The Mask of "Fine": Cea Sunrise Person on Why Teens Hide the Truth

When your teenager says "I'm fine" but your gut tells you otherwise, you aren't imagining it.

In this episode, Dr. Suzanne Simpson sits down with Cea Sunrise Person, bestselling author of North of Normal and Nearly Normal, to talk about the "mask" - the survival strategy many kids use to hide a chaotic or painful home life from the adults around them.

Cea grew up off-the-grid in a teepee, moved to a city at 13, and became a high-fashion model in Europe. Behind that success was a child who had become a master at performing "normal" to keep her secrets safe. Her story is one parents and educators need to hear.

In this conversation:

• Why the "good girl" who never causes trouble is often carrying the most
• How social media trains today's teens to perform and hide every single day
• Warning signs: extreme people-pleasing and not wanting to go home
• How to respond when your child says "I'm fine" and you know they aren't
• The power of being a "sponge" for your child's pain instead of trying to fix it

A key takeaway from this episode: kids don't struggle in adult life because they went through trauma as children. They struggle because they went through it alone.

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