The Gender Reveal Party - The Real Reveal Podcast

Jay Pryor
The Gender Reveal Party - The Real Reveal Podcast

NEW GENDER REVEAL EVERY WEEK Each week we release a new video interview with another human being that has something to say about gender. Our goal is for our audience to understand that gender is a construct that was all made up and it’s way more fluid than any of us can fathom. Penises and vulvae are sex parts, not gender. Gender and genitals are NOT the same thing. These weekly stories are about gender reveal.

  1. 2023-07-24

    The Real Reveal: The Believe in Better Project Podcast - Trans Forming Healthcare

    I have worked with Hailey Sault as their executive coach for many years. Mike Seyfer is one of the few CEO’s I’ve met that consistently walks his commitment to equity, and he uses his privileged voice to keep showing up for marginalized humans on this planet.   It has been my honor to speak at the “Believe in Better” events hosted by Hailey Sault, and it was again my honor to sit down with Mike and the ever-powerful Ann Elkins to shine some light on Transgender humans and their experience with healthcare in the United States.   One of the most frustrating parts of being a transgender human is that our experience is not validated in the world. I can’t tell you how many times something blatant has happened to me and when I share with others what I hear back is, “really!!! That happened to you, I just can’t believe it” Yes Really!   Yes Really, it took me four times of being told directly, “we don’t work with transgender people” or “those people” before I found someone willing to be my GP.   Really, we were told by three fertility clinics that they wouldn’t work with us.  Really, when I was advocating for a young transman that had 16 cysts in his ovaries…. Really, it took him bleeding for months of pain before a Dr. would give him a prescription for a medically necessary hysterectomy. A surgery he wanted anyway.   And yes, Really when he finally got to the hospital for said hysterectomy, the surgeon refused to perform the surgery because “she” might want to have babies someday.   Instead that surgeon inserted an IUD adding to the pain of the young transman.   And then yes Really, it took me calling every gynecologist in town to get someone willing to see him and then finally take care of him the wat he should have been taken care of in the beginning.   For transgender humans to get good healthcare in our country, it always takes extra work, extra time, and extra money. Part of systemic discrimination is putting barriers up for access to the basic necessities of life--knowing that people will just give up when it’s too hard or too scary. Transmen have a higher rate of ovarian cancer than most cis gender humans. This is due, in part, because many transmen, butches and masculine expressed non binary humans are not interested in the humiliation that comes with their legs in stirrups. Not to mention how uncomfortable it is to go to the office and then potentially be treated like a freak. The last time I went in for a pap smear, I had to remind the nurse to give me a gown because the look of me had her so befuddled she forgot what I was there for.   All this to say we have a long way to go to make safe spaces for all humans especially in the area of healthcare and it I am grateful to Mike Seyfer, Ann Elkins and the whole Hailey Sault team for their consistent action toward their commitment to their mission of creating a healthy world for all people.   I hope you enjoy this podcast episode of the Believe in Better Podcast and keep following their work. These days we have to be very conscious of what we focus on. The truth is, there is more good happening in the world than bad; we just can’t see it because the bad gets all the press. Knowing that what we focus on always expands, it’s a perfect time to start focusing on Believe in Better.

    48 min
  2. 2023-06-26

    The Real Reveal with Brandon Eiseman aka Deja Brooks

    You can't talk about gender and the queer community without talking about drag. In fact, if you don't know this, the queer movement was started at a bar in New York City called Stonewall. Stonewall was a riot that happened when the police had continually broken and busted into this bar and arrested people over and over and over again. These people were being brutalized back then; you couldn't even wear a piece of clothing that was the opposite gender without possibly getting arrested for that and so finally these people decided that they had had enough and they fought back. We honor our trans women, drag queens, and butches every year when we celebrate Pride, when we celebrate the beginning of this movement but all the time drag is something that's important to this community and has a rich, rich history. When I first moved back to Lawrence, Kansas I started hearing about this human and this drag queen by the name of Deja Brooks. I soon found out that Deja Brooks aka Brandon Eiseman has become a community fixture. She's a leader in our community, people look to her, and invite her places to help them promote things. It's pretty cool that this young human has turned drag into something that our community loves, that our community appreciates and now that our community has had exposure to in a powerful way. Anytime that I witness him performing and the way that our town responds to him, it blows my mind because I know that what that means is that it makes space for those younger people. So I honor him and I honor his work and once again, I thank him and all my friends for coming and sharing their stories.

    54 min
  3. 2023-04-27

    The Real Reveal with Rachel Cornwell

    I want to welcome my good friend and Pastor of my former church Rev. Rachel Cornwell, who is the Pastor at Dumbarton UMC in Washington, D.C. In an environment where transgender and gender-diverse children are being targeted for political purposes, Rev. Rachel Cornwell, a Methodist pastor and mother of a transgender son, has written a beautiful and helpful book for parents looking for guidance and hope that all children are going to be OK. Rachel shares her journey as a parent of a transgender child, the story of her son exploring his gender at age five and she reads a poem out of her new book, Daring Adventures: Helping Gender-Diverse Kids and Their Families Thrive. You can purchase her book, Daring Adventures here: https://actapublications.com/daring-adventures-helping-gender-diverse-kids-and-their-families-thrive/Find Rachel on Facebook here: https://www.facebook.com/rachelacornwellFor book readings and events, follow the Daring Adventures Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100089039545283 Show your support for these conversations and have the opportunity to join them here: ⁠https://patreon.com/thegenderrevealparty⁠ Each week a new episode will be released with another human being that has something to say about gender. My goal is to convey that gender is a construct that was all made up and it’s way more fluid than any of us can fathom. Gender and genitals are NOT the same thing. These weekly stories are about gender reveal.  I hope that you will soak up the stories of our guests and share them with an intention to educate others and love the differences. It’s been my calling for years to love the transphobia out of our human systems.  Thanks for sharing in my purpose.

    34 min

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NEW GENDER REVEAL EVERY WEEK Each week we release a new video interview with another human being that has something to say about gender. Our goal is for our audience to understand that gender is a construct that was all made up and it’s way more fluid than any of us can fathom. Penises and vulvae are sex parts, not gender. Gender and genitals are NOT the same thing. These weekly stories are about gender reveal.

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