Can I Laugh On Your Shoulder‪?‬ Molly Stillman | Speaker, Author, Loud Laugher

My guest this week is Terry Crist. He is the co-lead pastor of City of Grace in Phoenix, alongside his wife, Judith. As a fifth-generation pastor, Terry is dedicated to community transformation and advocates for adoption and foster care through his involvement in state government. 
Outside of his pastoral duties, he's a passionate outdoorsman, a skilled communicator, and has shared the gospel in 65 countries. Terry and Judith have three married sons and three grandkids, and their family is dedicated to spreading the good news of Jesus.
Terry’s new book, Loving Samaritans: Radical Kindness In An Us VS. Them World, explores the transformative power of radical kindness. I am so excited to dig into the meat of his book with him today and talk about how even the smallest acts of kindness can pave the way for deeper connections and understanding. 
I know you’re going to love this one!
2:43 – Terry 101
Raised as a church kid
Falling in love with ministry
Planting 3 churches

6:38 – Faith In The Everyday World 
Why Terry felt called to write this book
The significant polarization and division in today's world
Feeling a call to live more intentionally on mission

13:02 – The Woman At The Well
The significance of this story
Jesus’ radical inclusivity
Jesus' reconciliation and healing
What is truth?
26:30 – Living On Mission Anywhere
Jesus became a neighborhood kid
The distinction between hospitality and fellowship
Being hospitable to people outside the church
Jesus’ model of loving people
38:15 – Walking In Love
Looking for traces of grace every day
Walking through the day with eyes open
Identifying everyone we meet as a neighbor
Understanding God’s love in order to love others well

FEATURED QUOTES
“I think all people have some fundamental things in common. We all want the best for ourselves and our family, we all want to be seen, we want to be heard, we want to be loved, we want to be valued, we want to be known.”
“All people are worthy of being heard. All people are worthy of hearing the truth without insult, and all people are worthy of unconditional love. Even if they don't accept our gospel, we can and should still give them our love, in the hopes that they do receive our gospel.”
“We don't need to assume that we don't have strangers around us, because we do, even in the smallest of towns. Hospitality is really opening our doors to them, just as Jesus did to us.”
“Loving people unconditionally, with strength, faithfully, enduringly, blessing our enemies, being compassionate to those who are in need, welcoming strangers- these are the practices of the gospel.”
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Learn more about Terry:
https://www.terrycrist.com/
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Terry on X
https://x.com/terrycrist
City of Grace Church
https://www.cityofgrace.com/
The Chosen Woman At The Well Scene
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ordhsDeAt60
 
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About Can I Laugh On Your Shoulder?
 
Can I Laugh On Your Shoulder? Podcast is a weekly podcast where we have honest conversations about faith, business, life, and everything in between. Hosted by speaker and author, Molly Stillman, her mission i

Julie and Chris Bennett have spent the majority of their 23 years of marriage working in vocational ministry. Through overwhelming challenges- a cancer diagnosis, a relapse, and a pandemic- they have learned how to fight for the things that matter and devote themselves to helping others do the same.
Today, they are the founders of Welcome Home Lifestyle which exists to create and promote content that celebrates all things family. Their new book Fighting For Family: The Relentless Pursuit of Building Belonging, was just released in March and is all about embracing togetherness in a time when so many suffer from loneliness.
I’m so excited to dive into the heart of their new book with you and talk about how vulnerability, intentionality, and grace play pivotal roles in nurturing healthy relationships, whether with family, chosen family, or friends.
2:50 – Chris and Julie 101
Met at 19 and married at 21 Working in ministry in Oklahoma A calling to move their family to LA Julie’s stage 3 breast cancer diagnosis Challenges after the move + writing a book 7:34 – Guided By Faith
 
Life is not linear Trusting God's plan and remembering His track record Inviting children into the journey and allowing space for emotions Relying on His guidance 16:57 – Cultivating a Healthy Family Culture
Chasing after a healthy family instead of a perfect family The greenhouse effect at home Modeling vulnerability and self-awareness as parents Remembering God’s faithfulness 28:37 – Building Belonging
The 3 commitments for healthy relationships Creating space for understanding, vulnerability, and belonging Being intentional about building relationships Connecting with Chris and Julie FEATURED QUOTES
 
“We find out what we really believe about God, not when we get answers- it's when we're tested.”
 
“The idea of a greenhouse is that no matter what is happening externally- if it's scorching heat, if it's freezing cold, if it's raining- inside that greenhouse is a culture that things can grow year-round. And so we know that our kids are being exposed to all types of things. The world we're living in is very difficult for our kids… so we've tried to create this greenhouse effect at home.”
“Remembering what God did yesterday is what gives us faith for tomorrow.”
“Belonging is not something that you find, it’s something that you bring… people are able to do that and bring belonging when we give space for not having it all together and being messy.”
Learn more about Chris and Julie:
Fighting for Family
https://www.fightingforfamily.org/
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Julie on Instagram
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Can I Laugh On Your Shoulder? Podcast is a weekly podcast where we have honest conversations about faith, business, life, and everything in between. Hosted by speaker and author, Molly Stillman, her mission is to make you laugh, cry, and laugh till you cry. She wants to create a community of people who are unafraid to be t

My guest this week is Emily Morrow who founded the social media channel Really Very Crunchy with her husband, Jason, in 2022. Since then, her platform has rapidly grown, amassing over 3 million followers and more than a billion views across various video platforms.
Emily is passionate about living a natural and sustainable lifestyle, and she uses her platform, along with her incredible sense of humor, to educate and inspire others on their journey to a healthier, toxin-free life.
Her new book, Really Very Crunchy: A Beginner's Guide to Removing Toxins from Your Life Without Adding Them to Your Personality, is now available wherever books are sold, with her upcoming children's book, Little Helper, Big Imagination, set to release in July 2024.
Stay tuned as we chat about her journey into crunchy living, navigating the comparison trap, the power of small changes, and so much more. I absolutely loved getting to know Emily and hope this conversation leaves you smiling and feeling inspired!
1:45 – Emily 101
Emily’s new book release
A mom of two boys
Moving to South Korea
Falling into content creation
15:52 – The Crunchy Journey
How Emily started making healthy lifestyle changes
Finding what works for your family
Creating relatable, non-judgemental content online
Navigating feedback and perception along the way

26:28 – Crunchy Living in Practice
 How family members have supported this lifestyle
What crunchiness looks like on a day-to-day for Emily’s family
Universal childhood experiences

37:51 – Takeaways
Focusing on what’s best for your family
Making realistic lifestyle changes for you
Connecting with Emily

FEATURED QUOTES
“If you can't make all the changes, choose one thing…It doesn't have to be this big, extreme, and scary thing. You can make little changes.”
“I hope that people are able to resist falling into a comparison trap. Honestly, I hope that people realize the only person they have to convince that they're doing their best is themselves.”
 
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About Can I Laugh On Your Shoulder?
 
Can I Laugh On Your Shoulder? Podcast is a weekly podcast where we have honest conversations about faith, business, life, and everything in between. Hosted by speaker and author, Molly Stillman, her mission is to make you laugh, cry, and laugh till you cry. She wants to create a community of people who are unafraid to be themselves and have honest conversations about the things that matter most. Her vision is to create a safe space for people to explore their faith and share their stories and gifts with the world.
Learn more about Emily:
https://www.reallyverycrunchy.com/
Get your copy of Really Very Crunchy
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In today’s episode, I’m joined by the remarkable Ryan George. Ryan is the author of the book, Hurt and Healed by the Church: Redemption and Reconstruction After Spiritual Abuse. 
He spent the first 20 years of his life in a cult, attending a series of independent fundamental Baptist (IFB) churches, including one where his dad was a pastor with ultimate authority. Later in life, Ryan was confronted with the devastating truth of his father's serial sexual abuse.
Despite the trauma he experienced, Ryan didn't abandon his faith. After leaving the spiritually abusive IFB movement, he embarked on a 25-year journey of reevaluation and reconstruction. Today, through his blog, books, interviews, and spiritual adventure company, Dude Group, Ryan offers hope for those navigating their own paths of healing. 
I do want to warn our listeners that this episode focuses on sensitive subjects like church hurt and sexual abuse. However, Ryan’s story is so powerful, and filled with hope, compassion, and healing. 

2:48 – Ryan 101
Oldest of six homeschooled children + a pastor’s son
Husband and adoptive father
Adventurer and blogger
Author of 3 books

6:51 – The Path To Healing 
Discovering his father’s abuse
Navigating the aftermath
Sharing his story to help others

18:16 – Jesus’ Model Of Justice
Jesus as a model for handling anger and betrayal
Pursuing justice with compassion
Seeking Heaven on Earth

33:31 – Finding The Real Jesus 
What identifies a cult from a healthy church environment 
Ryan’s experience with IFB churches
Seeking out the authentic Jesus 
Recognizing that churches have both moments of beauty and moments of failure

54:54 – Takeaways
Being the person that confesses first
Podcast recording stories
Connecting with Ryan

FEATURED QUOTES
"Wounds from relationships are only healed in relationships... And I think that wounds from the church can only be healed not necessarily in a church building, but by people who also love Jesus."
 
“Give people the gift of going second... You have to start with yourself, or it can spin in some very horrible places. You become a bomb thrower…. I want to be the person that confesses first, so that people go, ‘Oh, that’s the real thing.’”
 
Learn more about Ryan:
Instagram:
https://www.booksbyryan.com/
Facebook:
https://www.facebook.com/ryan.george
Ryan’s Website
https://www.booksbyryan.com/
Check out Ryan’s books:
https://www.booksbyryan.com/books/
Explorience:
https://explorience.org/about/
 
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About Can I Laugh On Your Shoulder?
Can I Laugh On Your Shoulder? Podcast is a weekly podcast where we have honest conversations about faith, business, life, and everything in between. Hosted by speaker and author, Molly Stillman, her mission is to make you laugh, cry, and laugh till you cry. She wants to create a community of people who are unafraid to be themselves and have honest conversations about the things that matter most. Her vision is to create a safe space for people to explore their faith and share their stories and gifts with the world.

Melissa Kruger serves as the Vice President of Discipleship Programming at The Gospel Coalition. As an author and Bible teacher, she regularly teaches women in her community and speaks at conferences around the country.
I’m so excited to have her on the show today to talk about her latest book, Parenting with Hope: Raising Teens For Christ in a Secular Age, and dive into the ins and outs of raising teenagers. We talk about transitioning with your children as they grow, modeling a life of faith, creating a prayerful home, and so much more.
In a culture that often implies that the teenage years are miserable and difficult, Melissa encourages parents to not overlook the beauty and joy in this chapter. Whether you're a parent, teacher, or simply someone who influences young lives, this conversation is SO important, and I can’t wait for you to hear it!
2:00 – Melissa 101
Vice President of the Gospel Coalition Mother of 3 and wife Former math teacher An unexpected path to writing 16 books 6:42 – Changing The Parenting Narrative
The negative narrative surrounding parenting teenagers and tweens Understanding the development stages of this time period Being gracious and patient with teenagers + adapting your parenting style 14:21 – The Gracious Home Vs. The Permissive Home
Setting boundaries and allowing for mistakes A lack of structure leading to negative outcomes Setting boundaries as a parent Allowing children to face consequences in a safe and supportive environment 21:25 – Parenting Through Different Stages
Transitioning parenting styles from one stage to the next Recognizing children as independent human beings Walking alongside your children as they make their own decisions Avoiding placing your identity in your children’s actions or behaviors 33:03 – Modeling Faith
Being gracious with failure as a parent Setting the example by walking with God Incorporating prayer into everyday life as a family Connecting with Melissa FEATURED QUOTES
“I think growing up with our teen in some ways, is remaining curious about who they are and not making assumptions about why they're pushing back on something.”
“I think it's really tempting as a parent sometimes to place a lot of our identity and in our teen…we start trying to control who they become, rather than walk alongside them as they're becoming who God made them to be.”
“Learning how to make a mistake is actually a life lesson.”
“I always say aim for patterns, not perfection.”
 
Learn more about Melissa:
https://melissabkruger.com/
Get your copy of Parenting with Hope
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The Gospel Coalition
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About Can I Laugh On Your Shoulder?
Can I Laugh On Your Shoulder? Podcast is a weekly podcast where we have honest conversations about faith, business, life, and everything in between. Hosted by speaker and author, Molly Stillman, her mission is to make you laugh, cry, and laugh till you cry. She wants to create a community of people who are unafraid to be themselves and have honest conversations about the things that matter most. Her vision is to create a safe space for people to explore their faith and share their stories and gifts with the world.

My guest this week is the lovely Myquillyn Smith, also known as The Nester. She is a New York Times and Wall Street Journal best-selling author of Welcome Home and Cozy Minimalist Home. For over a decade, she has been encouraging women to embrace imperfections and live boldly in their spaces through her blog.
Myquillyn’s home in North Carolina has been featured in publications such as Better Homes and Gardens, Ladies Home Journal, Cottages and Bungalows, and more. As a practicing imperfectionist, she believes in the power of small changes, putting nail holes in the wall, and taking the time to make a place feel like home – even if you’re renting.
I thoroughly enjoyed getting to know her, hearing her perspective on creating a space you’ll love, and learning more about her latest book, House Rules, which is set to release on April 23rd. I just know you’re going to love her too!
3:07 – Myquillyn 101
Starting “The Nester” in 2007 Learning to build a home by moving frequently Teaching universal decorating truths 9:55 – Making a Home
The perfectly staged homes seen on social media Embracing imperfection in home decor Making your space feel like you 17:45 – Establishing Roots Where You Are
Taking ownership of your space, even in rentals or temporary spaces The perfect circumstance will never come The power of simple changes in home design 29:06 – Design Insights
The genesis of Myquillyn’s passion for decorating Understanding design principles like scale, contrast, and lighting The Inspiration behind Myquillyn’s book, House Rules 38:39 – Embracing Imperfection
Being a practicing imperfectionist Learning to take risks in home decor and life You can’t ruin something you already hate Connecting with Myquillyn + pre-ordering House Rules FEATURED QUOTES
“I’ve never met a home I haven’t loved. I believe every home has a silver lining.”
“I 100% believe it doesn’t have to be perfect to be beautiful.”
“Where else can we take a risk if not at home?”
Learn more about Myquillyn:
Pre-order House Rules:
https://www.amazon.com/House-Rules-Decorate-Every-Budget/dp/0800744748
The Nester
https://thenester.com/
The Nester podcast
https://thenester.com/podcast/
Myquillyn on Instagram
https://www.instagram.com/thenester/?hl=en
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About Can I Laugh On Your Shoulder?
Can I Laugh On Your Shoulder? Podcast is a weekly podcast where we have honest conversations about faith, business, life, and everything in between. Hosted by speaker and author, Molly Stillman, her mission is to make you laugh, cry, and laugh till you cry. She wants to create a community of people who are unafraid to be themselves and have honest conversations about the things that matter most. Her vision is to create a safe space for people to explore their faith and share their stories and gifts with the world.