discourse matters..‪.‬ Ms. Gugulethu Lethabo Sihlali

We should be thinking more about love and we should certainly be doing more from love. “Everywhere we learn that love is important, and yet we are bombarded by its failure. In the realm of the political, among the religious, in our families, and in our romantic lives, we see little indication that love informs decisions, strengthens our understanding of community, or keeps us together. This bleak picture in no way alters the nature of our longing. We still hope that love will prevail.
We still believe in love's promise.” - bell hooks

How are you? “Knowing how to be solitary is central to the art of loving. When we can be alone, we can be with others without using them as a means of escape.” -bell hooks

Remember everything that is not love, goodness and peace relies on you to be indifferent. So, refuse to be indifferent always! "I insist on being shocked. I am never going to become immune. I think that's a kind of failure to see so much of it that you die inside. I want to be surprised and shocked every time"
- Toni Morrison

Waiting seasons are so loud with advice of what to do and what not to do, stress and trying figure it out. I, however, am an advocate of waiting in stillness. This stillness doesn’t erase action but rather stabilises self in order to navigate it all. Surrender and be obedient to the season. In all you do keep your heart soft.

We have to keep trying to reclaim our lives because one day we will be able to do it permanently. We have to keep reclaiming our lives because one day we get full ownership of it!
I hope you know that you have to keep trying not because you will one day win but because the answers are in the continuous trial and error. And the answers aren't just for you but for many generations to come. And perhaps
that's the win.

In this episode we speak about my theme of the year: Holding rejection up to the light and what that looks like.

“you see this life is so long and fulfilling that today you are rejected and feeling dazed & tomorrow your very destabilised woes are held with regard and welcomed home. I cannot for certain promise that we all find romantic love after turmoil, but we do find our people. we do.” -Nwai