Sex, Love & Elephants with Dr. Cheryl

Cheryl Fraser
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Sex, Love & Elephants with Dr. Cheryl Podcast

Ever notice that everything you thought would make you happy ever after...didn’t?   Me too. Turns out Shaun Cassidy was NOT my soulmate, orgasms only last a few seconds, and happiness is an inside job.   As a psychologist, Buddhist teacher, sex therapist & author of Buddha’s Bedroom my mission is to kick you off the couch and into your unfolded life. But first, you gotta meet your elephant. So let’s go. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

  1. 6 DAYS AGO

    Best of Sex, Love, & Elephants: Great Relationships Need More Than Love—Summer of Love Part 8

    “Dr. Cheryl, why are relationships so hard?!” “Is there an easier way to connect with my partner?” “My spouse and I no longer ‘click’—what’s wrong with us?” Today’s Sex, Love, and Elephants is another flashback to my Summer of Love series from a few years ago. In it, I talk about why we struggle so much with the thing we longed for AND why that struggle doesn’t make us a bad person.  Tune in and hear what I’ve learned from my decades of work with couples just like you. Are you ready to reconnect with your honey? To create love and passion that last a lifetime? Join the Become Passion waitlist and hear more about the program!  Want to know more? Check out the Become Passion testimonials for reviews from actual couples that I’ve helped through this profound program. In This Episode, You Will Learn: We all are with the wrong person if we expect them to make us happy all the time (04:07) In my Become Passion program, you’ll learn to how to fall back in love with the one you're already with (07:41) Having a great relationship isn’t easy—it takes real, hard work (10:24) We’ve all got baggage, and that’s not necessarily a bad thing (21:26) Love Stinks and it's not your fault (24:03) This week’s LoveByte (28:06) Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource! Want to rate your relationship on the three keys to great long term love? Take the Passion Quiz. Let’s Connect!   Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Youtube Follow @drcherylfraser on Instagram

    30 min

  2. AUG 26

    Best of Sex, Love, & Elephants: Start Scheduling Intimacy and Treat Your Sex Life Like a Hobby—Summer of Love Part 7

    “Dr. Cheryl, our sex life is so boring! How can we bring fun back to our bedroom?”  “Why don’t I ever feel horny toward my partner anymore?” “How do I know if my relationship is great?” Today’s Sex, Love, and Elephants is part of a series of my all-time favorite couples Q&A episodes that I did a few summers ago. In it, I’m teaching you my 3 predictors of a great relationship and sharing some really dire stats on the sex lives of average North Americans—that you DON’T have to fall into! Tune in and hear what I’ve learned from my decades of work with couples just like you. Are you ready to reconnect with your honey? To create love and passion that last a lifetime? Join the Become Passion waitlist and hear more about the program!  Want to know more? Check out the Become Passion testimonials for reviews from actual couples that I’ve helped through this profound program. In This Episode, You Will Learn: “Nipple, nipple, crotch, good-night” sex is totally common… and totally boring (05:10) The three keys to a great relationship: intimacy, communication, conflict resolution (07:37) We all want sex to be spontaneous… but scheduling intimacy is one of the major keys to getting your spark back (10:17) The majority of long term couples make love from a place of sexual neutrality—and it’s actually very sexy! (15:30) Waiting around for spontaneous desire is kind of like waiting around for your teenager to spontaneously offer to clean out the garage (18:04) This week’s LoveByte (28:45) Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource! Want to rate your relationship on the three keys to great long term love? Take the Passion Quiz. Let’s Connect!   Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Youtube Follow @drcherylfraser on Instagram

    31 min

  3. AUG 19

    Best of Sex, Love, & Elephants: STOP Treating Your Mate Like a Roommate—Summer of Love Part 6

    “Dr. Cheryl… I feel like my wife and I are more friends and roommates than lovers. How can we bring sexy back?”  “Why do men only care about sex and not romance?” “What are some great date ideas to reconnect with my partner?” Today’s Sex, Love, and Elephants is part of a series of my all-time favorite couples Q&A episodes that I did a few summers ago. In it, I’m busting the myth that men don’t care about romance and telling you why dates are one of the most exciting parts of dating. I also teach you why the thrill of the chase is so important evolutionarily, why we have to learn to make time alone with one another, and why it’s so easy to fall into a pattern of relationship complacency. Tune in and hear what I’ve learned from my decades of work with couples just like you. Are you ready to reconnect with your honey? To create love and passion that last a lifetime? Join the Become Passion waitlist and hear more about the program! This twelve-week immersion couples program with me, Dr. Cheryl, starts this October. Want to know more? Check out the Become Passion testimonials for reviews from actual couples that I’ve helped through this profound program. In This Episode, You Will Learn: It’s not just women who miss the romance when it leaves a relationship (07:59) The excitement of dating comes from the chase and the courtship (12:40) Dates aren’t a place to talk about the kids or the household concerns, they’re a place to connect on a one-on-one level (15:57) The adventure date, the cooperation date, and the curiosity date are all great ideas for reconnecting with your sweetheart (17:14) This week’s LoveByte (34:30) Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource! Want to rate your relationship on the three keys to great long term love? Take the Passion Quiz. Let’s Connect!   Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Youtube Follow @drcherylfraser on Instagram

    37 min

  4. AUG 12

    Best of Sex, Love, & Elephants: NOT COMPATIBLE? Think Again—Summer of Love Part 5

    “Dr. Cheryl, can my honey and I become more compatible?”  “I’m a homebody and my partner is a social butterfly… will our relationship last?” “How can a couple succeed in love even if they’re very different?” Today’s Sex, Love, and Elephants is part of a series of some of my all-time favorite couples Q&A episodes that I did a few summers ago. In it, I’m talking about introverts, extroverts, and extroverted introverts.  I’m also telling you that YES, it is possible to make things work between two very different people and how compatibility begins in the mind.  Tune in and hear what I’ve learned from my decades of work with couples just like you. Are you ready to reconnect with your honey? To create love and passion that last a lifetime? Join the Become Passion waitlist and hear more about the program!  Want to know more? Check out the Become Passion testimonials for reviews from actual couples that I’ve helped through this profound program. In This Episode, You Will Learn: An introvert replenishes with quiet and solitude (03:20) Compatibility with your partner is all in your head (10:08) You can be rapturously happy, deeply in love, and have an extraordinary relationship—even if you are wildly different people (11:39) Oftentimes the differences aren’t the problem... The problems come when we fail at our approach (16:40) If you focus on the ways you’re not compatible—on the big and small irritations—you will fester a growing wound (19:22) This week’s LoveByte (26:31) Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource! Want to rate your relationship on the three keys to great long term love? Take the Passion Quiz. Let’s Connect!   Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Youtube Follow @drcherylfraser on Instagram

    29 min

  5. AUG 5

    Best of Sex, Love, & Elephants: What’s Your Fantasy? 50 Shades of S, L, & E—Summer of Love Part 4

    “Dr. Cheryl… Why am I so turned on by the idea of being sexually dominated?”  “How can I explore my sexual fantasies?” “Is it healthy to indulge in sexual fantasy? Today’s Sex, Love, and Elephants is part of a series of my all-time favorite couples Q&A episodes that I did a few summers ago. In it, I’m talking all about the beauty of sexual fantasies, why they’re healthy, and I’m debunking some ideas from that popular erotic book series.  Tune in and hear what I’ve learned from my decades of work with couples just like you. Are you ready to reconnect with your honey? To create love and passion that last a lifetime? Join the Become Passion waitlist and hear more about the program!  Want to know more? Check out the Become Passion testimonials for reviews from actual couples that I’ve helped through this profound program. In This Episode, You Will Learn: 50 Shades of Grey is a dumb book—but there’s a reason it captured so many imaginations (5:04) The number one heterosexual female fantasy? Ravishment (08:24) The ravishment fantasy is so pervasive because it gives women a way to justify their raw sexual energy (12:20) Exploring your sexual fantasies is healthy and empowering as long as it's not hurting anyone and everyone gives consent (20:58) My new favorite Netflix show features the Mary Poppins of sex and makes couples’ fantasies a reality (24:45) This week’s LoveByte (27:49) Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource! Want to rate your relationship on the three keys to great long term love? Take the Passion Quiz. Resources mentioned: How to Build a Sex Room on Netflix Let’s Connect!   Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Youtube Follow @drcherylfraser on Instagram

    30 min

  6. JUL 29

    Best of Sex, Love, & Elephants: Watch Your Mouth! Can Verbal Abuse Be Overcome?—Summer of Love Part 3

    “Dr. Cheryl, is it time to break up with my verbally abusive partner?”  “My partner and I fall into verbally abusive patterns, how can we overcome this?” “How do I know if my spouse is verbally abusing me?” Today’s Sex, Love, and Elephants is part of a series of some of my all-time favorite couples Q&A episodes that I did a few summers ago. In it, I’m sharing my advice for those of you that are wondering if verbal abuse in a relationship can ever be overcome. Tune in and hear what I’ve learned from my decades of work with couples just like you. Are you ready to reconnect with your honey? To create love and passion that last a lifetime? Join the Become Passion waitlist and hear more about the program!  Want to know more? Check out the Become Passion testimonials for reviews from actual couples that I’ve helped through this profound program. In This Episode, You Will Learn: How to identify verbal abuse (4:34) The importance of taking a time out when you’re flooded (11:57) An example of a non-verbally abusive, highly emotional person (16:39) That there are countless ways to learn how to fight fair, apologize, and forgive (24:46) If you should break up with your verbally abusive partner (27:50) This week’s LoveByte (30:39) Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource! Want to rate your relationship on the three keys to great long term love? Take the Passion Quiz. Let’s Connect!   Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Youtube Follow @drcherylfraser on Instagram

    33 min

  7. JUL 22

    Best of Sex, Love, & Elephants: Sometimes You’ve Gotta Rock the Boat—Summer of Love Part 2

    “ Dr. Cheryl, my honey and I never fight… Is that okay?”  “My partner avoids all conflict with me, what can I do?” “How can my spouse and I learn to communicate more effectively?” Today’s Sex, Love, and Elephants is part of a series of some of my all-time favorite episodes that I did a few summers ago. In it, I talk about why a lack of conflict can spell major issues for your relationship—and what you can do to help before it’s too late. Are you ready to reconnect with your honey? To create love and passion that last a lifetime? Join the Become Passion waitlist and hear more about the program!  Want to know more? Check out the Become Passion testimonials for reviews from actual couples that I’ve helped through this profound program. In This Episode, You Will Learn: Zero conflict can spell trouble for your relationship (04:29) Everyone has a different communication style—which isn’t necessarily a bad thing (05:29) Your health and happiness in your relationship may be in trouble if you don't learn how to talk about the difficult topics (07:02)  There’s nothing wrong with you if your nature is to avoid conflict, but it isn’t healthy to sweep things under the rug (09:31) A technique to begin cleaning out all that crap under the rug (14:49) This week’s LoveByte (21:05) Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource! Want to rate your relationship on the three keys to great long term love? Take the Passion Quiz. Let’s Connect!   Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Youtube Follow @drcherylfraser on Instagram

    24 min

  8. JUL 15

    Best of Sex, Love, & Elephants: Should I Stay or Should I Go?—Summer of Love Part 1

    “Dr. Cheryl, is it time for me to leave my relationship?” “I think my marriage is over… will I regret my decision to split?” “How do I know if there’s still hope for my sweetheart and me?” Today’s Sex, Love, and Elephants is the first in a series of some of my all-time favorite episodes that I did a few summers ago. In it, I talk about when to give your relationship another shot—and when it’s time to let it go. This episode is a couples Q&A series with one of my number one most asked questions: “How do I know when it’s time to leave?”  Tune in and hear what I’ve learned from my decades of work with couples just like you.  Are you ready to reconnect with your honey? To create love and passion that last a lifetime? Join the Become Passion waitlist and hear more about the program!  Want to know more? Check out the Become Passion testimonials for reviews from actual couples that I’ve helped through this profound program. In This Episode, You Will Learn: When is it time to leave a relationship? Only you and your partner can answer that—but I can help you decide (03:47) But…If you are in a dangerous, sexually coercive, physically or otherwise abusive relationship, this episode is not for you. Please seek crisis help immediately (07:05) Research shows that about 50% of people who leave a committed relationship DO regret it. Maybe it’s not too late to begin again (12:03) Chances are, if you leave one committed relationship, you’ll recouple. That’s our nature as a species. (13:53) So much of our relationship misery can be rehabilitated (23:04) This week’s LoveByte (33:58) Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource! Let’s Connect!   Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Youtube Follow @drcherylfraser on Instagram

    37 min
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Ever notice that everything you thought would make you happy ever after...didn’t?   Me too. Turns out Shaun Cassidy was NOT my soulmate, orgasms only last a few seconds, and happiness is an inside job.   As a psychologist, Buddhist teacher, sex therapist & author of Buddha’s Bedroom my mission is to kick you off the couch and into your unfolded life. But first, you gotta meet your elephant. So let’s go. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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