284 episodes

Sam & Sierra may not be therapists, but they will tell it to you straight (even if they aren’t). Each episode, they answer listeners’ questions with compassion, radical honesty, and all the relationship advice you don’t want—but definitely need. And no, it’s not always “just break up.” (Unless you really should!)

Just Break Up: Relationship Advice from Your Queer Besties Sierra DeMulder and Sam Blackwell

    • Health & Fitness
    • 4.9 • 99 Ratings

Sam & Sierra may not be therapists, but they will tell it to you straight (even if they aren’t). Each episode, they answer listeners’ questions with compassion, radical honesty, and all the relationship advice you don’t want—but definitely need. And no, it’s not always “just break up.” (Unless you really should!)

    You Can Only Say Your Truth So Many Times

    You Can Only Say Your Truth So Many Times

    You can’t love your partner out of their insecurities. You can tell them your truth, and eventually, they’ll just have to choose to believe you. If they can’t, it might be time for a classic JBU (WOW it’s been a while!). You deserve to be with someone who isn’t constantly asking you to prove your love.
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    • 27 min
    The Emotional Block-Block-Block

    The Emotional Block-Block-Block

    Our feelings are 100% valid but also 100% our responsibility. Other people aren’t hurting us just because we’re hurt (even if they did break “girl code,” like a friend dating our ex). Instead of trying to control the narrative, how can you decenter yourself in your understanding of their relationship, accept the inevitability of nuance, and self-soothe on your time?
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    • 43 min
    Good News! You Get to Make Better Choices

    Good News! You Get to Make Better Choices

    It’s okay that people hold versions of you in their mind that you don’t agree with. It’s also inevitable. Reaching out to an ex to explain what “really” happened doesn’t usually help anyone, and might even hurt them. If you know your truth, does it matter that others don’t? Can you release the need for validation and let them process the relationship for themselves?
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    • 33 min
    It’s Literally Just… Not That Deep

    It’s Literally Just… Not That Deep

    Feelings are valid, but feelings are liars. How can we separate our partner’s actual behavior from the stories it tells to us? What if being late didn’t mean disrespecting your time, or only grabbing their own towel wasn’t seen as an act of malice? (But also, c’mon…) Realizing it’s not that deep is a good start, but radically accepting our partner is better.
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    • 30 min
    Grab a Bucket & Get to Work

    Grab a Bucket & Get to Work

    Being in relationship with a grieving partner is HARD—even harder than grieving yourself. But you can’t be the only bailing out water. Something has to change, whether you stop and let the boat sink or they start helping. How can you acknowledge their depression AND your isolation while you slowly work your back to the relationship you had?
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    • 43 min
    The Plot of Every “L Word” Episode Ever

    The Plot of Every “L Word” Episode Ever

    You can’t carve trust out of your partner’s deceit. If they’ve shown you a pattern, it’s best to believe it. And while it’s hard to let go of a relationship you fought so long for, it’s worse to stay in an unsafe, unsatisfying one. Even Sam might leave Peter over this many lies (and that’s saying a LOT).
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    • 32 min

Customer Reviews

4.9 out of 5
99 Ratings

99 Ratings

lauren&vladthekitty ,

Life changing podcast

For starters, I LOVE Sierras laugh (and Sams too)! This podcast has genuinely fundamentally changed me for the better since I started listening a few years ago. Sam and Sierra are wholesome, wise, and deeply loving. I can’t recommend this podcast enough, and I can’t put into words how I feel about it and the hosts. Just Break Up has taught me so much about empathy, emotional maturity, communication, and a bajillion other super helpful things that I put into practice literally every single moment of every single day, but most importantly, Sam and Sierra have deeply changed my relationship with myself. I found this podcast in the midst of awakening after a lifetime of trauma, and I truly can’t comprehend how I would have made it through this process of becoming without them. I’m a huge proponent of therapy, and I still genuinely do not think I would have been able to grasp the concept of my own worth in the way that I have now without Sam and Sierra’s presence. I’ve never left a review on iTunes before but I had to do it for Just Break Up pod, because they truly deserve the 5 stars and more. Sam and Sierra manage to deliver all this life changing advice with humor, grace, and charm, making Just Break Up pod incredibly easy to listen to and love. Plus, the production quality is amazing, shout out to Spencer!! Damn if these two don’t feel like my best friends, and damn if I don’t love them like they were. I deactivated all my social media several months ago, but just last night I reactivated instagram for 5 minutes to swoon over Sierra’s new baby (congratulations Sierra and Willow!!!), that’s how much I love these two. Listen to Just Break Up pod and I guarantee you’ll be swooning over them with me in no time!

audo:) ,

THE BEST PODCAST EVER

THANK YOU SALMON SIERRA 🥰

jemmaWright ,

So good!

I don’t even listen on here, I follow them on Spotify. But trust me, you need this in yo your life.

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