Can I Laugh On Your Shoulder? Molly Stillman | Speaker, Author, Loud Laugher
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Can I Laugh On Your Shoulder? Podcast is a weekly podcast where we have honest conversations about faith, business, life, and everything in between. Hosted by speaker and author, Molly Stillman, her mission is to make you laugh, cry, and laugh till you cry. She wants to create a community of people who are unafraid to be themselves and have honest conversations about the things that matter most. Her vision is to create a safe space for people to explore their faith and share their stories and gifts with the world.
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#390 The Special "If I Don't Laugh, I'll Cry" BOOK LAUNCH Podcast Episode with my GUEST HOST - My Husband, John!
The day is FINALLY here! Yesterday marked the official launch of my book, which means you can now purchase If I Don’t Laugh I’ll Cry everywhere books are sold!
To make this moment even more special, I'm joined by the one and only John Stillman in today’s episode. Although he didn’t prepare his interview questions (but don’t you worry- he never fails to prepare a joke or two) we had a blast reminiscing about the journey of bringing this book to life.
From the initial days of the writing process to receiving my first-ever feedback from early readers, every step of this adventure has been nothing short of incredible.
I want to extend a heartfelt thank you to each and every one of you who has supported me on this journey. Whether you've preordered the book, left a review, or simply shared in the excitement, your support means the world to me.
If you’re planning to get your hands on a copy soon, I can’t wait for you to read it!
Until next time, happy listening + happy reading!
0:11 – Presidents, Past Boyfriends & The Making of a Memoir
Selecting Millard Fillmore The boyfriend chapter The evolution of If I Don’t Laugh I’ll Cry 8:09 – … Now What?
A second book? Anticipation of reader feedback The publishing process Molly’s favorite chapter 14:32 – Chapter By Chapter
What it’s like to work with an editor Crafting an engaging narrative and chapter titles Where chapters of the book were written 21:07 – Completing the Book
The book’s content and structure The hardest chapters in the book to write John’s dialogue in the book The Dark Knight + Googling “racketeering” 29:16 – Final Thoughts
Positive feedback from male readers Designing the book cover Buying the book in person FEATURED QUOTES
“The initial idea was really just to tell a debt story... I think as I began to work on the outline I realized that more of that backstory needed to be included than I think I originally thought.”
“I think the thing I'm most looking forward to is hearing the stories of people who are reading it.”
“I can say, I'm not I'm not sick of myself. That sounds really weird to say, but I mean… I'm not sick of this book. Like, I'm not over it. I am more excited about it than ever. And I'm just genuinely excited for people to read it.”
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About Can I Laugh On Your Shoulder?
Can I Laugh On Your Shoulder? Podcast is a weekly podcast where we have honest conversations about faith, business, life, and everything in between. Hosted by speaker and author, Molly Stillman, her mission is to make you laugh, cry, and laugh till you cry. She wants to create a community of people who are unafraid to be themselves and have honest conversations about the things that matter most. Her vision is to create a safe space for people to explore their faith and share their stories and gifts with the world. -
#388 A SPECIAL CONVERSATION WITH MY DAD!
This week, I'm thrilled to welcome the most special guest ever on my show- my dad. With the release of my book just around the corner (coming out next week- can you believe it?!) I couldn’t think of a better time to have him on the podcast. Together, we dig into some of the stories that are (and aren’t) talked about in my book.
Join us as we laugh, reminisce, and share stories of the joys, the challenges, and everything in between. My dad has such powerful things to say about gratitude, slowing down, choosing love, and finding joy in the darkest of moments. This conversation is so special to me, and I am so excited to share it with you today.
Without further ado, let’s jump into this conversation with Tom Buckley.
3:34 – Tom 101
Tom’s upbringing + challenging relationship with religion Going to college, joining a fraternity, and career as a teacher Difficulties in marriage, battles with alcoholism and homelessness Tom’s journey to sobriety + spiritual growth
26:49 – Parenting Perspectives
Reading the memoir Watching children make mistakes and learn from them
36:28 – Choosing Love
Tom and Lynda’s marriage that defied the odds Prioritizing sobriety, God, and the good of the family The importance of love, respect, and kindness
48:28 – Rule 62
Looking for the good throughout Lynda’s sickness Not taking yourself too seriously Appreciating what life has taught you Tom’s favorite chapter in the book
48:28 – Life lessons at 80
Tom’s life today with Cindy Slowing down and appreciating the present Trusting that things will work out when you get out of your own way
FEATURED QUOTES
“That's what life is about. It isn't about failure, it's about getting back up.”
“If you take yourself too seriously, you just lose sight of all the things that really are important.”
“In the ‘getting through it’ stage, you gain experience and knowledge that you can use to get out of it. You can find places for help and guidance that will work.”
“You want to see who the winners are? Follow the laughter.”
Connect with me:
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#387 ON LIFE AND COMEDY WITH COMEDIAN DUSTIN NICKERSON
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My guest this week is the hilarious Dustin Nickerson, a comedian from Seattle now suffering in Southern California. In 2020 he released his debut comedy special Overwhelmed, which is currently one of the highest-rated specials on Amazon Prime.
His humor has graced the screens of Comedy Central, Netflix with Kevin Hart, The Late Late Show with James Corden, Fox, and Hulu, and his stand-up clips have garnered tens of millions of views. Dustin is also the author of How To Be Married To Melissa and co-host of the podcast Don’t Make Me Come Back There.
If you want to laugh today, this is the episode for you! I have been a long-time fan of Dustin’s work and I’m so excited to have him on the show today to share his perspective on life, marriage, comedy, and more. You’re going to love this one!
12:07 – Dustin 101, Toby Keith, and Bojangles
Dustin’s Twitter bio
Molly’s first date at a Toby Keith concert
Bojangles Biscuits
Dustin’s fan base
21:46 – Set Bedtimes and Mouthguards
Adult parties need bedtimes
Middle-aged friendships
The beauty of marriage
27:40 – If I Don’t Laugh, I’ll Cry
Dustin and Melissa’s viral video
Dustin’s relatable humor
Evolving as a comedian
33:44 – Finding Your Funny
Authenticity in creativity
Bombing in stand-up
Understanding your audience
41:41 – The Solider Dog, The Late Late Show and Dustin’s Book
Dustin’s memorable career moments
The dedication behind success
Connecting with Dustin
FEATURED QUOTES
"The only way to get good at stand-up comedy is to do stand-up comedy."
“No comedian is beloved by everybody. You're not trying to get everyone to love you. You're trying to get the people that do love you, or will love your stuff, to find you.”
Learn more about Dustin:
Dustin on Tour:
https://www.dustinnickerson.com/
Dustin’s Comedy Specials:
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCs2QQYow6VX9nDpDwCspiqQ
Dustin on social media:
https://www.facebook.com/dustinnickersoncomedy
https://www.instagram.com/dustinnickerson/?hl=en
https://twitter.com/DustinNickerson
How To Be Married To Melissa:
https://www.thomasnelson.com/p/how-to-be-married-to-melissa/
Don’t Make Me Come Back There Podcast:
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dont-make-me-come-back-there-with-dustin-melissa-nickerson/id1434215707?mt=2
Melissa’s Target Outfit Video:
https://www.tiktok.com/@dustinnickersoncomedy/video/7327676165953457451
Connect with me:
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About Can I Laugh On Your Shoulder?
Can I Laugh On Your Shoulder? Podcast is a weekly podcast where we have honest conversations about faith, business, life, and everything in between. Hosted by speaker and author, Molly Stillman, her mission is to make you laugh, cry, and laugh till you cry. She wants to create a community of people who are unafraid to be themselves and have honest conversations about the things that matter most. Her vision is to create a safe space for people to explore their faith and share their stories and gifts with the world. -
#386 How to Build Lasting Wealth with Personal Finance Expert Bola Sokunbi
We have such an incredible guest joining us for today’s show! Bola Sokunbi is a certified financial instructor (CFEI), money expert, speaker, and founder of Clever Girl Finance, one of the largest personal finance media platforms for women in the U.S.
Bola received the 2021 Financial Education Instructor of the Year Award from the National Council of Financial Educators and is a 4x best-selling author of the Clever Finance Series and her book, Choosing To Prosper. She is passionate about helping women take control of their money stories and live life on their terms.
Bola has such amazing things to say about breaking free from a limiting money mindset, being intentional, and giving yourself grace along your financial journey. I could not be more excited to have her back on the show with us today to share her story and wisdom with all of you!
4:49 – Bola 201
Bola’s life as a business owner, mom, and wife Releasing 4 books Bola’s career journey and mission Pursuing her business on her own terms 22:35 – Embracing Imperfections in Money Management
“Low dough March” Tips for curbing impulsive spending Embracing imperfections and finding solutions that work for you 40:57 – The Wealth Paradox
The cultural attitude towards money Wealthy individuals being idolized and demonized Common misconceptions about wealth Money as a tool 51:24 – Final Takeaways
Breaking free from a limiting money mindset Learning from others, being intentional, and open-minded to opportunities Changing dynamics in the financial planning industry Connecting with Bola FEATURED QUOTES
“I had an idea that I wanted to build a business that would help women- that would empower women to not feel any shame or any judgment about their finances.”
“Automation is a tool that can help you save and help you get out of debt faster, that can help you invest more. Leverage the tools and resources that can help you help yourself.”
“Give yourself that grace. We’re all making money mistakes.”
“Money is not anything. It's a tool. It doesn't make you good, it doesn't make you evil, it doesn't make you kind, it doesn't make you hideous… it… amplifies who you are. If you're a good person, you're a great person with money. If you're an evil person, you're a worse person with money. It’s a tool.”
Learn more about Bola:
https://www.clevergirlfinance.com/
Clever Girl Finance Book Series
https://www.amazon.com/stores/Bola-Sokunbi/author/B076GP7FS3
Bola’s book, Choosing To Prosper
https://www.amazon.com/Choosing-Prosper-Triumphing-Adversity-Achieving-ebook/dp/B0B4V644NT
The Clever Girls Know Podcast
https://www.clevergirlfinance.com/podcast/
Clever Girl Finance on social media
https://www.instagram.com/clevergirlfinance/
https://www.youtube.com/clevergirlfinance
https://www.facebook.com/clevergirlfinance/
Connect with me:
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About Can I Laugh On Your Shoulder?
Can I Laugh On Your Shoulder? Podcast is a weekly podcast where we have honest conversations about faith, business, life, and everything in between. Hosted by speaker and author, Molly Stillman, her mission is to make you laugh, cry, and laugh till you cry. She wants to create a community of people who are unafraid to be themselves and have honest conversations about the things that matter most. Her vision is to create a safe space for people to explore their faith and share their stories and gifts with the world. -
You are a Tree with Joy Marie Clarkson | EP: 385
I am so incredibly excited to sit down with Joy Clarkson in this week’s episode. Joy wears many hats - from being a research associate in theology and literature at King’s College London to serving as the Books and Culture Editor for Plough Quarterly.
Completing her Ph.D. in theology at the University of Saint Andrews, she's also the face behind the popular podcast Speaking with Joy and the author of several books, including her latest release, You Are a Tree, which we chat about today.
This conversation was so rich, and it was such a delight to unpack some of the powerful metaphors found in scripture together. I hope you join us as we learn more about the inspiration behind Joy’s new book and talk about how God uses imagery and nature to help us better understand ourselves, our relationships, and the mysteries of life.
7:06 – Joy 101
Living in Scottland and teaching theology in London Joy’s books and podcast Joy’s love for tea, music, and baking 13:03 – The Origin Story for Joy’s book
Frequently relocating as a child Joy’s lifelong connection with trees Living in one place for 27 months Exploring trees in Scripture 18:50 – Nature’s Lessons
The profound metaphors found in nature God’s intentional creation The 7 metaphors explored in Joy’s book 26:44 – Metaphors of Mystery
God’s intentional design woven into creation Embracing childlike wonder to see God’s presence and intentionality Using metaphors as tools to describe the mysterious aspects of creation 40:59 – Final Takeaways
Unpacking “love is a disease” The metaphors of trees and travel Connecting with Joy FEATURED QUOTES
“Scripture itself… it's not just a rulebook…doesn't give us a bunch of abstract, philosophical truths about God- it draws on our experiences of the natural world, and our experiences of light and height and depth, to help us understand ourselves and our relationship with God.”
“I think metaphors kind of keep us open to the many facets of things and the mystery of being alive.”
“We are created to belong in this world, and to have a relationship [with] it and to find meaning in it.”
“To be in the world and to flourish we do need to have roots, we do need to be like a tree and stay in one place. But even the best tree human life is still a temporary life and we still have this sense of belonging for a home that isn't here."
Learn more about Joy:
https://joyclarkson.substack.com/about
Check out You Are a Tree:
https://www.amazon.com/You-Are-Tree-Metaphors-Nourish/dp/0764238256
Check out Aggressively Happy:
https://www.amazon.com/Aggressively-Happy-Realists-Believing-Goodness/dp/0764238248/?_encoding=UTF8&pd_rd_w=LfzV1&content-id=amzn1.sym.cf86ec3a-68a6-43e9-8115-04171136930a&pf_rd_p=cf86ec3a-68a6-43e9-8115-04171136930a&pf_rd_r=144-9553475-8087324&pd_rd_wg=LvZyp&pd_rd_r=6d7bd05c-79fe-4760-962e-083df08e9a43&ref_=aufs_ap_sc_dsk
Speaking with Joy podcast:
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/speaking-with-joy/id1310614879
Joy on social media:
https://www.instagram.com/joynessthebrave/?hl=en
https://www.facebook.com/p/Joy-Clarkson-100063508753020/
https://twitter.com/joynessthebrave?ref_src=twsrc%5Egoogle%7Ctwcamp%5Eserp%7Ctwgr%5Eauthor
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Can I Laugh On Your Shoulder? Podcast is a weekly podcast where we have honest conversations about faith, business, life, and everything in between. Hosted by speaker and -
#384 How to Handle Conflict in a Healthy Way with Donna Jones
My guest this week is the amazing Donna Jones. Donna is a national speaker, church planter, pastor’s wife, and self-described bible explainer with a remarkable speaking portfolio spanning 26 states and 4 continents.
Donna is also the host of the weekly That's Just What I Needed podcast and the talented author behind Seek: A Woman's Guide to Meeting God, Taming Your Family Zoo, the Get Healthy Bible Study Series, and more.
In honor of her newest book, Healthy Conflict, Peaceful Life, she joins us today to share powerful strategies for handling conflicts with grace and truth. We talk about everything from navigating disagreements to the biblical foundations of forgiveness. I know there is something valuable in this conversation for everyone- get ready for a good one!
2:29 – Donna 101
Pastor’s wife and church planter National speaker, writer, and mom Passionate about conflict resolution Gym, coffee, and shoe lover 7:04 – Healthily Handling Conflict
Communicating thoughts, feelings, and opinions with grace and truth Donna’s unique perspective on conflict through ministry Don’t make the small things big and the big things small 18:31 – The Art of Listening & Disagreeing Gracefully
The conflict continuum Listening to understand Learning to disagree without being disagreeable 34:20 – Forgiveness
Forgiveness is a command, choice, and promise Starting with the “want to” Inviting Jesus into the pain It’s never too late 49:28 – Takeaways
Ordering Donna’s book Connecting with Donna Free online resources FEATURED QUOTES
“I would like to hope that this book serves the purpose to help people avoid things that will make them regret how they handled some conflict in their life.”
“If you have conflict with someone, it does not mean you are a bad person, they are a bad person, or your relationship is somehow defective or bad.”
“When we invite Jesus into those spaces, He doesn't shame us. He sympathizes because He leans towards us and He whispers, ‘I know. I felt it too. I get it. I understand. And I can help.’”
Learn more about Donna:
https://donnajones.org/
Get your copy of Healthy Conflict/Peaceful Life:
https://www.amazon.com/Healthy-Conflict-Peaceful-Life-Communicating-ebook/dp/B0CDKY8YNJ
Donna on Instagram:
https://www.instagram.com/donnaajones/
Donna on Facebook:
https://www.facebook.com/donnajonesspeak/
Connect with me:
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Customer Reviews
One of my favourite podcasts in the sustainable fashion space!
I’ve been listening to the podcast for years, and have always been blown away by the diversity and accomplishments of Molly’s guests as well as the thought and research she puts into each show. I particularly love the sustainable fashion episodes, but have honestly learned so much about every industry from listening to the show. Such a great listen and I look forward to when it airs every week!