Room to Grow Podcast with Emily Gough Emily Gough

The balance of personal growth and contributing to a thriving romantic relationship is all about being comfortable in your own skin, without seeking external validation, yet embracing our innate need for connection. It’s independence and interdependence…but not co-dependence. 
I’m such a believer in this that I co-wrote an entire book about it called “You Grow Me” (link to buy below). 
This episode is a cross-podcast with Lisa Carpenter’s “Full Frontal Living” podcast (find it here). Lisa is a remarkable coach who helped me through one of the most challenging periods of my life (I tell that story in this episode). Here, we focus on creating safety within oneself -  reconnecting with the body, nervous system regulation and the massive importance of personal responsibility within a relationship.
In this episode, Lisa and I talk about:
Creating safety within: the foundation of self-connection Self-discovery and healing from trauma The impact of childhood experiences on adult relationships Navigating jealousy and building trust The gender gap in personal development Detachment  Why a healthy relationship can be as confronting as a traumatic one Learning to listen to your intuition The presence of exes in a new relationship The grief of finally getting what you want Jealousy in a relationship Taking personal responsibility for everything in your relationship  
My new book “You Grow Me: The Next Level Human Philosophy of Love, Sex and Romantic Connection” co-written by Dr. Jade Teta (Next Level Human podcast) is available now! It’s a big “f**k you” to unrealistic Hollywood love stories, and instead offers a fresh perspective on how personal growth is intertwined with romance. You can buy your copy of You Grow Me on Amazon here. Please read and let me know your takeaways! Email me or DM me on Instagram (contacts below).
 
CONNECT WITH EMILY
WOMEN’S GROUP (begins May 1, 2024): “Your Grown A$& Woman Era” apply here 
COUPLES COACHING with Emily & Kelly Gardner (apply here)
Book A Private Coaching Call With Emily To Work Together
Get Your FREE Guide “The Four Tools Missing From Your Relationship” here
Join Emily’s email list here
 
CONNECT WITH LISA
Website: https://lisacarpenter.ca
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lisacarpenterinc/
Podcast: Full Frontal Living
 
REFERENCES
Episode 389 | LIFE IS FULL OF UNCERTAINTY, BUT YOU’RE GONNA BE OK WITH LISA CARPENTER
Kelly Gardner on Instagram
 

When it comes to our personal growth and development, many people get caught in a trap of “doing” instead of “being.” Doing is when we learn the things, do the homework, and then force our actions based on doing exactly what we think we’re expected to…even if it feels inauthentic.  
But in order for the work to actually work, we have to embody it. We have to literally BE it. And to do that, we have to lean as hard as possible into our most authentic self.
Today we’re breaking down how to tell the difference between “doing” and “being” and the incredible rewards we attract - relationships, opportunities etc. - that come as a result of the innate magnetic nature of being the truest version of ourselves.
In this episode, we’re talking about:
The difference between doing and being Why so many people struggle with doing instead of being How to attract the right relationships and opportunities How our energy affects our communication Living life to the fullest Accepting exactly where you are right now Why authenticity is so attractive An exercise to pinpoint where you feel most alive

If you want to work with me to get to your point of “being” opposed to “doing” I have private 1-1 coaching spaces available to focus on this very subject. I’ve worked with a number of women lately on unleashing their own authenticity and the breakthroughs have been life-changing. Email me info@emilygoughcoaching.com or DM me on Instagram here and I’d love to get started!



CONNECT WITH EMILY
WOMEN’S GROUP (begins May 1, 2024): “Your Grown A$& Woman Era” apply here 
COUPLES COACHING with Emily & Kelly Gardner (apply here)
Book A Private Coaching Call With Emily To Work Together
Get Your FREE Guide “The Four Tools Missing From Your Relationship” here
Join Emily’s email list here
 
REFERENCES
Episode 339 | How To Become Wildly Magnetic

When we talk about how safe and secure we feel with someone we’re in a relationship with - romantic or other - we’re talking about emotional intimacy. It’s that deep connection we create and maintain with the truest version of both they and ourselves.
Today, I'm going to list 16 surprising signs of true emotional intimacy. Surprising because they involve levels of both strength and vulnerability that aren’t often covered in the usual curriculum of personal development.
In this episode, we’re talking about:
How to stay connected to yourself The importance of honesty, no matter how painful it is Asking for your needs to be met Asking for help Accepting yourself at your worst How to practice presence Setting boundaries in every relationship Caring for your partner's wounds Pushing your emotional range  
My new book is officially out! It’s called “You Grow Me: The Next Level Human Philosophy of Love, Sex and Romantic Connection” co-written by Dr. Jade Teta (Next Level Human podcast). It’s a big “f**k you” to unrealistic Hollywood love stories, and instead offers a fresh perspective on how personal growth is intertwined with romance. You can buy your copy of You Grow Me on Amazon here. Would love to know what you think! Email me or DM me on Instagram (contacts below).
 
CONNECT WITH EMILY
COUPLES COACHING with Emily & Kelly Gardner (apply here)
WOMEN’S GROUP: “Grown Ass Woman Era” apply here
Book A Private Coaching Call With Emily To Work Together
Get Your FREE Guide “The Four Tools Missing From Your Relationship” here
Join Emily’s email list here
 
REFERENCES
Episode 371 | Lessons On Learning How To Receive Love In A Healthy Relationship
Episode 385 | How Much Do You Value Yourself?
Episode 390 | My New Book “You Grow Me” Is Out Today! (Free Preview Of Chapter 1)
Episode 391 | Repairing Conflict In Your Relationship With Kelly Gardner 

Conflict is going to happen in a healthy relationship. And more often than not, conflict starts with something laughably small - from doing dishes, to making food, and even how to decoratively light a podcast. But underneath the menial cause of conflict always lies a much deeper need that isn’t being met. 
I’m joined on this episode by my partner, Kelly Gardner, a Relationship Coach and Men’s Group Facilitator, and as you’ll hear, we couldn't even record this podcast without a small conflict of our own. Yes, it was something super small (how to decoratively light this episode for video) which we playfully recount, but then take you through our thorough resolution and beautiful potential of the conflict repair process. 
Kelly and I also have spots open now for 2-on-2 Couples Coaching (apply here). These sessions are focused on breaking down walls, solidifying your relationship foundation, improving your sex life and designing the most supportive, fulfilling and loving relationship. 

In this episode, Kelly and I talk about:
Why conflict is so often over small things One partner taking leadership on certain things in a relationship Compassionate communication Assuming positive intent in others Trusting your partner through conflict Expressing your needs and asking for your needs to be met How to fully resolve a conflict in a relationship The repair process of conflict Discovering breakthroughs through conflict The essential elements of repairing conflict in a relationship How conflict is an opportunity to deepen your relationship


Also, my new book is officially out! It’s called “You Grow Me: The Next Level Human Philosophy of Love, Sex and Romantic Connection” co-written by Dr. Jade Teta (Next Level Human podcast). It’s a big “f**k you” to unrealistic Hollywood love stories, and instead offers a fresh perspective on how personal growth is intertwined with romance. You can buy your copy of You Grow Me on Amazon here. Would love to know what you think! Email me or DM me on Instagram (contacts below).
 
CONNECT WITH EMILY
COUPLES COACHING with Emily & Kelly Gardner (apply here)
WOMEN’S GROUP: “Grown Ass Woman Era” apply here
Book A Private Coaching Call With Emily To Work Together
Get Your FREE Guide “The Four Tools Missing From Your Relationship” here
Join Emily’s email list here



CONNECT WITH KELLY GARDNER
Website: https://www.kellygardner.com 
Instagram @iamkellygardner
FB: https://www.facebook.com/connectwithkellygardner 
 
REFERENCES
Episode 377 | Hope After Heartbreak: Our Love Story With Kelly Gardner
Episode 384 | Captain Save-A-Hoe & Queen Change-A-Dick: Lifelong Patterns That Harm Our Relationships
Episode 359 | Building A Community Of Better & More Present Fathers With Kelly Gardner
 

Today, I am so thrilled to announce the release of my first book “You Grow Me: The Next Level Human Philosophy of Love, Sex and Romantic Connection” co-authored with my dear friend, Dr. Jade Teta. It's all about creating growth-oriented relationships, rather than getting caught in the trap of “you complete me” and relying on other people, particularly our romantic partners, to fulfill our needs and happiness.
This book leaves the bulls**t Hollywood love stories, Rom Coms, and Disney nonsense where they belong - in fantasy land - and instead lays out how to create a relationship where you can show up more confidently as your authentic self, which allows you BOTH to feel more deeply connected to each other.
As a gift to you, I’m releasing Chapter 1 FREE in this podcast episode (links below to purchase). I sincerely hope “You Grow Me” helps you completely reframe the way you look at relationships - with both others and with yourself. 
Please let me know what you think! I’d love your feedback on the book, please email or DM me with your thoughts and takeaways. And thank you so much for all your support throughout this podcast - “Your Grow Me” would never have happened without it! (PS: check out Episode 373 for a behind-the-scenes recollection of the frenetic, hilarious, and exhausting story of how we wrote this entire book in just 9 days).
 
BUY THE BOOK
On Amazon:  “You Grow Me: The Next Level Human Philosophy of Love, Sex and Romantic Connection”
 
CONNECT WITH EMILY
COUPLES COACHING with Emily & Kelly Gardner (apply here)
WOMEN’S GROUP: “Grown Ass Woman Era” apply here
Book A Private Coaching Call With Emily To Work Together
Get Your FREE Guide “The Four Tools Missing From Your Relationship” here
Join Emily’s email list here
 
CONNECT WITH DR. JADE TETA
Website: https://www.jadeteta.com/ 
“Next Level Human” Podcast
Jade Teta on Instagram
Jade’s FREE Book Course

Fear is basically uncertainty. It’s having no idea or proof of our own capability to handle the unknown. So how do we learn to overcome fear and simply trust ourselves that we have everything we need to handle any uncertainty?
That’s where coaches like Lisa Carpenter come in.
Lisa Carpenter is a remarkable coach who has changed my life in so many ways. She's the host of the Full Frontal Living podcast and has worked with thousands of people - seeing their depths, bringing out their best and helping them truly live to their full potential. Today we’re going deep on how to channel our innate gifts and abilities to handle whatever fear comes our way, while embracing uncertainty as a beautiful chance to grow.
In this episode, Lisa and I are talking about:
Learning to accept compliments and praise Why anxiety shows up in our lives Noticing your own red flag behaviours How to avoid procrastinating and avoiding tasks Learning to listen to and interpret emotions How to learn to trust ourselves Integrating what we’ve learned Expanding our capacity for discomfort The difference between openness and vulnerability Integrity: showing up as the same person online and offline The value of sharing openly in inspiring and serving others Navigating uncertainty and embracing discomfort The importance of authenticity and real connections Embracing change and making conscious choices

I’d love to know where you are on your journey to building self-trust. Where are you getting stuck? Please reach out (contacts below) and I'd love to talk more about this subject with you. And thanks to Lisa for inviting me on her Full Frontal Living Podcast episode 253 - you can listen to that episode right here. 
 
CONNECT WITH EMILY
COUPLES COACHING with Emily & Kelly Gardner (apply here)
WOMEN’S GROUP: “Grown Ass Woman Era” info here
Book A Private Coaching Call With Emily To Work Together
Get Your FREE Guide “The Four Tools Missing From Your Relationship” here
Join Emily’s email list here



CONNECT WITH LISA
Website: https://lisacarpenter.ca
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lisacarpenterinc/
Podcast: Full Frontal Living
 
Podcast Producer: Adam Liefl