Relationships matter. Do you want to know the nitty gritty of what makes a relationship work? Get your answers to relationship questions. Learn how to keep respect alive & well, because lack of respect is why people get divorced. Learn what builds trust & how to recover from infidelity, drama or codependency. Advice from psychotherapist Rhoda Sommer based on over 35 years of working with couples. www.therapyideas.net
People-pleasing In Relationships & What To Do About It
People-pleasing is all about being heavily lopsided in pleasing others as a way of gaining their approval & maintaining relationships. People-pleasing is of course on a continuum, at work in a subordinate role & to fit in socially it is very useful. Less useful are those people-pleasers who end up erasing their authentic self in relationships. People-pleasers have to learn to make conflict & disagreement bearable because this is normal. Stop & consider that conflict increases intimacy & your relationships will be less superficial.
Sex & Sexual Desire in Long Term Relationships
Sexuality is a complex, crucial activity. Only on television where couples reach maximum orgasm easily. Our interest in sex naturally ebbs and flows over the course of a long- term relationship as we age or deal with life changes— It’s important to keep in mind that researchers have reliably found that individuals who accept these fluctuations as normal and natural are more sexually satisfied when they hit a bump.
MANIPULATION IN ALL IT'S COMPLEXITY
Everybody manipulates to get what they want, even 3 year olds. Manipulation is part of our defense system. Manipulation are ways to win, to have power & control. There are caring & acceptable ways in trying to win games or a politician trying to win votes. Negative manipulations are all about avoiding vulnerablity & having power over others to win. There is always a choice to manipulate with caring or fighting dirty.
Individualism Hurts The US in Relationships
Great relationships start with your relationship to yourself. You will be harsh with others if you are harsh with yourself. There are three parts to every relationship. There is you, your partner & the US. Learning to sacrifice in order to take care of the US is something that is not talked about enough in relationships. Individualism needs to be balanced by recognizing what's good for the US.
IN-LAW PROBLEMS & WHAT TO DO ABOUT THEM
Three out of four couples experience significant conflict with their in-laws. In-laws can help young couples or derail them on the path to relationship success. The biggest reasons for tension include in-laws giving unwanted opinions, partners taking their parents' side, and disagreements over how to discipline grandchildren.
Dating Advice To Find Success In Love
Dating is a lot of work! It is all too easy to end up discouraged & want to give up because someone else has once again not followed through & just disappeared. Family & friends often don’t appreciate how painful & difficult the process of dating can be. There is so much pressure to find the right relationship that it can be hard to look for signs the relationship is a healthy one.
Top notch advice for couples
It doesn’t get better than Rhoda Sommer when it comes to relationship advice. I started listening 2 months ago on my hikes and can’t stop. I discovered What Healthy Couples Know podcasts at a time when I really needed it. I even have my partner listening with me now. Rhoda speaks eloquently and in a way that everyone can understand. The guest speakers she has chosen are absolutely wonderful. There was only one that was a bit dry but the episode on what we can learn from gay couples had significant value. I haven’t found another podcast that offers relationship advice that compares.
Tried listen to an episode, the woman was just reading and was just overall so boring. There was some of the content that held some value, but in that format, did not even make it halfway through an 8 minute episode. Not into it. Sorry 🤷♂️