106 episodes
GR8 Relationships Hermann Eben with Paul Moore
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- Religion & Spirituality
The PROBLEM Destroys ALL Relationships: You’re probably aware of the PROBLEM but may not think it’s a problem. That’s what happened to Hermann and Louie. The PROBLEM created blind spots that damaged their marriage and relationships. Trust God's Word; you have the same PROBLEM!
The SOLUTION Promotes SUPERIOR Relationships: Some people see the SOLUTION as “simple, but not easy.” We see it as both simple and easy. When you know the SOLUTION, you start implementing other GREAT relationship enhancements like freedom from bitterness, freedom from guilt, designs of men and women, the image of God, mutual submission, and leadership.
The SOLUTION Pursues BEST Relationships: You can PURSUE THEIR BEST and stop FLASHING your ME - making life all about yourself. That is a radical change from what most self-help gurus propose. You have been made into a new creature by Christ’s life in you. It’s time to choose the power of the Holy Spirit to live that new life—we can help you change your thinking!
It is time to MOVE OUT OF THE PAST, which controls you in two powerful ways. When you sin against someone and when others sin against you. God provided two powerful relationship tools to deal with each of those situations. It’s time to stop letting the past control you—we can help you change your thinking!
And you can LIVE IN FREEDOM because God designed you to be free, yet you are constantly controlled by others and trying to control them. Jesus Christ died to provide us freedom, but you will continue to be slaves to your sin nature, leading to wrong thinking, destructive emotions, and evil actions if you don't follow God's thinking. It’s time to choose a freedom lifestyle—a “want to,” not a “have to” lifestyle—we can help you change your thinking!
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Are You Good But Up To No Good?
As with most of this relationship material, I represent the way to NOT be doing relationships. And, for this control people item, that's me! I speak control fluently and will tell you it severely damages relationships.
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Is God Free?
It's a very old problem, kids blaming their parents for how they turned out. And from the parents side, taking credit for the kids turning out well or feeling like losers when the kids don't. God speaks directly to that issue in Ezekiel 18.
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Controlled, Controlling, Or Concerned?
You are "concerned" that you see sin in their life and you know from God's Word that the consequences of sin are never good. What should you do? Since they are free to sin, do you ignore it and hope they make another choice? Do you get involved and tell them about the sin and hope they change? Do you tell them about the sin and try to make them change? What if they never change?
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Without This Tool, Relationships Become INTOLERABLE
Our working definition of freedom is "Acting without force or manipulation or acting without controlling or being controlled." Freedom is often not easy for us to understand, especially how it works in relationships. Without freedom in a relationship, you will never know if someone is relating to you simply because they want to. Go listen to "The Third Tool" on the Radio page to help you start understanding how freedom works in relationships. And, watch the "Freedom and Choice" videos in chapter 8.
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Which Circle Are You Living In?
You are probably not experiencing as much freedom as you think. Even when we are irresponsible with our freedom, not caring about others, we often become controlled by life, circumstances and people. Go listen to "Two Ways to Live and The Third Tool" on the Radio page to listen how we too often live in this Left Circle. And, watch the "Freedom for You: Two Circles" videos in chapter 8.
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Forgiveness Is NOT Reconciliation
Forgiveness is not reconciliation. Forgiveness is so good for you, but it gets derailed when you combine it with things like reconciliation. If you think you must reconcile with someone that may prevent you from the freedom you can have through forgiveness. Listen to hear how reconciliation is completely separate from forgiveness.