episode with an expanded definition of love and relationships to reflect on. Cheers to learning about love!

  1. 23 HRS AGO

    #108 - Throwback Episode: “Am I in the ‘Right Relationship?”

    Bringing back an oldie but goodie episode this week! Whether you’re hearing it for the first time, or if you heard it when it first aired back in January 2023, I hope you will find some nuggets of wisdom to take away. Is there such thing as the “right relationship?” Why is this such a common question we ask ourselves? How do we expand into a new way of thinking? I dive into my thoughts on this subject and how to think about our relationship in a way that is less anxiety-inducing. In the podcast, I mention relationship incompatibilities, and if you’re looking to answer the question “is it anxiety or incompatibility?” in your healthy relationship with more confidence, check out my 2-hour webinar on this for $27. CLICK HERE TO CHECK IT OUT — Additional resources: Get the Relationship Anxiety Toolkit here! (instant + lifetime access) Join the You Love and You Learn Patreon community  Visit my website Connect with me on Instagram

    19 min

  2. 4 FEB

    #107 - Stop Outsourcing Your Happiness

    We are heading into Valentine's Day month and there will be a ton of messages about having your romantic partner meeting your needs and showering you with love and gifts. While it’s lovely to celebrate our love for people in our life–it’s also important to celebrate the love we give ourselves.   Part of how we can give and receive love for ourselves and become our own best friend, our own inner loving parents, or the main character of our life is to intentionally practice filling up our cup. Intentionally taking time to nourish your mind, body, heart, and soul–vs. waiting for someone else to do it for you. It doesn’t mean we stop relying on others, but it means we take responsibility for our own fulfillment and wellbeing.    Next week I am hosting a 7-Day Challenge, Filling Your Own Cup, inside the You Love and You Learn Patreon community! We’ll go through how to define your needs (what fills your cup), how to meet your needs without crazy pressure and strict rules, how to prioritize yourself, and how to become flexible in meeting your needs as you evolve as a person.    Today’s episode gives you a sneak-peek into Day 1 of the Filling Your Own Cup challenge. Join here for just $7/month! (cancel anytime) Join the Patreon here: https://www.patreon.com/YouLoveandYouLearn   Additional resources: Get the Relationship Anxiety Toolkit here! (instant + lifetime access) Visit my website Connect with me on Instagram

    18 min

  3. 28 JAN

    #106 - Comparison to Fictional Relationships and RomComs

    Reading fiction can be relaxing–unless we’re stuck comparing our lives and relationship to the ones in the books! Then it can become stressful. Just know you are not alone if you feel this way–this episode topic was highly requested from other members of the You Love and You Learn community after I posted about fiction recently! In today’s episode, I explore three reasons why comparison to fiction books is unhelpful (because of all or nothing thinking, because romanticism in and of itself isn’t a sustainable goal, and because taking on other’s stories as our own puts us in reactive mode) and I give you mindset shifts and tips to help you feel more comfortable reading fiction again.  Additional resources: Get the Relationship Anxiety Toolkit here! (instant + lifetime access) Join the You Love and You Learn Patreon community  Visit my website Connect with me on Instagram

    48 min

  4. 21 JAN

    #105 - Regulating Your Nervous System by Slowing and Softening w/ Alena Winter

    In today’s episode, I sat down with Alena Winter, a clinical Naturopath and Nutritionist in New Zealand who is passionate about helping people understand true foundations of health and the things we need in place to be well. The good news? Many of these pillars of health are simple, accessible, and low cost–yet they can make a world of a difference in how we feel on a day to day basis.   We discuss: What the nervous system is and how it influences us (Alena’s explanation is so simple!) Why is it important to begin to understand our window of tolerance, and how to know if we’ve gone outside of it Why nervous system awareness helps us as individuals  Why nervous system awareness helps our relationships How we can co-regulate with other people in our lives  Tools to support your nervous system in the day to day and in relationships For more of Alena’s work, check out: Her free nervous system regulation guide: https://alenawinter.co.nz/free-regulation-guide Her Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/alenawinternaturalhealth Additional resources: Get the Relationship Anxiety Toolkit here! (instant + lifetime access) Join the You Love and You Learn Patreon community  Visit my website Connect with me on Instagram

    52 min

  5. 14 JAN

    #104 - Taking the Pressure Off Gratitude w/ Karden Rabin

    Have you ever felt pressure to “just be grateful”? Maybe you have sat down to write a gratitude list before, but it took you a while to think of things about your life, your relationship, your partner–and you felt guilty about it; “shouldn’t I be more grateful?!”   In this week’s episode, I sit down with Karden Rabin, nervous system expert to explore a new perspective on gratitude that will (hopefully) help you feel way less pressure and approach it from a more compassionate lens. This was a big shift for me when I first heard Karden explain it, and I am grateful for him sharing with the You Love and You Learn community!   For more of Karden’s work:   His website: www.somiainternational.com His Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kardenrabin/?hl=en Somia International Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/somiainternational/?hl=en Additional resources: Get the Relationship Anxiety Toolkit here! (instant + lifetime access) Join the You Love and You Learn Patreon community  Visit my website Connect with me on Instagram

    40 min

  6. 7 JAN

    #103 - Strengthening Your Relationship Mindset in 2025

    Having a strong mindset in relationships can be a big game-changer. Our mindset affects the way we think, feel, and behave–so it makes a big difference if we come from a mindset of “why bother?” (victim mindset) or “I can’t change anyway” (fixed mindset) as compared to a mindset of “I can influence my life and relationship (creator mindset) or “I am not there yet–but I am getting there” (growth mindset).    And this January, I am going to be focused on helping you strengthen your relationship mindset! Strengthening my mindset has helped me go from feeling stuck and helpless to empowered and confident in my relationship. (No, not 100% of the time, not perfectly–but enough to make a difference!)   Today’s episode gives you an exciting sneak-peek into Day 1 of my upcoming 7-Day Challenge: Strengthening Your Relationship Mindset in 2025. The challenge is taking place inside the You Love and You Learn Patreon membership, and you can join here for just $7/month!   Join the Patreon here: https://www.patreon.com/YouLoveandYouLearn   Additional resources: Get the Relationship Anxiety Toolkit here! (instant + lifetime access) Visit my website Connect with me on Instagram

    30 min

  7. 17/12/2024

    #102 - 8 Lessons From My 8-Year Relationship

    Nate and I celebrated 8 years together yesterday, and I wanted to take some time to reflect on what I’ve learned in our time together. The 8 lessons I explore in more detail are:  The more we resist feeling “bad”—the more we suffer. The more we accept feeling “bad”—the sooner it will come and go It’s much easier to look at the ways our partner is lacking than to turn inward and see our own shortcomings Don’t sweep things under the rug, but don’t spend excessive time thinking and thinking and thinking about them either Make the unspoken spoken Trust that your partner has positive or neutral intentions–they are not trying to hurt you Wedding planning doesn’t have to be stressful or magical, it can be whatever you make it. The messy, boring, hard moments don’t make it to someone’s social media page 99% of the time—but they’re part of being human. Instead of trying to “be more loving” to others—be compassionate towards the barriers in your heart. This in and of itself is an act of love and will help you soften Additional resources: Get the Relationship Anxiety Toolkit here! (instant + lifetime access) Join the You Love and You Learn Patreon community  Visit my website Connect with me on Instagram

    33 min

  8. 10/12/2024

    #101 - Overcoming Relationship Anxiety w/ Courtney Paré

    I am so excited to bring you this conversation with Dr. Courtney Paré, a licensed naturopathic doctor, holistic anxiety coach, speaker, and author. Courtney empowers those facing anxiety and OCD to experience greater peace and confidence in their lives and relationships, and just published her first book Overcoming Relationship Anxiety!  I had a chance to read the book and it’s fantastic. I know this resource and the wisdom Courtney shares in this episode will be useful for anyone who experiences relationship anxiety.  For more of Courtney’s work: Get Overcoming Relationship Anxiety here Check out her website here  Additional resources: Get the Relationship Anxiety Toolkit here! (instant + lifetime access) Join the You Love and You Learn Patreon community  Visit my website Connect with me on Instagram

    55 min
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Welcome to the You Love and You Learn podcast, the place to learn about all things love, relationships, relationship anxiety, and deconstructing the one-size-fits-all narrative of what it means to be in a happy relationship. Join Sarah Yudkin, trauma-informed Relationship Anxiety coach, as she shares the nuance and context that most modern relationship advice is missing. Whether it’s a solo episode or Sarah sitting down to interview guests with their own unique relationship wisdom, you’ll leave every episode with an expanded definition of love and relationships to reflect on. Cheers to learning about love!

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