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Over-managing and over-indulging are two types of weakening resposnses. These are called the weakening responses because they discourage our children from making their own choices and taking responsibilty for their own action. 

This concept was first propogated by Dr. Roger K Allen. 

Ways in which we over manage- 

1. Lecturing 

2. Arguing 

3. Criticizing 

4. Getting Mad 

5. Comparing 

6. Threatening 

7. Nagging 



Ways in which we over indulge - 

1. Hovering 

2. Sympathizing 

3. Catering 

4. Fixing 

5. Rescuing 

6. Protecting 

7. Pleading 

8. Bribing 

9. Giving in 



Both over-managaing and over-indulging isn't a good way to respond. Instead, we should respond in a way that encourages them to make their own choices and take responsibilty for their own actions. 

1. Talk to other mothers

2. Exercise regularly

3. Eat healthy and add omega 3  to your diet

4. Find time for yourself

5. Resist prolonged isolation

6. Become conscious of your feelings and harvest thoughts and emotions that will make your life vibrant and alive.