Letting Go – 379 The Recovery Show » Finding serenity through 12 step recovery in Al-Anon – a podcast

What do you want to let go of? What is preventing you from completely letting go?







Eric was inspired by a meditation he heard on the Insight Timer app, titled She Let Go.







A very rough outline of our conversation follows:









* What does it mean to let go?



* Stop doing things that I don’t have the power to carry out (control someone else, e.g.)











* What am I letting go of?



* Resentment







* Anger







* Anxiety







* Blame







* Fear







* Shame







* Expectations







* Catastrophizing the future







* The past







* The need to be right, to win, to control







* Old behavior







* “Need” to react to triggers.







* Responsibility







* Dependence on others











* What tools do I have to help me let go?



* Slogans



* Let go and let God.







* How important is it?







* Would you rather be right or be happy?







* Easy does it. (let go of anxiety)







* One day at a time. (let go of worry)







* Live and let live – let go of trying to live someone else’s life for them and live my own











* Neutral responses



* You could be right.







* Oh.











* Random thoughts



* I have no dog in this fight.







* Not my circus, not my monkeys!







* Let go or be dragged.











* Meditation



* “Turned a 12-cylinder type A Leo into a 6 cylinder hybrid. Learned to slow down.”











* “Why?”



* “Drill down” to find something I can actually do something about. Example: I am afraid of my loved one’s drinking. Why? I am afraid that I will lose them. Why? I am afraid of being alone.















* When I let go of things I don’t like, I make room for new things (hopefully better things) to come in.







* Recognize “alcoholic” behaviors



* Provoke conflict







* Create anxiety











* When I let go of other people’s stuff, I can live my own life.

















Readings and Links







We read from Reaching for Personal Freedom, the Step 1 chapter; Courage to Change, March 5.







The poem “She Let Go” was written by Safire Rose, and you can listen to it on Insight Timer, read by Jack Godsman.







Al-Anon books can be purchased online at the Al-Anon Store.







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