Voice messages from a friend… where I share what I’ve been learning, talk to people I love, share my own journey and processes, and my thoughts about life.
🌾 Topics include emotions, loss, relationships, bodies, food, home, & nature.
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#68: Pickup artists, why we’re done with the polarity world, trusting men, differences between men & women, femininity & masculinity in relationship
Jordan & I talk about how the pickup world and how he started his inner work there in his early 20s, how I used to hate men and not trust them and how that changed, how we both got into polarity and how the polarity world is just largely playing out wounding. We also talk about the idea of always being open to sex, bringing our full selves to relationship and what that looks like, men crying in front of women, what is really missing about traditional masculinity and femininity and why that is appealing to so many…. and more!
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#67: Everything I am buying for decorating our house, what colors I’m painting all the rooms, rug and pillow shopping, & big house update!
My project for the year is renovating & redoing every single room of our home and it has begun! Spending thousands of dollars on pillows, rug shopping, random things about shelving we’re adding, the way the ceiling goes, what I’m thinking about it all, how many decisions go into making a room feel like a home, my color choices, will anything go together? And more.
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#66: How I know when to see a therapist, being able to hold sensation in your body, my journey with therapy and different phases, therapy vs coaching, the importance of having support
I recently hired a somatic therapist, so in this episode I decided to talk about how I know when I need different types of support. I talk about my journey with different types of therapy, how I choose a therapist, therapy and coaching serving different purposes, not spending too much time “fixing” yourself, and what it feels like sensationally in my body when I know I need some more support in moving through what is coming up. Our culture has a lot of emphasis lately on self-sufficiency and I touch on how to know when to hold something yourself and when it’s important to have support.
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#65: Difficult conversations & how to have them, being firm & kind, setting boundaries, breaking up with someone, stating your needs, and staying open
A hallmark of maturity is being able to have hard conversations. In this episode I give a few different examples from my own life and break down how exactly I approached each person. I talk about being firm and kind, the perspective to take when having a conversation like this with someone, what to do before and during the conversation to make sure it goes as well as possible, and the importance of telling the truth. I also talk about what happens when we grow up with a lot of good girl conditioning and how we can swing the pendulum to being too intense, and how to find the balance in the center.
#64: Praise in relationships, thanking your partner, what if your partner doesn't thank you, how we include this in our marriage, & praise as a valid need
We all need words of affirmation, even if (and sometimes especially when) we don't think we do. Jordan & I talk about how we praise each other in our marriage. For me, gratitude and sharing it out loud was not innate, and I share how I learned it from Jordan and how I relate to it, and Jordan shares how it feels for him. We talk about what to do when your partner is resistant or says "you shouldn't need that." Praise, thanks, and gratitude are some of the best ways to make your relationship stronger and more resilient in the long run.
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#63: Choosing a word for the year, what I learned about “wealth” being my word for 2022, navigating the unknown, my relationship with my work and what really matters to me, writing a book, & life playing chess
Every year I choose a word to symbolize the energy and theme of the year. This word isn’t really a conscious choice so much as it is the word that feels most true, what life is asking me to learn about. My word for this year was Wealth, and I talked about what I gained and what I lost, reorienting to what matters most to me and how I will want to have lived when it’s time for me to go. I also touch on how to choose your own word for the year and how to use this as a tool to examine your life.
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Your business podcast came to me EXACTLY when I needed it. I really needed that message. So grateful! Thanks so much for putting this out there. 🧡🧡