J. Stamatelos - How to Stop People-Pleasing, Learn to Love Your Inner Critic, and Why We Need to Welcome Negative Emotions Inspired By Impact - A Podcast for Men

EP089 - How do you go about not only learning to love your inner critic but leveraging that piece of shit voice (or voices) in your head in order to make them an ally and not an enemy?
 
Today, my guest is J. Stamatelos (one of the coolest names ever!) who believes the way we've been taught to approach personal change is entirely wrong, so he helps men just like you and me who struggle both internally and externally through a modality known as Internal Family Systems, or IFS.
 
IFS is an evidence-based framework that heals emotional pain by building a positive self-relationship within. It assumes we are made up of “parts” that are often in conflict. 

One part of you may want you to be bold and share your truth with the world…while another wants you to hide and avoid being seen. It remembers how you were hurt before and doesn’t want you to experience this again. 

Instead of picking a side and fighting this out, IFS allows us to heal these old wounds. Healing past pain allows these protective parts to switch roles and become powerful allies toward authentic living. 

IFS excels for those who experience high degrees of shame, self-conflict, self-doubt, fear of external judgment, and similar issues. 
 
Here are just a few of the amazing takeaways Paul and I will be crushing today:
 
 👉🏾 Why seeing ourselves as an ally we want to help as opposed to an enemy we need to defeat is critical to our success

 👉🏾 If self-sabotage is really our inner critics having the best of intentions, how do we develop the awareness to recognize when the inner critic is actually trying to help us?

 👉🏾 When you feel like shit, how do you separate yourself from your emotions in order to effectively deal with the emotions?

👉🏾 If re-framing your emotions in the moment is the key to getting past your negative emotions, what's the step that comes before you can ever re-frame what you are feeling?

👉🏾 Why emotions are guests that visit us every day and in our home we need to have two doors - one that lets things in and one that lets things out -  and how our job is to keep both doors open

👉🏾 Why we wear masks in order to be loved by those around us but by wearing a mask we will never be loved for who we truly are

👉🏾 Why living in a hyper-competitive yet isolated world is the perfect environment for cultivating an inner critic that generates shame

👉🏾 What are the 3 different levels of dealing with the self-critic and what are the tangible action steps you can take for each level to learn to love and leverage your own inner critic?



 💪🏾 HERE'S MY CHALLENGE TO YOU!
 
📲 Download the MMU Blueprint and start Igniting the Impact you wish to see in your
world.
 


 👊🏾 SHOUT-OUT TO
My Brother J. Stamatelos who you connect with onHis WebsiteSchedule a FREE Consultation
 📖 RESOURCES
Dr. Kristin Neff's Website (Self-Compassion)
 🥰 ENJOY THE SHOW?
Leave a review with AppleGive it a rating on SpotifyConnect with me on IG by posting a screenshot of this episode and tagging me @ignitetheimpact
👊🏾 We got this!
Support the show