46 min
Dr Vanessa LaPointe | Discipline without Damage Little People, Big Feelings Summit
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- Parenting
Timestamps01:21 What is discipline?
03:11 How to step away from punishment
04:17 Put yourself inside their experience
04:45 Children are normal in the way they present themselves
05:20 Parents struggle to see their children neutrally
06:27 Our children invite us to grow ourselves up so that we can grow them up
07:43 Central developmental realities
08:43 Emergent phase
09:51 QTIP - Quit Taking It Personally
12:00 Adaptive
12:41 Adaptive = vulnerable
13:10 Point of connection creates context to parent
14:30 Firm & kind
14:45 The Parenting Mountain
18:40 Working on ourselves
19:30 Connection
21:23 Toddlers who bite
21:55 Flag drop
23:45 Do we need to deal with the problem immediately?
28:45 Techniques
29:05 We cannot control a child who has lost control of themselves
31:05 Give in & come alongside
32:25 Children are human beings
33:20 Do children understand their emotions?
36:14 What do parents do with themselves?
36:51 We have to be self full in order to be selfless
39:45 Self care is not about going and getting a massage
40:50 Psychological distance
42:26 We were never meant to go this alone
44:30 Take home message - The bottom line is relationship
Dr. Vanessa LaPointe Dr. Vanessa LaPointe is a mom, registered psychologist, parenting educator, best-selling author, international speaker, and a regularly invited media guest. Founder and director of The Wishing Star Lapointe Developmental Clinic, she has been supporting families and children for almost 20 years, and has previous experience in community mental health and the school system.
Dr. Vanessa is known for bringing a sense of nurturing understanding and humanity to all of her work. Her passion is in walking alongside parents, teachers, care providers, and other big people to really see the world through the child’s eyes. She believes that if we can do this, we are beautifully positioned to grow up our children in the best possible way.
Discipline without Damage When your child is threatening a meltdown in the grocery aisle, is it really possible to keep your cool, correct the behaviour, and reinforce healthy development, all at the same time? In this easy-to-read, science-based book, parents, caregivers, and big people of all kinds will discover how discipline affects children’s development, why intervention should reinforce connection, not separation, and why the disciplinary strategies that may have been used on us as children are not the ones that children really need.
See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Timestamps01:21 What is discipline?
03:11 How to step away from punishment
04:17 Put yourself inside their experience
04:45 Children are normal in the way they present themselves
05:20 Parents struggle to see their children neutrally
06:27 Our children invite us to grow ourselves up so that we can grow them up
07:43 Central developmental realities
08:43 Emergent phase
09:51 QTIP - Quit Taking It Personally
12:00 Adaptive
12:41 Adaptive = vulnerable
13:10 Point of connection creates context to parent
14:30 Firm & kind
14:45 The Parenting Mountain
18:40 Working on ourselves
19:30 Connection
21:23 Toddlers who bite
21:55 Flag drop
23:45 Do we need to deal with the problem immediately?
28:45 Techniques
29:05 We cannot control a child who has lost control of themselves
31:05 Give in & come alongside
32:25 Children are human beings
33:20 Do children understand their emotions?
36:14 What do parents do with themselves?
36:51 We have to be self full in order to be selfless
39:45 Self care is not about going and getting a massage
40:50 Psychological distance
42:26 We were never meant to go this alone
44:30 Take home message - The bottom line is relationship
Dr. Vanessa LaPointe Dr. Vanessa LaPointe is a mom, registered psychologist, parenting educator, best-selling author, international speaker, and a regularly invited media guest. Founder and director of The Wishing Star Lapointe Developmental Clinic, she has been supporting families and children for almost 20 years, and has previous experience in community mental health and the school system.
Dr. Vanessa is known for bringing a sense of nurturing understanding and humanity to all of her work. Her passion is in walking alongside parents, teachers, care providers, and other big people to really see the world through the child’s eyes. She believes that if we can do this, we are beautifully positioned to grow up our children in the best possible way.
Discipline without Damage When your child is threatening a meltdown in the grocery aisle, is it really possible to keep your cool, correct the behaviour, and reinforce healthy development, all at the same time? In this easy-to-read, science-based book, parents, caregivers, and big people of all kinds will discover how discipline affects children’s development, why intervention should reinforce connection, not separation, and why the disciplinary strategies that may have been used on us as children are not the ones that children really need.
See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
46 min