Own Your Choices Own Your Life Marsha Vanwynsberghe

In this episode, I am sharing a perspective shift and understanding I have learned firsthand and through this whole process of studying NLP.  We only know what we know, and there’s so much that we don’t know including about ourselves. It starts with taking a closer look at where you are and where you want to be and why are you not there, what is stopping you, what patterns, limiting beliefs, or patterns are blocking you.


In today’s episode, we discuss:
1)  You can understand how the language of the mind creates patterns of emotions, behaviours, thoughts, and beliefs. With this information, you can change what isn't working, add new programs that will work better, and enhance what is working well. NLP is one tool that will also help you to learn how to communicate with yourself or others better.

2)  In NLP we chunk up or chunk down our thoughts, saying that is just who I am, is not an introspective approach that allows you to create change. Certain patterns are on repeat in our lives, how can you catch it, interrupt the pattern, or ask for feedback from someone you trust?  This can also be the blind spots where you excel as these are areas that light you up, and that energy can be felt.

3)  So many people are in the online space coaching, leading others, claiming to be the expert, and yes maybe they have walked through really difficult situations and they can lead others through those types of situations, which does not make them great coaches or mentors.  I share a couple of personal examples of this.

4) Learning more about yourself is how you can see your limiting beliefs, your patterns on repeat, the blocks and barriers that keep holding you back, how far you get and then stop yourself, you will see yourself and how you’ve held yourself back in a new light.  

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Marsha Vanwynsberghe — NLP Storytelling Trainer, Author, Speaker, and Podcaster
Marsha is the 6-time Bestselling Author of “When She Stopped Asking Why”.  She shares her lessons as a parent who dealt with teen substance abuse that tore her family unit apart. Marsha has been published 7xs, most recently with her co-platform, Every Body Holds A Story, and she is on a mission to continue to help women and men to speak, share and publish their stories. 
Through her tools, OUTSPOKEN NLP certification, programs, coaching, and podcast, Marsha teaches the power of Radical Responsibility and Owning Your Choices in your own life.  She empowers people how to heal and own their stories, be conscious leaders and build platform businesses that create massive impact.
 

In this episode I am sharing a perspective shift and understanding I have learned firsthand and through this whole process of studying NLP. Achieving our goals is not always about working harder, doing more, working to the bone, it is about seeing where the limitations are, or the perceived limitations are. And no matter how hard you work, you will never outperform what you believe is possible for you. You will get close, almost reach your goals, but if you don’t see it as something as possible then it will never happen for you. This quote by John C. Maxwell is so good, “Successful people don’t have any fewer problems than unsuccessful people; they just have a different mindset in dealing with them.” 
 
In today’s episode we discuss:
1) Here are 5 of the most common limiting beliefs. I don’t have enough time; I don’t have the resources to be successful; I am not someone who follows through. I'm not good enough for x,y,z, and I don’t have what it takes to be successful. 
2)  Your mindset is informed by beliefs, values, experiences, and cultural background, among other factors that guide your thoughts and actions. Beliefs are mental representations of what we consider to be true or false. They are the foundation of our mindset and influence our perception of the world, self-image, and behaviour.

3) A limiting mindset, on the other hand, becomes your ceiling. You can’t outperform that belief. It holds you back and prevents you from achieving anything beyond it, such as “I’m not smart enough” or “I’m too old to learn new things.” Once you get locked onto a set of beliefs or a single lens, everything else revolves around that mindset. Your life becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy.  Your beliefs shape your behaviour, which in turn shapes our outcomes, reinforcing our beliefs. If we believe we are incapable of achieving anything worthwhile, we are less likely to take the necessary actions to make them a reality.

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Marsha Vanwynsberghe — NLP Storytelling Trainer, Author, Speaker, and Podcaster
Marsha is the 6-time Bestselling Author of “When She Stopped Asking Why”.  She shares her lessons as a parent who dealt with teen substance abuse that tore her family unit apart. Marsha has been published 7xs, most recently with her co-platform, Every Body Holds A Story, and she is on a mission to continue to help women and men to speak, share and publish their stories. 
Through her tools, OUTSPOKEN NLP certification, programs, coaching, and podcast, Marsha teaches the power of Radical Responsibility and Owning Your Choices in your own life.  She empowers people how to heal and own their stories, be conscious leaders and build platform businesses that create massive impact.
 

In this episode, we are speaking with Master Health Coach, Jonathon McLernon.  Coach Jon is a weight loss coach and emotional eating expert who has lost 100lbs.  From nanotechnology researcher to Navy marine engineer, to globetrotting nomad, Coach Jon spent most of his life running from his true calling, until one question changed his life. Now he's on a mission to help others lose weight for good and leave BS diets in the rearview mirror. With Freedom Nutrition Coaching he marries the Science of Metabolism with the Psychology of Behavior Change and the Compassion of Human Connection to create life-changing transformations with his clients. Coach Jon is also the host of Between the Before & After, a podcast that shares inspiring real-life stories of remarkable people overcoming significant adversity in their life

In this episode, we discuss:
1) Jon’s story of dealing with a very traumatic experience, how it led him down a path of exploring and understanding his big emotions, how it led to a series of weight fluctuations, to a place of losing 100 lbs, and most importantly learning how to practice self-compassion and love towards himself.  All of these lessons have led him to do the work he is doing and the impact he is creating with his own clients.

2) The power of our stories, our emotions, how connected we are by our experiences, and how our stories can give others hope that it is possible to change our stories.

Connect with Jonathon
Email: coachjon@jonmclernon.com
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/btba-podcast/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/coachjonm/
Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/btba_podcast/
Twitter:  https://twitter.com/btba_podcast
YouTube:  https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCeudXGvTTRsT5z63m4eWbeg
Website: www.freedomnutritioncoach.com
Podcast: https://www.betweenthebeforeandafter.com/
 
Marsha Vanwynsberghe — Author, Speaker and Life Coach
Marsha is the 6-time Bestselling Author of “When She Stopped Asking Why”.  She shares her lessons as a parent who dealt with teen substance abuse far past the level of normal experimentation.
Through her programs, coaching and live events for women, Marsha is on a mission to teach you how to “Own Your Choices” in your own life.  She teaches women how to own their stories, lead themselves and pay it forward to others by creating businesses that serve, support and impact others
 

In this episode, I am sharing a personal story a real-time shift, and how to navigate through the muck. It’s always important that we share our own story, sometimes we are walking through a ton of things that are outside of our control and we can only share our story.  The old me would fight like hell through every single challenge that crossed my path, mostly on my own until I realized I was wasting a crap ton of energy and realized nothing was changing.

In today’s episode, we discuss:
1)  Today I am sharing a personal story, and I wanted to share what it is really like in the moment navigating challenges.  These are some of the tools that I use:  I feel, I reach out and ask for help/support to shift my energy (not the fix-it friends, the holding space friends).  Choosing to stay stuck in it is exhausting and changes nothing.  I don’t rush this phase I do my best to move through it.  It takes days, sometimes a week or longer to shift it, but the longer you stay stuck in the muck, the harder it is to move.

2)  One key reminder that allows me to move forward and this goes back to when we were walking through the most difficult years of our lives.  First, I would remind myself that I was in the position because I could handle it, I was the person to find a way out, and I always had the answers, I might not like the answers, but I knew what the answers were.   The second reframe was the question “Did I make the best decision that I could at the time with the information that I had?” Tomorrow or the next day I might have different information but at that time I had this information. 
3) The wolf that lives is the one you feed.  If you feed the anger, resentment, lies, etc, there are no solutions there.  None.  Which means no change either.  When you feed the fear, the negative emotions and vibrations they only grow. 
4) The final question I ask myself is “How can I get bigger than the problem, and what if you do have the ability and skills to find your way out?  Getting bigger than the problem is being open to possibilities, potential people to cross your paths, and new insight. Letting go of an old decision. 
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Marsha Vanwynsberghe — NLP Storytelling Trainer, Author, Speaker, and Podcaster
Marsha is the 6-time Bestselling Author of “When She Stopped Asking Why”.  She shares her lessons as a parent who dealt with teen substance abuse that tore her family unit apart. Marsha has been published 7xs, most recently with her co-platform, Every Body Holds A Story, and she is on a mission to continue to help women and men to speak, share and publish their stories. 
Through her tools, OUTSPOKEN NLP certification, programs, coaching, and podcast, Marsha teaches the power of Radical Responsibility and Owning Your Choices in your own life.  She empowers people how to heal and own their stories, be conscious leaders and build platform businesses that create massive impact.
 

In this episode I am sharing some thoughts on self-confidence, are you growing it or squashing it, and what self-confidence actually means. Self-confidence is a feeling of trust in one's abilities, qualities, and judgment. Self-confidence is an attitude about your skills and abilities. It means you accept and trust yourself and have a sense of control in your life. You know your strengths and weaknesses well and have a positive view of yourself. You set realistic expectations and goals, communicate assertively, and can handle criticism.  The challenge is that your external results will NEVER exceed your internal identity, what you believe you are worth, or what you deserve. 

In today’s episode, we discuss:
1)  Confidence is believing in yourself, feeling comfortable in your true self, knowing you have worth. If you are confident, people believe you, confidence is attractive, brings success, helps to connect well with others and you generally feel happier.

2)  This can start simply by creating promises with yourself and following through with them consistently, from the workout, water, food, screen time, rest, honouring your needs, and the standards you have set for yourself. The higher the standard, the deeper the self-confidence goes, always challenge yourself to do one more rep!

3) Doorway trigger, say a sentence that leads to confidence when you enter a room, you are shifting your internal energy and what you are looking for and expecting to find. It’s also important to look at the root of why there is a lack of self-confidence, through TIME techniques, NLP tools and subconscious reprogramming you can get to the root of the issue. 

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Marsha Vanwynsberghe — NLP Storytelling Trainer, Author, Speaker, and Podcaster
Marsha is the 6-time Bestselling Author of “When She Stopped Asking Why”.  She shares her lessons as a parent who dealt with teen substance abuse that tore her family unit apart. Marsha has been published 7xs, most recently with her co-platform, Every Body Holds A Story, and she is on a mission to continue to help women and men to speak, share and publish their stories. 
Through her tools, OUTSPOKEN NLP certification, programs, coaching, and podcast, Marsha teaches the power of Radical Responsibility and Owning Your Choices in your own life.  She empowers people how to heal and own their stories, be conscious leaders and build platform businesses that create massive impact.
 

In this episode, we speak with Retired NYPD detective turned author Vic Ferrari. Vic is the author of NYPD: Law & Disorder, Grand Theft Auto, The NYPD’s Flying Circus, NYPD: Through the Looking Glass, and Dickheads & Debauchery, is a retired New York City police detective and probably the funniest person you’ve never heard about. With no formal training or Harvard degree, Vic has managed to carve out a niche in the literary world. When he’s not shamelessly promoting his books, Vic is a frequent guest on the nationally syndicated radio show Sterling on Sunday.

In this episode, we discuss:
1) Vic shares his behind-the-scenes stories from years as a NYPD detective turned multi-published author and podcaster. 

Connect with Vic:
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/vicferrari50/
Email: Bjmac@aol.com
Twitter: https://twitter.com/VicFerrari50

Vic’s book https://www.amazon.com/stores/Vic-Ferrari/author/B01IIQXLBC?ref=ap_rdr&store_ref=ap_rdr&isDramIntegrated=true&shoppingPortalEnabled=true

Marsha Vanwynsberghe — Author, Speaker, and Life Coach
Marsha is the 6-time Bestselling Author of “When She Stopped Asking Why”.  She shares her lessons as a parent who dealt with teen substance abuse far past the level of normal experimentation.
Through her programs, coaching, and live events for women, Marsha is on a mission to teach you how to “Own Your Choices” in your own life.  She teaches women how to own their stories, lead themselves, and pay it forward to others by creating businesses that serve, support, and impact others