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Abby (gratitude warrior & life coach) & Ryan (energy healer and artist) have an ongoingconversation about personal development, emotional wellness, and how to take cues from our bodies, minds, and experiences to find opportunities to grow as human beings.We share nuggets from our own journeys and coach each other towards wholeness andhealing, in hopes that our audience will take our invitation to grow alongside us.

True North with Abby & Ryan Abby & Ryan

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Abby (gratitude warrior & life coach) & Ryan (energy healer and artist) have an ongoingconversation about personal development, emotional wellness, and how to take cues from our bodies, minds, and experiences to find opportunities to grow as human beings.We share nuggets from our own journeys and coach each other towards wholeness andhealing, in hopes that our audience will take our invitation to grow alongside us.

    Abby & Ryan Get True Northy

    Abby & Ryan Get True Northy

    Abby brings the questions and we ruminate on True Northy stuff.

    "Forgive and forget" needs to be replaced by "Forgive and set boundaries." It's less catchy but man does it work better.

    "An eye for an eye" (e.g. death penalty for murderers) is a terrible way to handle wrongdoing.

    "My job in the life of those I love is to make it safe for them to find their own way, without any undue pressure from anyone - including me."  -Ryan's Uncle

    "Insist on yourself." -Ralph Waldo Emerson

    "All your time is free time; you're always free to do what you please. Sometimes, what pleases you most is fulfilling your commitments or taking care of others." - Ryan's Spirit Guide

    What's something from today you'd like to take into tomorrow? That's what you're grateful for.

    TIME CODES:
    3:13 - Which is more important: Actions or Intentions?
    6:11 - Which is more important: Justice (accountability & boundaries) or Forgiveness?
    21:14 - Kellsterrrrrrr heard "Bowser"
    21:39 - Can empathy be taught?
    50:50 - Who is your Wayfinder?
     
     GRATITUDES:
    Ryan is grateful that he burned his hand with 400-degree bacon grease.Abby is grateful that she's able to teach educators about the true power of gratitude.
     MODEETS:
    Join our tribe at patreon.com/truenorth11Get life coaching from Abby at IndigoCoaching.netCatch Ryan on TikTok at @the_holistic_mysticWatch us at TinyURL.com/TrueNorth11YouTubeEmail us at hello@truenorth11.comStalk us at truenorth11.com
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    • 1 hr 7 min
    Abby & Ryan Advise Their Past Selves

    Abby & Ryan Advise Their Past Selves

    The game is simple. Ryan rolls 5 dice, and both of them reveal what they would say if they could talk to the people they were at the age shown on the dice.

    Also Ryan can't #math.

    AGES:
    2:48 - Age 17
    13:00 - Age 23
    24:29 - Age 12
    42:22 - Age 15

    Fun twist ending: Look yourself in the mirror and tell your present self all the things you told these past versions of yourself.

    GRATITUDES:
    Abby is grateful that she went through darkness by which she can understand the light.Ryan is grateful for the people who have responded well to him bringing stuff up he was worried would start fights.
    MODEETS:
    Join our tribe at patreon.com/truenorth11Get life coaching from Abby at IndigoCoaching.netCatch Ryan on TikTok at @the_holistic_mysticWatch us at TinyURL.com/TrueNorth11YouTubeEmail us at hello@truenorth11.comStalk us at truenorth11.com
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    • 1 hr 2 min
    Can People Change?

    Can People Change?

     There's no such thing as "Capital-T Trauma." Emotional trauma is simply any experience that drives us to deny parts of ourselves for the sake of staying safe.

    Alexithymia (not feeling our feelings) can be attributed to trauma: we have experiences that drive us to close and lock doors in our "mansions of self," but in doing so, we lock away our access to the emotions attached to those experiences.
     
    Can we change??
    Conditioning/programming? Ryan says no, Abby says yes. Ryan eventually says maybe.Actions/behaviors? Abby & Ryan agree that we can absolutely change those.Nature vs. Nurture. The stuff we can change is nurture, but we mistake a LOT of nurture stuff for nature stuff.
    The Transtheoretical Change Model
    Pre-contemplation (unconscious incompetence) - Grief: DenialContemplation (conscious incompetence A) - Grief: AngerPreparation (conscious incompetence B) - Grief: BargainingAction (conscious competence) - Grief: DepressionMaintenance (unconscious competence) - Grief: Acceptance
    When you're an adult working through this cycle, your inner traumatized child has already gone through it (the trauma was the first change cycle), and is in maintenance mode. The change cycle you go through as an adult is the process of healing from the part of you that's in maintenance mode.


    GRATITUDES:
    Ryan is grateful that Abby gave him clarity on his message during this episode.Abby is grateful for the people in her life who give her opportunities to practice choosing to be her best self.
    TIME CODES:
    3:00 - Body Tests
    7:15 - Alexithymia & Trauma
    18:21 - Can people really change?
    45:40 - The Transtheoretical Model of Behavior Change
       
     MODEETS:
    Join our tribe at patreon.com/truenorth11Get life coaching from Abby at IndigoCoaching.netCatch Ryan on TikTok at @the_holistic_mysticWatch us at TinyURL.com/TrueNorth11YouTubeEmail us at hello@truenorth11.comStalk us at truenorth11.com
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    • 1 hr 13 min
    Abby Refines Her True North

    Abby Refines Her True North

    **ANNOUNCEMENT: We are doing a virtual event!!**
      "The Art of Dropping Your Defenses: Reframing Your Relationship With Your Armor"
      Saturday, October 2, from 1:11 to 4pm CST
      $35. Register at truenorth11.com/the-art-of-dropping-your-defenses
     
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    ** 'NOTHER ANNOUNCEMENT: Abby is leaving the True North Tribe**
     
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    Following your True North means frequently realigning to make sure you're still headed toward your True North. This can mean letting go of things that served you when you started them, but which don't serve you now. 
     
    When reevaluating your commitments/agreements, ask yourself WHY you made them, and WHY you're still choosing to keep them. Ideally...
    ...you'll say yes to things only because they align with you....you'll say no to things only because they don't align with you.
    If the answer is something else, ask yourself if you really need to continue keeping that commitment, and ask what it would look like to leave it behind and create space for things that are more aligned with you.


    GRATITUDES:
    Abby is grateful for her father-in-law.Ryan is grateful that Abby continues to show up with her raw self.  
     MODEETS:
    Register for our live event at truenorth11.comJoin our tribe at patreon.com/truenorth11Get life coaching from Abby at IndigoCoaching.netCatch Ryan on TikTok at @the_holistic_mysticWatch us at TinyURL.com/TrueNorth11YouTubeEmail us at hello@truenorth11.com
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    • 1 hr 4 min
    Boundaries vs. Censorship

    Boundaries vs. Censorship

    **ANNOUNCEMENT: We are doing a virtual event!!**
     "The Art of Dropping Your Defenses: Reframing Your Relationship With Your Armor"
     Saturday, October 2, from 1:11 to 4pm CST
     $35. Register at truenorth11.com/the-art-of-dropping-your-defenses
     
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    'Nother announcement: Ryan's audio is still bad. Boo.

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    Question from a Tribe member: "Perhaps censorship is when you feel forced to censor you speech/actions from an external source (like someone else is shutting you down) and a boundary is when you choose for yourself not to engage?" 
     
    Censorship is controlling what others are allowed to put out.
    Setting boundaries is managing what you allow yourself to take in.

    Boundaries aren't a control mechanism because people always have the option to ignore them. No one is being robbed of their autonomy.

    "No one can make you feel inferior without your consent" -Eleanor Roosevelt



    GRATITUDES:
    Ryan is grateful for our newest tribe member, whose timing represents a fresh start in his mind.Abby is grateful for the people in her life who are willing to tell her how they feel, even if they anticipate she won't react in love and light.
    TIME CODES:
    1:11 - Question of the episode
    6:56 - Boundaries in relationships
    20:45 - Why boundaries aren't censorship
    28:58 - When is it okay to censor people?
    44:19 - Is it toxic or are you just offended?
     
     MODEETS:
    Register for our live event at truenorth11.comJoin our tribe at patreon.com/truenorth11Get life coaching from Abby at IndigoCoaching.netCatch Ryan on TikTok at @the_holistic_mysticWatch us at TinyURL.com/TrueNorth11YouTubeEmail us at hello@truenorth11.com
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    • 1 hr 10 min
    Self Acceptance, Systemic Misogyny, Sharing Our Stories

    Self Acceptance, Systemic Misogyny, Sharing Our Stories

    **ANNOUNCEMENT: We are doing a virtual event!!**
    "The Art of Dropping Your Defenses: Reframing Your Relationship With Your Armor"
    Saturday, October 2, from 1:11 to 4pm CST
    $35. Register at truenorth11.com/the-art-of-dropping-your-defenses

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    Also, Ryan's audio is bad cause computers and software are rude.

    QUESTION:
    a) What's a part of yourself you have difficulty accepting?
    b) What part of yourself do you have no problem accepting?

    RYAN:
    a) The parts of me that demonstrate I still have growing to do (TikTok example: https://vm.tiktok.com/ZMRCw1cxB/)

    ABBY:
    a) The part of me that has influence on others and makes a positive difference
    b) The part of me that's a pillar of strength for those going through difficulty


    How do we balance between meeting people where they are and letting them be where they are on their own personal journey, and speaking up to create a world you believe is in everyone's highest good? One seems to demand staying out of other people's way and releasing what's out of our control, and the other seems to demand exerting control over others if we perceive they're headed toward harming themselves or others. Where do we draw the line in terms of imposing our "shoulds" on others to prevent them from causing harm?

    "The shortest distance between two people is a story" -Patti Digh

    GRATITUDES:
    Ryan is grateful for Cathy Cassani-Adams' new book, Zen Parenting: Caring for Ourselves and Our Children in an Unpredictable World. Pre-order here: https://found.ee/ZenParentingAbby is grateful that we live in a world where all these social justice conversations are even happening
    TIME CODES:
    1:43 - Question of the Episode
    5:54 - Men making the world unsafe for women
    23:55 - Abby pokes at why Ryan spoke up
    43:03 - Start with your story and go from there
     
     MODEETS:
    Register for our live event at truenorth11.comJoin our tribe at patreon.com/truenorth11Get life coaching from Abby at IndigoCoaching.netCatch Ryan on TikTok at @the_holistic_mysticWatch us at TinyURL.com/TrueNorth11YouTubeEmail us at hello@truenorth11.com
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    • 1 hr 6 min

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