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A podcast for parents, caring adults and advocates bringing sex-positive content that strengthens sexual health and body awareness talks within families. Together, we will shake the shame and trash taboos around sexual health to increase your confidence and competence around sex talks with the children in your life. Hosted by Melissa Pintor Carnagey, licensed social worker, sex educator, and the founder of Sex-Positive Families.

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A podcast for parents, caring adults and advocates bringing sex-positive content that strengthens sexual health and body awareness talks within families. Together, we will shake the shame and trash taboos around sexual health to increase your confidence and competence around sex talks with the children in your life. Hosted by Melissa Pintor Carnagey, licensed social worker, sex educator, and the founder of Sex-Positive Families.

    012: Courtney Brame | Shaking STI Stigma

    012: Courtney Brame | Shaking STI Stigma

    I recently had the pleasure of being a guest on a podcast called Something Positive for Positive People hosted by Courtney Brame. His podcast offers a safe space for people living with or affected by sexually transmitted infections (STIs) like herpes and HIV to share their experiences as a way to shake the shame and stigma that exists around these diagnoses. He originally invited me on his podcast to talk sex ed and SPF but little did he know, I too am a person living with HSV2 (herpes simplex virus type 2), and I’m not at all ashamed. So on this episode, I chat with Courtney about his journey toward the great work he is doing shaking stigma around STIs. Our chat touches on why accurate and open talks at home about sexual health are so important, some tips for managing herpes diagnoses, and he shares a really innovative connection he made between the horror film IT and social stigma around herpes.  For additional information about herpes and other sexually transmitted infections, visit the CDC's online info here or Planned Parenthood here.

    Want to connect with Courtney? Check out the Something Positive for Positive People podcast on your favorite podcast platform such as iTunes, Stitcher, Podbean, Podchaser or Podbay. Follow on Instagram here, Twitter here, Reddit here, Tumblr here or follow Courtney on Facebook here. If you'd like to connect with Courtney one-on-one about herpes resources and support options, you can contact him via email at courtneywbrame@gmail.com.

    And as always:



    Be sure to follow us on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter and YouTube for regular sex-positive content and updates.

    Sign up for our email list and receive your free download of 'Preparing for the Sex Talks: An Action Plan for Parents & Caretakers.'

    Join our Patreon community to access monthly live videos, interactive activities and exclusive resources for parents and caring adults, to support your sexual health talks.

    Shop sex-positive swag and merchandise for parents, caring adults and sexual health advocates here.

    Leave a review in iTunes to let us know how much you’re enjoying the podcast. This gives us great feedback from our community as well as expands the reach and visibility so we can serve more families!





    Transcript









    {Soft instrumental music plays as introduction} 

    {Person speaking}

    Welcome to Sex Positive Families where parents, caring adults, and advocates come to grow and learn about sexual health in a supportive community. I'm your host, and the founder of SPF, Melissa Carnagey. Join me, and special guests, as we dive into the art of sex-positive parenting. Together, we will shake the shame and trash the taboos to strengthen sexual health talks with the children in our lives. Thank you so much for joining us! 

    Melissa Carnagey: "Hi Families, I recently had the pleasure of being a guest on a podcast called, "Something Positive for Positive People" hosted by Courtney Brame. His podcast offers a safe space for people living with or affected by sexually transmitted infections like herpes and HIV to share their experiences as a way to shake the shame and the stigma that exists around this diagnosis. He originally invited me on his podcast to talk sex ed and SPF, but little did he know I too am a person living with HSV2 and I'm not at all ashamed! So on this episode, I chat with Courtney about his journey toward the great work he is doing shaking stigma around STI’s. Our chat touches on why accurate and open talks at home about sexual health are so important, some tips for managing herpes diagnosis, and he shares a really innovative connection he made between the horror film, ‘IT,’ and social stigma around herpes. Let’s check it out!”

    M.C.: “Hey Courtney, so I am excited to have you on the SPF podcast!”

    Courtney Brame: “Melissa thank you very much for having me,

    • 38 min
    011: Ryan Dillon | Supporting Trans & Queer Youth

    011: Ryan Dillon | Supporting Trans & Queer Youth

    In this episode, we dive into the gender spectrum exploring how parents and caring adults can support transgender youth. I chat with Ryan Dillon, a licensed professional counselor in private practice at Pride Counseling Austin, who specializes in working with trans, LGBQ+ youth and their families. Ryan offers an empathetic safe space for folx to explore their identities and also teaches comprehensive sex ed classes to middle school-aged students with an organization and curriculum called Unhushed. This episode offers empowering perspectives on how we can support gender identity and expression for the children in our lives.



    Want to connect with Ryan? Check out Pride Counseling Austin and sign up for the monthly newsletter here. Follow on Instagram here and like on the Facebook page here. Learn more about the Unhushed organization and comprehensive sex education curriculum here.



    For additional Austin-area and national resources for transgender and queer youth:



    OutYouth in Austin, Texas

    Central Texas Transgender Health Coalition 

    National Center for Transgender Equality

    Gender Spectrum



    And as always:



    Be sure to follow us on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter and YouTube for regular sex-positive content and updates.

    Sign up for our email list and receive your free download of 'Preparing for the Sex Talks: An Action Plan for Parents & Caretakers.'

    Join our Patreon community to access monthly live videos, interactive activities and exclusive resources for parents and caring adults, to support your sexual health talks.

    Shop sex-positive swag and merchandise for parents, caring adults and sexual health advocates here.

    Leave a review in iTunes to let us know how much you’re enjoying the podcast. This gives us great feedback from our community as well as expands the reach and visibility so we can serve more families!





    Transcript









    {Soft instrumental music plays as introduction} 

    {Person speaking}

    “Welcome to Sex Positive Families where parents, caring adults, and advocates come to grow and learn about sexual health in a supportive community. I'm your host, and the founder of SPF, Melissa Carnagey. Join me, and special guests, as we dive into the art of sex-positive parenting. Together, we will shake the shame and trash the taboos to strengthen sexual health talks with the children in our lives. Thank you so much for joining us!"

    {Same Person Speaking} 

    “Hi families, in today's episode we dive into the gender spectrum exploring how parents and caring adults can support transgender youth. I chat with Ryan Dillon, a Licensed Professional Counselor in private practice at Pride Counseling Austin who specializes in working with Trans, LGBTQ+ youth and their families. Ryan offers an empathetic safe space for folx to explore their identities and also teaches comprehensive sex ed classes to middle school age students with an organization and curriculum called, Unhushed. This episode offers empowering perspectives on how we can support gender identity and expression for the children in our lives. Let's have a listen.”

    M.C.: “Hi Ryan it is amazing to have you on the SPF podcast. How are you?

    Ryan Dillon: “I’m doing well. Thank you for having me!”

    M.C.: “Thank you so much. We are excited to learn from you and to get us started; what has your journey been to the work that you're doing now?”

    R.D.: “Of course! I grew up in a very accepting family, and I feel very privileged to have done that. I had parents that were always encouraging when I wanted to express my selves in something that was out of societal norms, which happened quite a bit since I was a very expressive young child and then a very, let’s say, handful as a teenager. And I was always expressing myself very feminine and wearing traditional women's c...

    • 26 min
    010: Kevin Patterson | Polyamory + Parenting

    010: Kevin Patterson | Polyamory + Parenting

    On this 10th episode, I talk with Kevin Patterson- educator, speaker and author- about polyamory.  For those new to this, polyamory is the state or practice of maintaining multiple romantic and/or sexual relationships at the same time, with the awareness and consent of all folx involved. Kevin is the creator of an online forum called Poly Role Models and has authored a newly released book called Love's Not Color Blind: Race and Representation in Polyamorous and Other Alternative Communities. Kevin shares his own journey toward polyamory, why this is not just "white people shit," and what parenting in a polyamorous family can look like.

    Want to connect with Kevin? Check out Poly Role Models here. Follow on Instagram here and like on Facebook page here. To grab your copy of Love's Not Color Blind: Race and Representation in Polyamorous and Other Alternative Communities, find it on Amazon here.

    And as always:



    Be sure to follow us on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter and YouTube for regular sex-positive content and updates.

    Sign up for our email list and receive your free download of 'Preparing for the Sex Talks: An Action Plan for Parents & Caretakers.'

    Join our Patreon community to access monthly live videos, interactive activities and exclusive resources for parents and caring adults, to support your sexual health talks.

    Shop sex-positive swag and merchandise for parents, caring adults and sexual health advocates here.

    Leave a review in iTunes to let us know how much you’re enjoying the podcast. This gives us great feedback from our community as well as expands the reach and visibility so we can serve more families!





    Transcript









    {Soft Instrumental music plays as introduction} 

    {Person speaking} 

    Welcome to Sex Positive Families where parents, caring adults, and advocates come to grow and learn about sexual health in a supportive community. I'm your host, and the founder of SPF, Melissa Carnagey. Join me, and special guests, as we dive into the art of sex-positive parenting. Together, we will shake the shame and trash the taboos to strengthen sexual health talks with the children in our lives. Thank you so much for joining us! 

    {Same person speaking} 

    Melissa Carnagey: "Hi Families, we have made it to the tenth episode and I want to thank you so much for joining us on this journey. The support and response has been so positive as we're having conversations that shine a light on diverse experiences and strategies as they relate to sexual health within families and this episode is no exception. I talk with Kevin Patterson, educator, speaker, and author about polyamory. And for those new to this, polyamory is the state or practice of maintaining multiple romantic and/or sexual relationships at the same time with the awareness and consent of all folks involved. Kevin is the creator of an online forum called, Poly Role Models and has recently authored a book called, Love's Not Color Blind: Race and Representation in Polyamorous and Other Alternative Communities. Kevin shares with us his own journey toward polyamory, why representation is so important in this community and what parenting in a polyamorous family can look like. Let's have a listen." 

    M.C.: “Hi Kevin, how are you?”

    Kevin Patterson: “Hey! I’m doing good. How are you doing?”

    M.C.: “I’m doing well. We are excited to have you on the SPF podcast! So just want to get started with telling us a little about the journey toward polyamory and toward the work that you’re doing now.”

    K.P.: "My journey with polyamory started with my then-girlfriend now wife, we just sort of stumbled into like some group activity let's say and it turned into, a lot of like really meaningful conversations about what we wanted to do with the exclusivity in our relationship or whether we wanted exclusivity at all. And we decid

    • 31 min
    009: Nick Winges-Yanez | Sex Ed for Folx of All Abilities

    009: Nick Winges-Yanez | Sex Ed for Folx of All Abilities

    Recently, NPR (National Public Radio) ran a story on the importance of sex education, particularly for young people with intellectual disabilities (ID). One alarming reason is the higher rate of sexual abuse and assault within this community versus folx without ID. To help us explore this issue, and how parents, caring adults and educators can approach sexual health talks with young people living with ID, I chat with Nick Winges-Yanez who is a researcher and the Project Coordinator of the Texas Sibling Network at the Texas Center for Disability Studies at the University of Texas. Nick shares her personal connection with ID, which catapulted a career in service, research and advocacy around sexual health for folx living with intellectual disabilities. 

    Want to connect with Nick? Follow her on Instagram here. Check out her live streams on O.school here. Read her Op-ed published in the Austin-American Statesman here. Learn more about her Sexuality & Developmental Disabilities workshops here. Contact her via email here. 

    For additional resources on sex education for all abilities:



    Sexuality and Developmental Disabilities Workshops with Katherine McLaughlin

    Teen Vogue: Why Sex Education for Disabled People Is So Important

    Article: #Metoo Must Include the Most Vulnerable People in Texas 

    UT Austin's Texas Center for Disability Studies



    And as always:



    Be sure to follow us on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter and YouTube for regular sex-positive content and updates.

    Sign up for our email list and receive your free download of 'Preparing for the Sex Talks: An Action Plan for Parents & Caretakers.'

    Join our Patreon community to access monthly live videos, interactive activities and exclusive resources for parents and caring adults, to support your sexual health talks.

    Shop sex-positive swag and merchandise for parents, caring adults and sexual health advocates here.

    Leave a review in iTunes to let us know how much you’re enjoying the podcast. This gives us great feedback from our community as well as expands the reach and visibility so we can serve more families!





    Transcript









    {Soft instrumental music plays as introduction}

    {Person speaking}

    Welcome to Sex Positive Families where parents, caring adults, and advocates come to grow and learn about sexual health in a supportive community. I'm your host, and the founder of SPF, Melissa Carnagey. Join me, and special guests, as we dive into the art of sex-positive parenting. Together, we will shake the shame and trash the taboos to strengthen sexual health talks with the children in our lives. Thank you so much for joining us!

    {Same person speaking}

    Melissa Carnagey: “So recently, NPR ran a story on the importance of sex education particularly for young people with intellectual disabilities. One alarming reason is the higher rate of sexual abuse and assaults within this community vs. folx without I.D. To help us explore this issue and how parents, caring adults, and educators can approach sexual health talks with young people living with I.D. I chat with Nick Winges-Yanez, who is a researcher and the project coordinator of the Texas Sibling Network, and the Texas Center for Disabilities Studies at the University of Texas. Nick shares her personal connection with I.D. which catapulted a career in service, research and advocacy around sexual health with folx living with intellectual disabilities. Let's check it out!"

    M.C.: “Alright, well welcome to the SPF podcast! Nick, we are so excited to have you and to dive into the topic today. I’d love for you to share with our listeners what your journey to the work you’ve been doing has been.”

    Nick Winges-Yanez: “My journey seems to me is kind of long-winded. I grew up with a sibling, a sister who is labeled with an intellectual disability.

    • 32 min
    008: Lydia M. Bowers | Pleasure in the Early Years

    008: Lydia M. Bowers | Pleasure in the Early Years

    What were your earliest experiences with pleasure? Do you remember being in the womb or those first cuddles with a caring adult? Probably not that far back. Some of us may recall a little further down the road when we discovered pleasure in the context of our own bodies and masturbation and there may or may not have been shame associated with those experiences. In this episode, we are exploring pleasure in the early years of a child’s life, and how parents and caring adults can best support their child’s understanding of pleasure, without taboo, especially before it’s even about sex. Helping me explore this important topic is Lydia M. Bowers, a sex educator who is passionate about helping families and other educators understand and appropriately support sexual development in individuals from birth to adulthood. She is a Pleasure Professional with O.school and an American Sexual Health Association Ambassador with over 15 years as an Early Childhood Educator.

    Want to connect with Lydia? Visit her website here. Follow her on Instagram here,like her Facebook page here and become a Patron here. Check out her live streams twice a month on O.school here. If you'd like additional resources on fostering pleasure in children, read this.

    And as always:



    Be sure to follow us on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter and YouTube for regular sex-positive content and updates.

    Sign up for our email list and receive your free download of 'Preparing for the Sex Talks: An Action Plan for Parents & Caretakers.'

    Shop sex-positive swag and merchandise for parents, caring adults and sexual health advocates here.

    Leave a review in iTunes to let us know how much you’re enjoying the podcast. This gives us great feedback from our community as well as expands the reach and visibility so we can serve more families!





    Transcript









    {Soft instrumental music plays as introduction} 

    {Person speaking} 

    Welcome to Sex Positive Families where parents, caring adults, and advocates come to grow and learn about sexual health in a supportive community. I'm your host, and the founder of SPF, Melissa Carnagey. Join me, and special guests, as we dive into the art of sex-positive parenting. Together, we will shake the shame and trash the taboos to strengthen sexual health talks with the children in our lives. Thank you so much for joining us! 

    {Same person speaking} 

    Hello families, I have a question for you. What were your earliest experiences with pleasure? Do you remember being in the womb? Or those first cuddles with a caring adult? Probably not that far back, right? Well some of us may recall a little further down the road, when we discovered pleasure in the context of our bodies, in masturbation, and there may or may not have been shame associated with those experiences. Well in this episode we're exploring pleasure in the early years of a child's life and how parents and caring adults can best support their child's understanding of pleasure without taboo, especially before it's even about sex. Helping me explore this important topic is Lydia M. Bowers, a sex educator who is passionate about helping families and other educators understand and appropriately support sexual development in individuals from birth to adulthood. She is a pleasure professional with O.school and an American Sexual Health Association ambassador with over 15 years of experience as an early childhood educator. Want to know how to foster a healthy understanding of pleasure? Let's have a listen.

    Melissa Carnagey: “I’m so excited to have you with us, especially for this topic. How are you?”

    Lydia Bowers: “Good. How are you?”

    M.C.: “I’m doing well!”

    L.B.: “Thank you.”

    M.C.: “Yes, so glad to have you! Before we get started, if you can share with us, what has your journey been like to the work that you’re doing now?” 

    L

    • 30 min
    007: Erica Force | Am I Normal?

    007: Erica Force | Am I Normal?

    Along our sexual health journeys we come to moments where we wonder if what we are experiencing is truly 'normal.' With so much taboo and shame within our sex-negative society, it can be difficult to decipher openly. In this special Valentine's week episode, I collaborate with Sex Positive Educator Erica Force (aka Sexuallectual) to answer your "Am I normal?" questions. Followers submitted their curiosities, from multiple orgasms, penis curves to sexual fantasies, and we had a blast answering them and sharing our personal and professional perspectives. This Valentine's week, we hope you do something special to honor your sexual health and celebrate the unique beauty of you.

    Want to connect with Erica aka Sexuallectual? Follow her on Instagram here. Check out the classes she teaches at Sexology Institute here. Contact her for one-on-one coaching here.

    And as always:



    Be sure to follow us on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter and YouTube for regular sex-positive content and updates.

    Sign up for our email list and receive your free download of 'Preparing for the Sex Talks: An Action Plan for Parents & Caretakers.'

    Shop sex-positive swag and merchandise for parents, caring adults and sexual health advocates here.

    Leave a review in iTunes to let us know how much you’re enjoying the podcast. This gives us great feedback from our community as well as expands the reach and visibility so we can serve more families!





    TRANSCRIPT









    {Soft instrumental music plays as introduction} 

    {Person speaking} 

    Welcome to Sex Positive Families where parents, caring adults, and advocates come to grow and learn about sexual health in a supportive community. I'm your host, and the founder of SPF, Melissa Carnagey. Join me, and special guests, as we dive into the art of sex-positive parenting. Together, we will shake the shame and trash the taboos to strengthen sexual health talks with the children in our lives. Thank you so much for joining us! 

    {Same person speaking} 

    " Alright so this is a special event, families, normally when I have a guest on the podcast it is done remotely, but this time I am staring… "

    {Another voice interrupts} 

    "In-person!!!" (laughs) 

    Melissa Carnagey: "Yes!!! I am staring at Erica Force, AKA @s.xuallectual which many of you know, and many of you may not, and so I would love to allow you to introduce yourself and tell us a little bit about the journey that brought you to the work you're doing." 

    Erica Force: "Beautiful. Thank you for having me, and I'm very excited for you to hear my voice, which doesn't happen often over Instagram so, this is good. Yeah, I started this journey into sex-positivity about 2 ½- 3 years ago. I came from a background of a health career, always looking into the health aspect of being human. I worked for a while in corporate health settings with my undergrad in health administration with a concentration on management. I wasn't feeling fulfilled and happy in that setting, and it took away a lot of my creativity, and who I was as a person, which is a people person, and a healing person. So I jumped from that and went into finding Sexology and the study of what makes us this dynamic, sexual being which is very misunderstood and under-educated in the field I was working in and exposed to. So finding this when I came to San Antonio, Dr. Melissa Jones who owns Sexology Institute, I showed up and I said: "You're giving me a job, this is where I'm supposed to be." And she did, and it flourished from there and she introduced me to Dr. Patty Britton and Sex Coach U, and that's where I've spent the last two years gaining that base of knowledge and education and how do I be a sex-positive educator and ally, and it's been quite a journey into this. I'm teaching sex-positive education classes at The Sexology Institute in San Antonio,

    • 47 min

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