Coffee with Cola and Chantal Charley

Happy Belated New Years everyone! We’re so sorry for being MIA for the past couple of months, it has been so long since we sat down and had a chat with you all!
Being tired of the commercialized and capitalistically driven idea of new year’s resolutions, we have decided to create “New Year’s themes”, aka areas in our lives we would like to cultivate self love and trust for. After an extremely draining and mentally taxing year, we’ve both decided that we would dedicate 2022 to honour ourselves and the relationships with our loved ones 🌸
We also explored things such as self-love languages, things we would like to do more that are purely for fun, and ways to show up for ourselves authentically.
As always, we hope you enjoy! 🌞
- Cola & Chantal
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Hello our beautiful friends! We hope you are surviving this time of year okay 🙈
Even though we’re both stressed out as f*ck (if you can’t tell already from the chaotic energy in this episode), we still wanted to sit down and talk to you guys about how we’re navigating this overwhelming time of year.
We touched on:
🍃 on school stress and burning out
🍃 self care amidst crazy times
🍃 climate change & its impact on the environment and us personally
🍃 how do we find the balance between striving for capitalistic success & living for our truths
🍃 the art of doing nothing
As always, we hope you enjoy! Don’t forget to do something nice for yourself today🌹 Also sending love & prayers to those affected by the flooding in BC 🙏🏼✨
Cola & Chantal

[TW: body image, eating disorder, self harm, cuss words]
Hello hello, beautiful friends of the internet! Thanks for tuning in. This episode is a particularly special one… We’re getting personal by diving into our own history of body dysmorphia and eating disorder. We also look at cultural and racial significance in this issue, and how body image affects different genders differently. And most importantly, we talk about embracing our bodies and loving them the way they are 🌹
We are talking about the real stuff here, guys. There's the anecdote, the pep talk, the witty cultural commentary… basically everything you could cover in this topic 🙌🏼
As always, we hope you enjoy! And please know that you are SO beautiful the way you are. Sending love ✨
- Cola & Chantal
Time stamps 💫
01:00 Life updates! New hair, knee injury update, dealing with the rain
10:54 Let’s talk about the real stuff!
19:06 Chantal’s story: growing up “chubby” and being self conscious about it, calorie counting & unhealthy relationship with exercising
28:07 Cola’s story: weight gain during puberty, being called “fat” in school, calorie counting and bulimia
38:11 Finding the courage to share our stories
41:17 Re-learning how to love our bodies
45:50 Health at every size, problems with BMI and other standardized health measurements
50:04 Policing people’s bodies with Eurocentric standards & the lack of cross cultural studies on radicalized bodies
54:12 An insider’s observation of the infamous Asian beauty standard and how the media stays within the confines of racial stereotypes
58:01 Masculine struggles with body image
1:01:23 Embracing who we are... one step at a time

Welcome back friends! Today, we are diving into the juicy stuff. Cuffing season is around the corner (or has it already begun?) and it’s only natural that we want to find someone to hibernate with in this cold ☔️
But why are we so terrified of being alone? What is the difference between needing a relationship and wanting one? And how do we find the balance between being our own person but not getting stuck in the hyper-independent mentality? In this episode, we share our perspectives on dating, staying single, and how we tend to give our power to be happy away & reserve happiness for the mere potential of a relationship.
As always, we hope you enjoy! 🌞
- Cola & Chantal
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Time stamp 💫

02:06 Going a little off tangent: the unceremonious use of Buddhism in the “zen" culture, Chantal’s knee injury (😭), matching tattoos
08:36 The cuffing season: What is it and when does it begin?
10:50 Our relationship statuses, dating app tings, our dating styles and how they differ
16:40 Hot take: Are women more selective than men in terms of dating?
19:07 Problem with seeing single-hood as transitionary
23:38 "Soulmate" vs. “Soultype”
32:57 Rushing into unsatisfactory relationships, relearning how to stay mindful in our single-hood
37:07 Embracing the cuffing season, alone

Inviting you to have a cup of coffee with us while we chat about everything and nothing every Saturday morning ☕️
Hiiii friends, thank you for tuning in! On this very chatty and very loosely organized episode, we go through our life updates, the concept of joy and everything that brings us joy. ❤️
With the days get colder and nights get longer, we enter the time of year when “happiness” and “joy” become an inevitable topic for discussion. We give our own unique definitions of joy, and how it is different from the common understanding of happiness.
As always, we hope you enjoy! 🌞
- Cola & Chantal
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Time stamp 💫
01:22 Chantal’s life update: running a half marathon, health anxiety for chonky Charley’s physique
04:05 Cola’s life update: relearning how to live alone again, feeling introspective, spiritual things
07:28 Talking about joy on a slightly sad day, coping with the grief
10:44 Long tangent on spirituality, kick starting Scorpio season, Cola’s full moon ritual that nearly set her place on fire
20:30 Things that bring us both joy - cooking, trying out random food, baking, and yoga
27:26 How we define joy, difference between joy vs. happiness
33:40 Self-betrayal, pursuing “happiness” as a form of escape, and how we maintain the state of joy
41:21 Is joy a privileged emotion? Or is it something that gets lost as our society becomes more “developed” and “civilized” because we’ve lost connection with each other?
47:58 What gets in the way of us embracing joy?

Inviting you to have a cup of coffee with us while we chat about everything and nothing every Saturday morning ☕️
Hello hello beautiful humans, welcome or welcome back! On this episode, we are diving into everything we know (and don’t know) about the ✨inner child✨ .
Seeing "self care" trending on social media these days really got us thinking…is there a connection between these childlike activities and the child inside of us? We explore the psychological aspect of our inner child, as well as the definitions we have come to use, and most importantly, how we come to love this vulnerable side of us.
We hope you enjoy! 🌞
- Cola & Chantal
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Time stamp 💫
02:57 Defining the inner child
06:22 Our experiences with our inner child
10:30 Fear of abandonment and its manifestation in friendships
13:00 The overlap we see between the inner child and self care trends on social media, and its generational significance
20:06 Our favourite self care activities
28:41 Emotional eating as a coping mechanism & ways we could incorporate it into our lives in a healthier way
33:01 How we come to love the inner child