Dates, Mates and Babies with the Vallottons Jason and Lauren Vallotton

This Q&A session is a follow-up on the recent Sex Series (episodes 62-67) and includes questions from listeners pertaining to individual, dating and marriage scenarios. The following topics are covered, and we've attached some links to other resources related:
Healing from sexual past, including memories Restoration of virginity and the healing processDating  people who have extreme sexual history such as visiting prostitutes, porn, homosexuality, etcDating someone who is actively struggling with pornography but aggressively pursuing freedomPartners who are experiencing grief as they process their partner's sexual past Building trust in the healing processDiffering sex drives in marriageChronic illness and its impact on sexual relationship in marriageRESOURCES:
Moral Revolution BlogThe Whole Man Project (for men regarding sexual wholeness)DMB Episodes on Processing Pain:
1. Episode 20: A Plan for Pain, Part 1
2. Episode 21: A Plan for Pain, Part 2 Connect with Lauren:
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In the final episode of the Sex Series, the spotlight shifts to the intricate interplay of women's health and sex in the context of marriage. Rebekah LaRobardiere, a certified sex and relationship coach, joins the discussion, guiding listeners through the delicate dance of intimacy experienced by women from adolescence to menopause. Together, they explore the dynamic relationship between the body's natural rhythms and the emotional resonance of relationships, offering empathy and understanding to harmonize these elements into a loving melody.

The discussion begins with an exploration of the challenges inherent in navigating intimate waters amidst life's transitions. Shedding light on the unspoken struggles that can turn sex into a choreographed routine, rather than a spontaneous expression of love, they delve into both psychological and physiological aspects. Rebekah shares insights into the transformative potential of communication, addressing issues such as painful sex and psychological barriers, and highlighting how a deeper understanding of one's body can enhance intimate connections.

The conversation concludes with a heartfelt reflection on the delicate balance between self-care and the demands of intimacy, particularly for mothers. It serves as a reminder that self-nurturance is not a solitary endeavor but an essential component of a healthy relationship. Through Rebekah's guidance, they emphasize the importance of setting personal boundaries with grace and the empowering potential of taking ownership of one's choices in the bedroom and beyond. Tune in to elevate your relationship's choreography to an art form, where each step is taken with care, understanding, and a shared sense of rhythm.

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Rebekah Joy LaRobardiere is a seasoned explorer delving into the intricacies of human connection, particularly in the realms of sexuality and relationships. Rebekah embarked on her journey in 2004 when she married her Love, initiating a voyage marked by love, laughter, tears, and continual growth.

As a certified Sex and Relationship Coach, Rebekah brings not only a wealth of credentials but also a profound sense of empathy, humor, and genuine humanity to her practice. With just shy of two decades of dedicated engagement in her field, she holds certifications as a sexuality educator, complemented by a background in psychology and extensive study in Somatic Experiencing theory.

Moreover, Rebekah is passionate about empowering women to embrace their true selves, advocating for an appreciation of the natural cycles and phases that define our existence. By cultivating self-awareness and authenticity, individuals not only enrich their own lives but also create opportunities for those around them to pursue their desires with confidence.

It's essential to dispel the misconception that Rebekah, as a Sex and Relationship Coach, hasn’t had the same struggles as many of you. On the contrary, her journey is a testament to the messy, yet beautiful, nature of human connection—a journey marked by resilience, growth, intentionality, and profound moments of tenderness. Alongside her partner, Rebekah has navigated challenges, celebrated triumphs, and embraced the transformative power of change.

Connect with her on social media (@rjlcoaching) and explore her insights further at www.rjlcoaching.com.
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In this episode, listeners are invited to explore the complexities of marital intimacy overshadowed by past trauma, physical challenges and addiction through the compassionate insights of Dr. Glenn and Phyllis Hill from Connection Codes. The journey promised entails a path towards healing and a profound emotional bond between partners.

Together, the hosts delve into the intricate dynamics of sexual trauma within marriage, emphasizing the importance of acknowledging and addressing old wounds for their dissolution. Utilizing the 'issue-specific core emotion wheel,' they navigate tender memories and advocate for the 'power of the ooh,' a simple yet impactful expression of empathy strengthening spousal bonds.

Listeners are also encouraged to challenge their perceptions as the discussion also addresses the misunderstood condition of vaginismus, shedding light on its emotional foundations that contribute to a significant majority of cases. The discourse underscores the essential relationship between physical affection and emotional security, emphasizing the need for a tranquil sanctuary for sexual pleasure.

Furthermore, the conversation explores the emotional weight often carried by men and women in response to sexual rejection and the importance of seeking external guidance when stuck in patters of current or past sexual addiction.

Ultimately, the episode serves as more than just an informative resource; it's a heartfelt guide tailored for couples striving to honor God's design for sex within the sanctity of marriage. Through transparent communication and shared empathy, listeners are offered insights to enrich their connection and strengthen their relationship.

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Hills' Bio:
Dr Glenn Hill is a marriage and family therapist, clinical sexologist, Connection Codes
coach and author with a private practice in Nashville, TN. He considers his greatest
credential to be his 40-year marriage with Phyllis. He enjoys doing absolutely anything
with her, especially traveling and spending time with their family of twenty.

Phyllis Hill is an entrepreneur, Connection Codes coach and the engine that keeps
everything running. She enjoys the partnership and adventures she and Glenn share
and loves being “Honey” to their ten grandchildren.

The pain of their early married years along with decades of research and experience led
the Hills to the founding of The Connection Codes. They counsel couples, families,
individuals, churches and businesses in building deep connection. They are passionate
about the Connection Codes because of the effect on their relationship, as well as
seeing the effect for countless others. It is the Hills’ mission to take the Connection
Codes to everyone on the planet.








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Jason and Lauren Vallotton host Dr. Glenn and Phyllis Hill from Connection Codes as guests in Part 2 of a profound exploration of the intimate conversation about Sex in Marriage. 
This episode delves into the intricacies of emotional connection and how it fuels a more fulfilling sexual relationship. The Hills unravel the complexities of sex in marriage and explain that emotional safety is not just complementary to intimacy—it's foundational. The Hills' candid reflections on their journey and the practical tools they've developed, like the Core Emotion Wheel, provide actionable steps to help you articulate your feelings and desires, ensuring a richer connection with your partner.

Intentionality is the key to an enhanced intimate life. Together with Dr. Glenn and Phyllis Hill, the Vallottons explore the importance of understanding the unique triggers— 'brakes and accelerators'—that influence the transition into the realm of intimacy. Discover how setting the stage with the right atmosphere and a foundation of emotional connection can significantly enhance arousal and satisfaction. Sharing insights into the art of discovering what makes us feel desired, the hosts offer strategies for couples to communicate their needs effectively.

This conversation isn't just about improving your sex life; it's about elevating the entire standard of marital intimacy. Candid sharing illuminates the highs and lows of building a sexually fulfilling union, piercing through the layer of silence that often shrouds this delicate aspect of marital bliss. This episode promises an unvarnished look at the journey from purity to passion, unpacking the weighty influences of past experiences and the sheer power of connection and vulnerability between partners.
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Hills' Bio:

Dr Glenn Hill is a marriage and family therapist, clinical sexologist, Connection Codes
coach and author with a private practice in Nashville, TN. He considers his greatest
credential to be his 40-year marriage with Phyllis. He enjoys doing absolutely anything
with her, especially traveling and spending time with their family of twenty.

Phyllis Hill is an entrepreneur, Connection Codes coach and the engine that keeps
everything running. She enjoys the partnership and adventures she and Glenn share
and loves being “Honey” to their ten grandchildren.

The pain of their early married years along with decades of research and experience led
the Hills to the founding of The Connection Codes. They counsel couples, families,
individuals, churches and businesses in building deep connection. They are passionate
about the Connection Codes because of the effect on their relationship, as well as
seeing the effect for countless others. It is the Hills’ mission to take the Connection
Codes to everyone on the planet.
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Jason and Lauren Vallotton host Aaron and Jenna Zint as guests in Part 1 of a profound exploration of the intimate conversation about Sex in Marriage. These three questions, and more, are answered in this episode:
Why is sex important in marriage?What is permissible inside of marriage, when it comes to sex?How does sex change over time and in different seasons of life in marriage?Their candid sharing illuminates the highs and lows of building a sexually fulfilling union, piercing through the layer of silence that often shrouds this delicate aspect of marital bliss. This episode promises an unvarnished look at the journey from purity to passion, unpacking the weighty influences of past experiences and the sheer power of connection and vulnerability between partners.

Navigating the complexities of physical desires and emotional intricacies, we engage in heartfelt discussions about the ebb and flow of sexual drives, the pressures that accompany our most intimate moments, and how these elements craft the tapestry of our relationships. The Zints, with remarkable transparency, reveal the transformative impact of addressing unmet expectations, the echo of performance anxiety in the bedroom, and the liberating act of prioritizing emotional bonds over carnal conquests. These conversations are a testament to the courage it takes to confront the unspoken, fostering a space of trust and growth for couples like Jason and Lauren, who graciously share their story.

As Jason and Lauren lead this conversation, they also contemplate the practicalities that accompany an evolving sexual relationship. This episode is an invitation for couples seeking rejuvenation and a more profound sense of togetherness. The insights of this episode serve as a lighthouse for lovers venturing through the sometimes-choppy waters of physical and emotional intimacy, offering guidance, compassion, and a shared vision for a fulfilling intimate life. Join the Vallottons to harness the transformative power of trust and communication on the sacred journey of marriage.
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Aaron and Jenna Zint bring nearly 10 years of experience to emotional and relational health coaching, specializing in developing healthy habits around growth area goals. They have worked with a diverse range of male and female clients, empowering them to unlock their full potential and achieve lasting results. Aside from coaching, Jenna is a Bethel Ministry School alumni and deacon at Bethel Church in Redding, California. She runs a business called The Habit Lab. Aaron also graduated from Bethel School of Ministry and is the leader of The Whole Man Project at Bethel Church. They can also be found in the podcast space with The Habit Lab and Marriage Lab. The Zints have been married for 14 years and have three children. Jenna's passion is helping people put action-steps to their breakthrough and healing journey, and Aaron's passion is helping men break out of areas they feel stuck in. Together, they're committed to providing personalized support tailored to each client's unique needs and aspirations.
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In the second week of this Sex Series, Jason and Lauren navigate the sensitive terrains of intimacy, commitment, and faith in the context of premarital sex. Prepare to unravel the layers of emotional and spiritual significance that frame this topic, as they offer perspectives that could profoundly alter your understanding of relationships and self-control. Jason and Lauren engage in candid conversation about the reasons and ramifications of sexual purity, as seen through cultural and biblical lenses. They dissect the emotional resilience that stems from delayed gratification, and extend a compassionate hand to those reconciling their past with their ongoing spiritual journey.

The fabric of modern sexuality is thoroughly examined, revealing its intricate weave of emotional needs and societal evolution. The Vallottons scrutinize the repercussions of hypersexual relationships, considering their impact on the fundamental pillars of trust and intimacy—essentials for a lasting bond. Touching upon the seismic shift brought forth by the sexual revolution, Jason and Lauren reflect on its echoes in today's family dynamics and personal interactions. And they approach the sanctuary of marriage, we delve into the unique trust and intimacy that blooms within its protective walls, contrasting it with the transient thrills often found outside of this covenant. 

Join the Vallottons on this thoughtful expedition, where the true meaning of giving, not just taking, in relationships is brought to light.
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