Spiraling Higher Gina Bourne and Samantha Chung

You asked, we delivered! We can't tell you how many times we've been asked what to do about toxic relationships and how to know if you're experiencing one. In this episode, we share our own personal definitions of "toxic" and it may or may not be what you think! While it seems easy to point out the toxicity in others' behavior, it's a lot harder to point it out within ourselves. So we took this opportunity to share our personal stories and explain that toxic behavior is a combination of characteristics (rather than a character flaw) that play out in relational dynamics, most easily distinguished by defensiveness, blame, and control.

Watch this episode on YouTube:
https://youtu.be/D1H7r7KN6DI

However, not every single person who displays this behavior is a "toxic" person if they are aware and willing to confront their own patterns and vulnerably express their needs. Because in reality, ALL humans can become defensive, point the finger and become controlling; but getting curious about those behaviors rather than blaming others for them is the antidote to the "toxicity" so many are used to. And the good news? Expressing curiosity and vulnerability are skills that can be learned in any relational dynamic that seeks to foster trust. That means that a relationship that has gone sideways can (with trust and emotional safety) be brought back to balance...but it's also how relationships you think that could never change, well, do.

So if you are engaging in a "toxic" dynamic right now or know someone who is, this conversation will help you understand the root of that toxicity and the actionable solutions you can take responsibility for in an effort to create more connection and clarity in your personal relationships.

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WOOOOOO….Spiralers! This conversation WENT THERE. We were absolutely blown open by Christopher’s inspiring journey and awareness. His insights took us to places in both our bodies and minds that we had never gone before and we know you are going to be mind blown, too.

In this conversation, Christopher Maher shares his healing journey starting from his stint as a US Navy SEAL to today as a wellness pioneer. Chris explains how his intense military training and childhood trauma led to physical and emotional imbalances in his body that became impossible to ignore.

Through his exploration of traditional Chinese medicine and other healing modalities, Chris began to understand the importance of listening to the body's messages and addressing the root causes of stress (and the years long accumulation of it). He emphasizes the need to move away from Western medicine for himself and embrace a holistic approach to healing that would not only manage stressors but resolve them.

Christopher introduces us to his coined term “strauma,” which is the accumulation of stress over time that becomes trauma. Many of us don’t think of trauma when we consider stress; we often think of horror-filled stories but “strauma” is a type of trauma every human in our society deals with. And while that is true, we are using daily stress management tools to address issues that began within the womb and even long before that with our ancestors.

To address our lifetime accumulated stress, which lives in our bodies and therefore is experienced in our outer lives…Chris suggests that we must resolve stress at different levels of consciousness and use particular modalities to target the different bodies we all have: Physical, Emotional, Mental and Spiritual. (Think of “body” in this sense as a collection of energy rather than your arms and legs!)

In addition to learning about how stress over time can traumatize the body, you will also learn mind-tickling facts about resentment affects certain organs and determines our behaviour. So much of what Chris had to say truly blew our minds and we were able to connect back to a truth we already knew but on an even deeper level with respect to generational healing - That we are here to break the cycle and welcome a more conscious, loving world.

Highlights:

-The difference between stress management & stress resolution

How stress not only impacts our bodies through daily stressors but can accumulate over time and turn into trauma, affecting every human on the planet

Resolving lifetime accumulated stress by addressing the different levels of consciousness and energetic bodies including the physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual bodies

Why we constantly project ourselves into the future and experience anxiety and racing thoughts

-How emotions like resentment can be related to the receptive and blocked energies within our organ system

- How our cells carry the resonance and data from our ancestors’ trauma that is passed down through generations (AND how healing our own cells directly and spontaneously impacts the generations behind and ahead of us)


Timestamps:

00:00 Life Story and Background as a Navy SEAL
05:22 The Connection Between Trauma and Physical Pain
07:04 Exploring Traditional Chinese Medicine
09:17 The Body's Truth + the Need for Pain
13:34 Recognizing the Limitations of Western Medicine
15:27 The Turning Point
18:39 Connecting Stress and Pain Resolution
22:20 Moving from Stress Management to Stress Resolution
23:54 Negative and Positive Stress Management Tools
25:01 The Accumulation of Stress over Time
27:21 The Four Bodies and Their Storage of Stress
31:11 The Orientation of Each Body to Time
34:00 The Impact of Ancestral Trauma
38:18 Becoming Present Through All Four Bodies
40:08 The Transmission of Stress to Future Generations
42:14 The Impact of Healing on Future Generations
50:21 The Toxicity of Resentment
52:26 Resources for Healing

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Ah, decision fatigue…anxiety…worry…regret!!! All of these are commonly experienced emotions when it comes to finalizing a choice in our lives, whether that be to leave a relationship, change jobs, move cities, or even decide what to wear.

Watch this episode on YouTube:
https://youtu.be/9E48mFbhCZs?si=eCReZ-BPMzCeNOOa

We treat decisions as if they have the power to give us heaven or hell, and so we suspend ourselves in limbo racking our brains until we finally choose the “right” one, feeling guilt and doubt along the way. We ask our friends, parents, coworkers, and even our own PAST selves for advice…everyone except our own true selves in the present moment about what we truly want.

But what if we told you making decisions didn’t have to feel that way? What if making a decision was an opportunity to question your socialization AND own your truth.

In this radically honest conversation, we share some of the hardest decisions we have had to make, including Gina’s 3 year long dilemma to not have another baby along with the mental framework that we applied to help us experience more clarity, ease and trust in making those choices.

We share candidly how hard it used to be to make decisions because of what we used to make certain decisions mean about ourselves:

“If I do X, then they’ll judge me.”
“If I don’t do X, then I’ll feel guilty.”

Unfortunately, most of are trying to make decisions that will help us avoid emotional pain and if that’s our criteria for decision making…we might end up making choices that don’t serve us in the long run. By the end of this conversation, you will have a better understanding of what holds you back from making decisions and how to know if you’re making the “right” one for you.

Highlights:


-Having to make decisions is an opportunity to question what assumptions you’re making about the outcomes of such decision

-Gina shares her journey around the ultimate decision to not have a second baby (this will be helpful even if you don’t have children or already have more than one!)

-How to know if making the decision to leave a relationship or career will serve you

-Sam and Gina both share the decision and thought process preceding their decision to leave their real estate careers and go ALL IN

-Questioning the paradigm that creates a bind where we are trying to make decisions that will somehow be completely painless

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For the very first time on the Spiraling Higher Pod, we invited a guest to come back for round 2! Laurie Anne Briere, a practitioner, Transforming Touch therapist and breathwork facilitator who specializes in early trauma resolution returned to the pod to share her expertise on Neo-natal psychology and discuss the impact of early childhood experiences on our sense of safety and well-being as adults. We had a fascinating conversation around consciousness beginning before birth and how babies create memories, even if they are implicit and non-narrative.

This heart-led conversation explores the importance of feeling safe in our bodies and how early trauma can disrupt the ability to find that felt sense of okay-ness. Together we expressed a deep compassion for how tough simple daily living can be for someone in a body that experienced early traumatic memories or experiences for which they will never have words or narratives for given that they occurred before our mental capacities developed.

Whether you are aware of such possible early childhood or pre-natal experiences, Laurie Anne offers us hope that we can, at any time, learn how to become a secure base for our own selves and others and create a sense of safety again, no matter how unsafe or confusing we have felt in the past.

After listening to this conversation, you will feel an unexpectedly enormous well of compassion for why you and others may react and cope in the often hurtful ways we do. And although there may have been early experiences out of our control that negatively impacted us, the power is in our hands to expand the capacity for discomfort and create a safe world within ourselves.

Timestamps:

03:33 Consciousness and Early Memories
05:29 The Impact of Early Experiences on Safety
21:58 Becoming a Secure Base
22:26 The Need for Validation and Mirroring
23:19 The Impact of Early Life Experiences on the Nervous System
24:14 The Healing Power of Touch
29:43 The Impact of Proprioception on Sense of Self
33:00 The Transition from Living in the Mind to Living in the Heart
34:07 The Difficulty of Daily Living with a Hijacked Nervous System
36:09 The Impact of Early Attachment and the Role of Caregivers
40:41 Processing Traumatic Birth Experiences
45:18 Connecting with the Child Before Conception and During Pregnancy
47:12 The Primal Fear of Not Being Liked
51:10 Learning to Expand Capacity for Uncomfortable Sensations
56:43 Navigating the Tension Between Doing and Being

Also, if you haven’t already…make sure to listen to Laurie Anne on Episode 28: Finding Our True Selves By Healing Through The Nervous System.
In that episode, we discussed:

-Somatic Work
-Understanding trauma responses and coping mechanisms
-How to process emotions through the body (not the mind!)
-Emotional regulation
-Burnout!
-Shifting from the sympathetic nervous system to a parasympathetic (rest & digest) state

Don't forget to share your biggest takeways and connect with us inside of the FREE Spiraling Higher Community where you can connect with other conscious besties and join us for a free connection call every month with people on the same frequency as you:
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Correct us if we're wrong, but in the almost 2 years that we've been recording...we haven't had the chance to really wind back the clock and talk about what led us here - the trials, tribulations, and turning points on our path that catalyzed our growth and inward journey. It's never lost on us that purpose is borne out of pain and that the hardest experiences of our life are what always lead us back home to ourselves. We know that this isn't true just for us, but anyone who is walking a healing, spiritual path is someone who has faced darkness. Without those experiences, we would not know the light.

Watch this episode on YouTube here:
https://youtu.be/Mabd6JtaPM0

So grab a cup of tea, get comfy and join us for this storytime session where we reflect back on our past and the catalysts that initially contracted but then later expanded our consciousness. This conversation is equal parts funny and reflective and we are just so grateful to all of the past versions of ourselves for carrying us into this now moment and to you, our listeners, for giving that pain purpose.

After all, it was these very experiences that brought us to doing the work we do now and the creation of spaces for healing and conscious dialogue that we wish we once had.

If you're new around here, we are coaches that specialize in mindset, breathwork, and somatics to help you stop living in survival and finally embody the life you dream of.
Our 6 month coaching mastermind is the only offering where you get to work with both of us 1:1, in groups, and at in-person retreats. It's immersive, it's transformative, and it's the beginning of the rest of your life.

Soon, we'll be sharing a few of our past clients' testimonials but for now, DOORS ARE OPEN again for enrolment and we have limited spots remaining. If our stories have captured you, and you feel like you are ready to walk through the portal of self compassion and transformation, don't hesitate. Future you is waiting, now is all we got :)

More details and application in the link below!
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Finally, all of your HUMAN DESIGN questions answered!!! In today’s episode, we invited Holly Herbig to explain the basics of human design to help you better understand your unique energy type and how to live in alignment with your true selves.
Holly explains how human design focuses on individuality and uniqueness, unlike other systems that emphasize homogenization or “sameness”. She deep dives into the characteristics and strategies of each energy type, including generators, manifesting generators, projectors, and manifestors. This conversation is aimed to help you experience more fulfilment and satisfaction in life by allowing you to see where you may have fallen out of alignment with your energy archetype due to social conditioning. When we are trained our whole lives to energetically respond in a certain way, realizing your own unique energy type can be confronting, deep work but necessary to heal any nervous system dysregulation.
(For example, projectors like Sam will feel burnt out after even just 4-5 hours of work!)
We also ask Holly to share the significance of ‘profile’ in human design for those who want to go a little deeper than knowing their type and how it can affect your relationships, decision-making, and business.
We’re so excited for you to learn more about Human Design because this conversation helped us really solidify that what our intuition has been telling us is actually true, and that when we live in alignment with our energy, we experience more ease, trust, and manifestations.
Timestamps:
00:00 Introduction to Human Design
06:15 Energy Types: Generators and Manifesting Generators
17:25 Energy Type: Projectors
27:19 Energy Type: Manifestors
36:12 Difference Between Ambition and Initiation
03:00 Understanding Human Design
06:00 The Five Energy Types
21:00 Living in Alignment with Your Design
36:00 The Impact of Human Design on Relationships
39:00 Using Human Design in Decision-Making
42:00 Applying Human Design in Business
53:01 Living in Alignment with Business for Each Energy Type
01:20:25 Exploring the Conscious and Unconscious Profile
If you love this episode and want to chat with us and our high vibe community about anything related to your journey...join us inside the FREE Spiraling Higher Community for conscious dialogue and loving perspectives.
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