Sex, Love & Elephants with Dr. Cheryl

Cheryl Fraser

Ever notice that everything you thought would make you happy ever after...didn’t?   Me too. Turns out Shaun Cassidy was NOT my soulmate, orgasms only last a few seconds, and happiness is an inside job.   As a psychologist, Buddhist teacher, sex therapist & author of Buddha’s Bedroom my mission is to kick you off the couch and into your unfolded life. But first, you gotta meet your elephant. So let’s go. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

  1. NOV 3

    Make Up Your Mind and Pick Joy: A Dharma Talk with Dr. Cheryl

    💖REIGNITE YOUR LOVE — For Free (Limited Time)How much better would life be if your romantic partnership was great? Join Dr. Cheryl Fraser’s Reboot Your Relationship program— the science-based course to help you reconnect emotionally, sensually, and playfully with your partner. ✅ 5 video lessons ✅ “Homeplay” exercises and action steps to help you rekindle intimacy ✅ Normally $197 — Yours FREE for a limited time 👉 Start My Free Course Now  “How can I make my relationship happier?”  “Where can I find relationship advice?” “What’s the secret to a great marriage?” When we can train our minds to focus on what matters and to deal with difficulties with a more dispassionate, compassionate, equanimous point of view, we suffer less. We feel happier, we feel calmer, and we’re able to love more deeply.  Today’s episode of Sex, Love & Elephants features a Dharma Talk I gave a few weeks ago that discusses the importance of training the mind for happiness. In Buddhism, setting an aspiration is a way of mentally, emotionally, and karmically tuning our focus to something that is valuable. Think less “I hope I make more money tomorrow” and more  setting your intentions to be free of mental suffering. In This Episode, You’ll Learn: (04:07) How to meditate in open awareness practice (21:57) Concentration is integral to successful meditation  (25:32) A strong inner anchor helps during times when the mind is turbulent  (37:15) By training ourselves in meditation, we can learn to stop buying into the stories that happen in the mind (54:56) Today’s LoveByte 💞Watch the replay of my Passion Masterclass here Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!  Let’s Connect!   Website - Receive Weekly Science-based Tips and Techniques from Dr Cheryl  Follow @DrCherylFraser on Instagram Youtube

    57 min

  2. OCT 20

    Dr. Cheryl Solves All of Your Biggest Relationship Conflicts

    🔥Re-Ignite Love, Romance, and Passion and Fall in Love With Your Partner All Over Again 🔥 Enroll in my Become Passion course and create love that lasts a lifetime—beginning October 24th! CLICK HERE TO JOIN THE ONLY BECOME PASSION SESSION OF 2025 “Where can I find an online couples therapy course to improve my marriage?”  “What are the most common relationship issues?” “Where is the best place to find relationship advice?” It doesn’t matter whether you’re straight, gay, bisexual or somewhere in between, many of us suffer from the same relationship conflicts. Reluctance to work on things, ugly fighting, loss of thrill…  I’ve seen it all and I’m here to help.  In this episode of Sex, Love & Elephants, I cover the most common issues that couples face, from working with reluctant partners to conflict resolution, improving communication, and navigating sexual challenges.  Today, I’m answering some of the most common questions asked during my live Passion Master classes and over the last 25 years I’ve spent working with couples just like you. In This Episode, You’ll Learn: (02:31) Working with a reluctant partner is frustrating, but common (06:36) Avoiding conflict altogether isn’t the way to achieve resolution (12:54) Only 11% of my Masterclass participants indicated that they were still in love with their partners  (16:02) It takes love and energy for the thrill to last forever (23:27) Don’t wait for a major life changing event to put the effort into your relationship (33:01) Today’s LoveByte 💞Watch the replay of my Passion Masterclass here 💖Reignite the Spark — For Free (Limited Time) Join Dr. Cheryl Fraser’s Reboot Your Relationship program— the science-based course to help you reconnect emotionally, sensually, and playfully with your partner. ✅ 5 video lessons ✅ “Homeplay” exercises and action steps to help you rekindle intimacy ✅ Normally $197 — Yours FREE for a limited time 👉 Start My Free Course Now Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!  Let’s Connect!   Website - Receive Weekly Science-based Tips and Techniques from Dr Cheryl  Follow @DrCherylFraser on Instagram Youtube

    35 min

  3. OCT 13

    The Top 3 Reasons Long Term Relationships Fail

    🔥 October 14th-18th ONLY Dr. Cheryl is teaching FREE relationship workshops for the only time this year! 🔥 Sign up NOW for her Passion Masterclass and choose the time that works best for you. 👉Save Your Seat! “Why don’t I feel in love anymore?”  “Help! Why is my relationship so boring?” “How can my spouse and I reconnect for good?” Why are long-term relationships so difficult? I'm a tremendous advocate for love, but the hard facts are pretty sobering: Only 11% of couples in long term relationships say that they still feel in love with their partner. In this episode of Sex, Love & Elephants, I’m breaking down the complexities of long-term relationships, delving into the challenges that couples face in maintaining love and connection, and tackling the top 3 reasons committed couples split up.  You can be great parents together, have fun on the weekends as a family, and feel totally secure in your relationship… Yet that sense of specialness, connection, and that you and I together against the world feeling still ends up lost in translation—but it doesn’t have to be that way! In This Episode, You’ll Learn: (04:21) We often forget how lucky we are to be with our perfectly imperfect partner  (07:59) Psychological intimacy is integral to successful long term love (11:59) Your partner isn’t wrong, they're just different from you (20:18) Great relationships take hard work (31:02) Today’s LoveByte 💖 Reignite the Spark — For Free (Limited Time)Join Dr. Cheryl Fraser’s Reboot Your Relationship program— the science-based course to help you reconnect emotionally, sensually, and playfully with your partner. ✅ 5 video lessons ✅ “Homeplay” exercises and action steps to help you rekindle intimacy ✅ Normally $197 — Yours FREE for a limited time 👉 Start My Free Course Now Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!  Let’s Connect!   Website - Receive Weekly Science-based Tips and Techniques from Dr Cheryl  Follow @DrCherylFraser on Instagram Youtube

    33 min

  4. OCT 6

    Lust Fades But Your Sex Life Shouldn’t: Dr. Cheryl & Her Hubby Talk Sex

    This month only! Dr. Cheryl is teaching some FREE relationship workshops! Sign up NOW for one of her Passion Masterclasses—choose the time that works best for you. You’ll also hear about the 12-week Become Passion program—it kicks off in October. Doors are now open! You can check it out and join the program HERE  “Why does lust fade in long-term relationships?” “How do happy couples keep their sex life alive after years together?” “Is it normal to lose desire for my partner over time?” “What’s the best way to bring back passion after kids or menopause?” Turns out bunny-rabbit lust has an expiration date—but on Sex, Love and Elephants, Dr. Cheryl makes it clear your sex life doesn’t have to expire with it. In this candid and funny re-release, she and her sweetheart dive deep into intimacy, desire, and what really happens when sex shifts over time. From menopause to scheduled sex, from the biology of lust to the reality of long-term love, this conversation is both raw and reassuring. If you’ve ever wondered why you and your partner don’t connect the way you used to—or if you’ve worried that something is “wrong” because you’re not in the mood 24/7—this episode is your permission slip to drop the fairy tales and start focusing on what actually builds passion that lasts. Cheryl and her husband share their own story, including struggles, dry spells, and what it really takes to keep desire alive. Spoiler: no couple is “broken” just because spontaneous lust fades. The ones who thrive are the ones who adapt, laugh, and keep choosing each other—in and out of the bedroom. Want to know more about my program? Check out the Become Passion testimonials for reviews from actual couples that I’ve helped through this profound program. In This Episode, You’ll Learn: (05:57) Why lust is always temporary—and why that’s not a bad thing (15:38) How menopause can shake up your sex life, and what to do about it (21:09) Why long-term couples often experience low desire—and why you’re not “broken” if you do (29:36) The biology behind fading lust and how to work with it, not against it (39:19) Today’s LoveByte: Schedule sex. Don't tell me it's not romantic to schedule sex. I'll tell you what's not romantic: never having sex. Wherever you are, we begin where you are, bring sensuality back. Snuggle your sweetheart today and make your erotic life a priority again.  Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!  Let’s Connect!   Follow @DrCherylFraser on Instagram Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Youtube

    42 min

  5. SEP 29

    Even Love Experts Suffer Communication Breakdown: Dr. Cheryl & Her Hubby Tell All

    Are you ready to create love and passion that last a lifetime? The doors for my exclusive 12-week immersion program open in October! Join me for one of my FREE WORKSHOPS in October to learn more. Click here to join the Become Passion waitlist today and you’ll be the first to receive an invitation to the FREE masterclass! “How do couples stop fighting about the same issues over and over?” “What’s the best way to fix communication problems in a marriage?” “How can I stop arguments with my partner from spiraling out of control?” “What should I do when my partner shuts down during a fight?” What does a love and sex expert do when she gets into an argument with her husband? If you think the answer is “handle it perfectly every time,” think again. In this candid and funny re-release episode of Sex, Love and Elephants, Dr. Cheryl and her sweetheart reveal that even experts stumble. From morning rituals and dog walks to timeouts and three-breath hugs, they share how they reconnect after communication breakdowns—and why intimacy is the foundation of long-term love. This conversation reminds us that no couple is perfect, but with humor, honesty, and the right tools, you can fight fair, repair faster, and come back stronger. If you’ve ever felt stuck in the same old arguments, this episode shows that imperfection is normal—and that building intimacy is the key to creating a relationship that lasts. Want to know more about my program? Check out the Become Passion testimonials for reviews from actual couples that I’ve helped through this profound program. In This Episode, You’ll Learn: (03:20) Why open communication is harder than it looks—even for the experts (07:25) The daily rituals that keep Cheryl and her husband connected (13:26) What happens when you’re “flooded” during an argument—and why logic goes out the window (19:25) How touch and presence can restore connection after a fight (26:37) Why partnership is about more than just coexisting under the same roof (40:35) Today’s LoveByte: Intimacy is the base of the passion triangle—for a very good reason (27:09) Their “Adventure Birthday Challenge” — and why you should steal it (40:45) Today’s LoveByte: Intimacy is the base of the Passion Triangle for a very good reason. If you can’t talk about it, you can’t make it better. Learn to listen, learn to communicate to understand—and please, for the love of all that exists, be willing to be happy instead of being right. Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!  Let’s Connect!   Follow @DrCherylFraser on Instagram Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Youtube

    43 min

  6. SEP 22

    What’s It Like Being Married to a Love Expert? Meet Dr. Cheryl’s HUSBAND!

    Are you ready to create love and passion that last a lifetime? The doors for my exclusive 12-week immersion program open in October! Join me for one of my FREE WORKSHOPS in October to learn more. Click here to join the Become Passion waitlist today and you’ll be the first to receive an invitation to the FREE masterclass! “How do real couples keep the spark alive after years together?” “Why does passion fade in long-term relationships?” “How can I bring back romance when my relationship feels boring?” Have you ever wondered what it’s really like to be married to a sex, love, and passion expert? In this very special (and hilarious) re-release episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, Dr. Cheryl invites her husband—known here only as “my sweetie”—into the studio for the first time. You’ll hear their unfiltered take on the Passion Triangle, the struggles every couple faces (yes, even them!), and why keeping Thrill alive is not optional if you want long-term love. From Marvel movies and surprise kisses, to spooning rituals and adventure birthdays, this candid conversation shows that love experts are still gloriously human—and that passion requires practice, play, and sometimes a ferry ride to see grizzly bears. Want to know more about my program? Check out the Become Passion testimonials for reviews from actual couples that I’ve helped through this profound program. In This Episode, You’ll Learn: (02:52) Why this fall is your last chance to join Become Passion until late 2025 (05:19) The danger of “Marriage Incorporated” (aka roommates running a business) (06:57) The calming power of placing your hand over your partner’s heart (11:37) Why Cheryl and her husband waited five weeks before having sex—and how it changed everything (21:02) The truth about keeping Thrill alive (and what happens when you don’t) (27:09) Their “Adventure Birthday Challenge” — and why you should steal it (36:47) Today’s LoveByte: It's never too late to revisit and rebuild your passion triangle. Thrill can last forever, it just needs a little help. Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!  Let’s Connect!   Follow @DrCherylFraser on Instagram Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Youtube

    39 min

  7. SEP 8

    Reboot Your Relationship: Lesson Two — The Passion Triangle

    🔥 Reboot Your Relationship in Just 10 Days  — Join Dr. Cheryl’s FREE Starter Course Now! 👉 Claim My Spot Now “Why don’t I feel in love anymore?”  “Where did the thrill go?”  “How to bring back the passion we once had?” “What are the keys to a passionate relationship?” This episode of Sex, Love & Elephants brings you Lesson Two of Dr. Cheryl Fraser’s FREE five-part Starter Course—Reboot Your Relationship. Last time, you learned how to make your love life a hobby. Today, you’ll discover the three keys to lasting passion—intimacy, thrill, and sensuality—and why couples must work on all three sides of the Passion Triangle to keep love alive. Dr. Cheryl not only breaks down what each side means (and why most couples are weak in at least one), she also gives you two powerful tools to rate your relationship right now. Plus, hear the real-life story of Howard and Karen, a couple who went from near-divorce to planning surprise lobster feasts and rediscovering love after 32 years together. If you’ve ever wondered whether you can fall in love again—with the partner you already have—this lesson is your roadmap. In This Episode, You’ll Learn: (02:06) What couples miss most about falling in love (03:30) Introduction to the Passion Triangle: intimacy, thrill & sensuality (04:29) Why each side matters—and how to tell where you’re weak (08:14) How to rate your own relationship today (worksheet + quick quiz) (12:00) Howard & Karen’s story: from “I want a divorce” to falling in love again (16:51) Today’s LoveByte: Great relationships are not an accident—they’re created 💖 Reignite the Spark — For Free (Limited Time)Join Dr. Cheryl Fraser’s Reboot Your Relationship program— the science-based course to help you reconnect emotionally, sensually, and playfully with your partner. ✅ 5 video lessons ✅ “Homeplay” exercises and action steps to help you rekindle intimacy ✅ Normally $197 — Yours FREE for a limited time 👉 Start My Free Course Now Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!  Let’s Connect!   Website - Receive Weekly Science-based Tips and Techniques from Dr Cheryl  Follow @DrCherylFraser on Instagram Youtube

    20 min

  8. AUG 25

    Reboot Your Relationship: Lesson One of Dr. Cheryl’s Free Starter Course

    🔥 Reboot Your Relationship in Just 10 Days  — Join Dr. Cheryl’s FREE Starter Course Now! 👉 Claim My Spot Now "Where did the passion go in my marriage?" "How do I reboot my relationship?" "How can we work on our marriage?" "Which online course helps couples the most?" This episode of Sex, Love & Elephants brings you something truly special: a front-row seat to Lesson One of Dr. Cheryl Fraser’s brand-new FREE five-part Starter Course—Reboot Your Relationship. Whether you’re stuck in a sexless rut, drowning in bickering, or just craving deeper connection, this free mini course is designed to help you shift from Marriage Incorporated to Love Incorporated—starting now. Inside this first lesson, Dr. Cheryl guides you to assess the current health of your relationship, identify where you want to go, and take the very first step toward rebuilding love, passion, and partnership. You’ll also hear what makes the course unique, how it’s already helping other couples, and how to access the full experience (hint: it’s just a click away). If you’ve ever felt like your relationship is running on autopilot—or worse, barely running at all—this episode is your wake-up call. In This Episode, You’ll Learn: (03:00) Why Cheryl created this free course—and why it might be her last time offering it (04:22) The most common problem couples face: getting stuck in “Marriage Incorporated” (06:00) The difference between running a household and nurturing a romantic partnership (08:12) Two crucial questions to rate your relationship: happiness and commitment (10:46) How to turn love into a hobby (and why it’s one of the most powerful mindset shifts) (14:01) Three questions that reveal where you want your relationship to be in 6 months (17:57) Today’s LoveByte: Great relationships are not an accident—you’ve got to become the passion you seek 💖 Reignite the Spark — For Free (Limited Time)Join Dr. Cheryl Fraser’s Reboot Your Relationship program— the science-based course to help you reconnect emotionally, sensually, and playfully with your partner. ✅ 5 video lessons ✅ “Homeplay” exercises and action steps to help you rekindle intimacy ✅ Normally $197 — Yours FREE for a limited time 👉 Start My Free Course Now Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!  Let’s Connect!   Website - Receive Weekly Science-based Tips and Techniques from Dr Cheryl  Follow @DrCherylFraser on Instagram Youtube

    20 min
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Ever notice that everything you thought would make you happy ever after...didn’t?   Me too. Turns out Shaun Cassidy was NOT my soulmate, orgasms only last a few seconds, and happiness is an inside job.   As a psychologist, Buddhist teacher, sex therapist & author of Buddha’s Bedroom my mission is to kick you off the couch and into your unfolded life. But first, you gotta meet your elephant. So let’s go. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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