Feminine Power Time with Christine Arylo Christine Arylo

How do we breakthrough patterns and imprints that we are ready to release? What are the practices? What works? How does this invisible transformation actually work to make shifts in the material world?
Consider this: Change takes place over time, but if we can't see the progress, we don't receive the energy we need to stay devoted and focused.  
Good news - choosing to engage in what I call "Sacred Transformation" - yours and the worlds, isn't about waiting until all things are perfect and the way you'd like them to be ... that's a path for suffering for sure! 
Sacred transformation - when you put the word sacred in front of transformation here's what you get: "change devoted to / for the sake of creating wholeness, without violence to self or others, done with respect." This is a way of working with and breaking through long-held pattern in way we can expereince, receive and I dare say enjoy (even in the struggle) all along the way. 
As we see the shifts happening in little ways... we start to feel them in bigger ways... the dense shadow transforms with gratitude into a lighter brigthter frequency that maintains it's depth (and darkness now rooting in wholeness).... and we gain the energy to continue evolving and elevating.
Tune in to #2 of 3: 3 Pratices for Breaking Through Patterns Ready to Release.
And join us for this year's annual 40-Day From Burnout to Balance Practice - www.burnouttobalancepractice.com  
Here are some of the practices for Sacred Transformation I'll share + here for you to explore. 
Release + Embrace (Replace) 4 S's - Space + Structure + Support + Sangha  4 Stages of Transformation Triangle of Transformation   See you there!
Christine 
*** P.S. Remember to SHARE this podcast with at least one friend or colleague. And then conversate on how you can support each other through your transformation.
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*** WAYS TO GO DEEPER 
From Burnout to Balance 40 Day Practice - learn more. Align to Your Design - Career & Life Design Mentoring & Consulting with Christine - https://christinearylo.com/align-to-your-design-career-leadership-mentorship/ *** RESOURCE MENTIONED:

4 Stages of Transformation Triangle of Transformation  *** CONNECT:

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Shadow patterns. Self limiting imprints. Sabotaging cycles and habits. That we just can't shake or seem to breakthrough.... or maybe we just haven't had the holsitic approach and wisdom and tools to get to the roots of where the "shadow frequency" keeps us stuck in cycles that no longer serve us. Or maybe we've been working these patterns for decades, and we are now ready to truly break free + breakthrough.
In this series: The Practice of Breakthroughing Patterns We No Longer Need, the last in our 8th season, we will take a 3-part journey to give you insight, wisdom and tools to:
 See and NAME the patterns that no longer serve you, and that are ready to release to you can elevate into the next expression of your career, relationships, wellbeing, expression, relationships, wealth -- because it's time!  Break Apart the Old + Breakthrough to the New - breakthrough takes time and structure and focus, for which there are simple models and practices you can use.   Share the Common Collective Patterns Up For Breakthrough  - so you can surf with all of us to a better, elevated way vs. getting pulled under :) Consider this: You can't change what you cannot see or don't have language for. And if you are not consciously working with the unconscious imprints within you, they are working you!
So let's embrace our power to transmute (elevate the frequency of) the patterns that may have served us at one time... and are not ready to be composted, with gratitude. 
Tune in to #1 of 3: How to Reveal the Invisible Patterns Within You Ripe for Breakthrough where we set up the series + start to illuminate where to start looking for the patterns ready to come up and out of the shadow. 
And join us for this year's annual 40-Day From Burnout to Balance Practice - www.burnouttobalancepractice.com  
Here are some places to start looking 
Where am I chasing, hoping, holding on, frustrated, resentful, pushing, struggling, proving, begging? Where am I OVER-giving and UNDER-receiving -- time, energy, money, care, mindshare? Who are the commong types of people I find myself in relationship with - personal and/or professional - that don't feel good, are imbalanced, or trigger me to chase, hope, frustrate...etc? What cycles keep repeating? In my relationships, work, finances, health? That may have a "blip" up, and shift slightly but not significant enough to make a true difference or be in alignment with what I desire, need and require. See you there!
Christine 
*** P.S. Remember to SHARE this podcast with at least one friend or colleague. And then share the insights you have around the patterns ready and ripe for breakthrough. 
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*** WAYS TO GO DEEPER 
From Burnout to Balance 40 Day Practice - learn more. Align to Your Design - Career & Life Design Mentoring & Consulting with Christine - https://christinearylo.com/align-to-your-design-career-leadership-mentorship/ *** CONNECT:

Subscribe to Christine's Monthly Wisdom Letters - https://christinearylo.com/wisdom-letter-signup/ Linked in: https://www.linkedin.com/in/christinearylo/ Feminine Wisdom Cafe - private online community: http://www.FeminineWIsdomcafe.com You Tube: https://www.youtube.com/c/ChristineArylo

Join Christine Arylo for this Feminine Power Time, 4 Inquiries to Get Your Habits and Choices into Harmony for the Months Ahead. One of the four Power Pauses she shares each year, this one focused on what wise leaders and people do:
1. Illuminate the imbalances in the different realms of your life - so they don't become drama, disease, disaster and distress 
2. Shift habits and patterns in your daily life that might have been aligned before, but need to shift as you head into this next cycle 
3. Focus on and committ to the intentions, projects, relationships that are ready and ripe to grow and prosper 
4. Set a new rhythm for your day and week that supports and sustains where you are now, and what you are creating and managing these next three months, into June Solstice. 
When you pause at near the equinoxes and solstices, your internal rhythm aligns with the natural rhythm... you gain the power to reset habits that might have been okay in months prior but need a shift.
And you gain clarity on how to focus your life force so what you spend your time, energy & money creates what you desire.
Power pauses are leadership best practice, a wise way to run your business, organization or team, and I believe a must if you want to stay sustained and sane in a world in which we feel so much pressure to do so much. And then don’t have what we need to sustain ourselves.
Every year I hold power pauses at this 4 key shifting points, the equinoxes and the solstices, March, June, Sept and Dec - within the Feminine Wisdom Way Wisdom School, some virtually, some weekend retreats and some for companies and organizations in which we do "Cyclical Strategic Planning."
I do this because this yearly practice of pausing 4x a year I believe is something most of us where not taught how to do, but when we do it, everything in our life works in better harmony. It’s how I run my life, business, partnership, relationships, and grow what is important to me.
Each power pause has a different focus and flavor depending on the time of the year.
In Feminine Power Time, I can’t share with you entire power pause process for March Equinox but I can give you a 40 minute power pause with 4 simple but mighty inquiries - like a mini Harmony Adjustment for your life
1. Look at your sacred work and career - what is in harmony? What is out of harmony? What is calling for your attention? 
2. Look at your relationships - what is in harmony? What is out of harmony? What is calling for your attention ? 
3. Look at your health, wealth, home - what in harmony? What is out of harmony? What is calling for your attention now?
4. What if you chose to create from a place of joy? What would JOY feel like in you or for you?  
Bonus. What is ONE habit or pattern in your morning flow that isn't in harmony to keep doing into this next season? RELEASE this. Then what is ONE habit or pattern you can EMBRACE and place into your morning flow this next cycle?
We don’t give up everything or go militant. We choose a few things to elevate and release, and also receive pleasure too.
Tune in. 
Listen to the power pause. Journal on the questions.
Invite a friend to do the Power Pause too and ask each other the questions. And support each other to make soul-aligned, supportive, sustainable choices. 
With Great Heart
Christine 
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Go Deeper. Get Connected. Receive Wisdom, Structure & Support.
1. From Burnout to Balance 40-Day Practice - www.BurnouttoBalancePractice.com  
2. Connect on the Feminine Wisdom Cafe - www.femininewisdomcafe.com Join the conversation!
3. Overwhelmed and Over It: Embrace Your Power to Stay Centered and Sustained in a Chaotic World  www.OverwhelmedandOverit.com 
4. Re-Defining Relationships Podcast - Ep 149 https://christinearylo.com/2021/03/shift-your-relationships-2-of-3/
 

At the root of all the over-giving and over-self-reliance and much of the burnout and imbalance we experience is a big old old root ball called "OVER RESPONSIBILITY." 
We've been imprinted and conditioned by our society and family systems to take OVER Responsibility for the needs of people, projects, and the planet - and we have willingly put way too much on our shoulders and backs, often as an unconscious way to deal with our fear, feelings of being undervalued, and not enough (no matter how outwardly successful things may look).
Consider this: What might have been in alignment to take responsibility for or embrace ownership of as your part, may not be in balance now or going forward. 
Wisdom: The systems (both those you create, and those you work and live within) will take everything you give them, and there will still be more to give.
So... until we take a stand of self-advocacy + stop filling the gaps and taking more and more of the burden and responsibility, there is no incentive for anything to change ... in your work, team, family, friends, marriage, projects, even the things you care deeply about on the planet. 
Which is why we will dive deeper in Ep 235: Releasing OVER-Responsibility. Embracing Enough. (#3 of 3 in Burnout to Balance Series). Where are you taking OVER responsibility for:
The people in your life - personally or professionally - individually or community? The projects you created or ones that were given to you? The needs of the planet - as important as they are and as passionate as you feel, you know you are holding way too much of the burden or responsibility?  And then go deeper to reveal...
What is your part?  What is not your part?  What may be your part but you are not sure? What are you afraid will happen (or not happen) if you step back or release?  Then we end with a two ways to make it practical in your life now ... see wisdom inquires below. Tune in! 
With heart
Christine 
p.s. TWO REQUESTS to help share the wisdom and connect with others.
-- Share this episode with a friend and share the ways you've stepped into OVER Responsibility. Then support each other to get into balance.
-- Leave a review with words that share why you listen or what others could expect. Thank you
*** WAYS TO GO DEEPER 
From Burnout to Balance 40 Day Practice - learn more. Align to Your Design - Career & Life Design Mentoring & Consulting with Christine - https://christinearylo.com/align-to-your-design-career-leadership-mentorship/ *** PRACTICES + RESOURCES FROM SHOW
Book: Overwhelmed and Over It  *** CONNECT:

Subscribe to Christine's Monthly Wisdom Letters - https://christinearylo.com/wisdom-letter-signup/ Linked in: https://www.linkedin.com/in/christinearylo/ Feminine Wisdom Cafe - private online community: http://www.FeminineWIsdomcafe.com You Tube: https://www.youtube.com/c/ChristineArylo ***
Wisdom Inquiries
Action : To balance the imbalance -- What can I Start? Stop? Shift? 
Practice: Self-Sustainability Stands 
I consider what is needed and what I have to/desire to give before I proceed.
If the support and space is not there, I am not moving forward at full-speed.
I stay in co-creation to reveal and proceed on the wise, harmonious path.
I stay present to the real needs and stay focused on my part.
I remember Grace is at the center of all challenges.
I glide from Grace. I move from strength.

Many of us operate like banks that give more withdrawls than deposits, resulting in imbalances in our relationships, wellbeing, money, jobs, businesses and projects that lead to undue suffering, struggle, and sacrifice. 
We OVERgive - time, energy, resources, care, and mindshare -- to projects, people, our passion and our purpose. We UNDERReceive the time, energy, resources, care and mindshare we need and desire. As a result, eventually we burnout, become resentful, get sick and discouraged, or quit.
We don't SEE the imbalance or the ways we OVEReffort, work, extend, etc. until we get to the drama, distress or dis-ease.  
One of the breakthroughs I discovered in all my research around burnout and sustainable success and wellbeing is that we don't have to wait until the extreme imbalance hits our bodies, beings, bank accounts, relationships or brains. We can use the power of Cyclical Living to pause (usually around March Equinox) and take a look around our life, work, relational, & wellbeing design, illuminate the imbalances, and then take simple but significant steps to make shift happen. 
Wisdom: If you can reveal the specific ways you overgive, you become empowered to shift the imbalances.
Which is what we will do together in this Ep 234: Where Are You OVERGiving & UNDERReceiving? (#2 of 3 in Burnout to Balance Series). Where are you:
Giving more than is needed? Giving more than is in harmony? Giving more than you can afford to give?  Over extending? Over compensating? Over efforting?  And then go deeper to reveal...
Which OVERgiving imprints are running you, and where are the roots? Then you can make shifts that liberate you from patterns that don't serve anymore. Practices to re-wire the giving/receiving equations & expectations so the exchanges stay in balance vs become imbalanced. I do this survey of the landscape of my life, projects, relationships, purpose and work every year, because every year there is a new insight and something new to work with that supports me to do and see things differently. Tune in! 
With heart
Christine 
p.s. TWO REQUESTS to help share the wisdom and connect with others.
-- Share this with a friend and share your OVERgiving Imprints. Then you can support each other by giving each other permission to take the action that gets your giving and receiving into balance. 
-- Leave a review with words that share why you listen or what others could expect. Thank you
*** WAYS TO GO DEEPER 
From Burnout to Balance 40 Day Practice - starts in March   Align to Your Design - Career & Life Design Mentoring & Consulting with Christine - https://christinearylo.com/align-to-your-design-career-leadership-mentorship/ *** PRACTICES + RESOURCES FROM SHOW
Book: Overwhelmed and Over It  QUIZ: Am I Overgiving? 13 Overs Mentioned in the Podcast. www.AmIOverGiving.com  *** CONNECT:

Subscribe to Christine's Monthly Wisdom Letters - https://christinearylo.com/wisdom-letter-signup/ Linked in: https://www.linkedin.com/in/christinearylo/ Feminine Wisdom Cafe - private online community: http://www.FeminineWIsdomcafe.com You Tube: https://www.youtube.com/c/ChristineArylo ***

 
 



 

Self esteem, self confidence, ability to take care of oneself, sovereignty, self sufficient ... these are all good things to possess and embody. Monikers of internal strength. However, when one thing become over-used or valued, or the other side of the spectrum isn't present, things get out of whack, our lives and bodies become imbalanced, and we get stuck in situations and chronic challenges that keep us in survival or stress mode.
Consider this: "We have become so self-sufficient as self-empowered humans that we have become overly self-reliant."
Most people I encounter suffer from this invisible dis-ease of Over Self Reliance, we feel it but don't have the words to see it, and therefore transform it. We become so used to doing whatever needs doing, we don't pause to consider what help we need to do it. We don't consider if we don't have the resources we need, maybe we shouldn't take it on. We've grown so accoustomed to fight for what we need or just barely scrape by that we've gotten used to making do and doing more ourselves.
And honestly, there have been many times you and I have needed support or help, and it just wasn't there. That has been our shared reality. Yet, we are each being invited to shake off the over-self-reliance to find a more balanced exchange ... even if we cannot see how that is possible, yet.  
Ask yourself: Where may I be operating from over self-reliance? One I may have needed before, but that now, at this phase in my reality, is not serving me? 
WISDOM: Where you are OVER self-reliant, you are also UNDER supported, UNDER cared for and UNDER connected.
Today we kick off a series I've named From Burnout to Balance ... to illuminate the invisible ways we are operating like banks giving more withdrawls than receiving deposits, resulting in imbalances that lead to undue suffering, struggle, and sacrifice.
We start with Ep 233: Goodbye OVER Self-Reliance where we dive into:
How Over-Self Reliance manifests - once you name it you gain the power to shift i Acknoweldging the truth of the over self-reliance and why it's been real for you   Opening up to doing things differently going forward - and rebalance. I will also walk you through inquiries to get clear on where over self-reliance is impacting you. Together we can all release this generational pattern and find the new ways to create relationships and realities that by nature create harmony and balance. So your radiance, briliance and light is supported for many years to come.
See you there, 
Christine 
P.S.->> Request - Share this podcast with one person and then connect and share where the OVER Self Reliance is, what the cost has been, and what it's time to do differently. 
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*** WAYS TO GO DEEPER 
From Burnout to Balance 40 Day Practice - starts in March   Align to Your Design - Career & Life Design Mentoring & Consulting with Christine - https://christinearylo.com/align-to-your-design-career-leadership-mentorship/ *** PRACTICES + RESOURCES FROM SHOW
Receiving Mantra : I am held. I am connected. I am supported Book: Overwhelmed and Over It  Article: The 8 Kinds of Burnout *** CONNECT:

Subscribe to Christine's Monthly Wisdom Letters - https://christinearylo.com/wisdom-letter-signup/ Linked in: https://www.linkedin.com/in/christinearylo/ Feminine Wisdom Cafe - private online community: http://www.FeminineWIsdomcafe.com You Tube: https://www.youtube.com/c/ChristineArylo ***